How do you go to sleep with your partner?
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I can't sleep with another person in the room. I get hyper-aware of their presence. One of the reasons I'm fine being single.
Together, for the past 11 12 years, however...
I work 7 night shifts a month, so we get the bed to ourselves on those days, which I do look forward too tbh. I snore, she's about the temperature of the sun, and the fidgeting drives me insane.
When I'm ill, I sleep separately mainly out of respect and also so I can recover quicker and/or cover the pillows in menthol based breathing aids.
I work 7 night shifts a month, so we get the bed to ourselves on those days, which I do look forward too tbh. I snore, she's about the temperature of the sun, and the fidgeting drives me insane.
When I'm ill, I sleep separately mainly out of respect and also so I can recover quicker and/or cover the pillows in menthol based breathing aids.
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33yrs married, separate rooms, different bed times, cannot sleep with her as she is like a hot water bottle and farts to much
Kinda surprised how common this seems to be here.
Super king size bed and it's effectively like I sleep alone anyway cos we have plenty of space. Not sure I would want separate rooms. Seems a bit odd to me but then I'm in the minority it seems!
Super king size bed and it's effectively like I sleep alone anyway cos we have plenty of space. Not sure I would want separate rooms. Seems a bit odd to me but then I'm in the minority it seems!
Ditto - super king bed works best for both space and gives loads of room for... activities...
Saying that, it's obviously still not enough space as my wife does still seem to love it when I spend the night in the spare room because one of us is ill or mismatch of sleeping schedules
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Same bed and go at the same time. I think that's the healthy approach, but I expect it varies for others.
Presently me and the Wife alternate sleeping in the spare room, as our 4 year old is going through a sleep phase at the moment; gone are the 8-12 hours nights she's been putting in since 4 months.... now she wakes anywhere from 12AM to 3AM! It's just been easier to put her in our bed, otherwise we all get a poor night's sleep.
Pre all this palarva, we would be in the same bed - unless I really snored, or one of us was ill and likely to keep the other up. Much as I'm sure she'd love to fall asleep in each others arms, women just run too hot in bed for that
Pre all this palarva, we would be in the same bed - unless I really snored, or one of us was ill and likely to keep the other up. Much as I'm sure she'd love to fall asleep in each others arms, women just run too hot in bed for that
I had no idea so many people don't sleep in the same bed..
From our social circles it's incredibly rare as well, in fact the UK average is 12% (varies by region)..
So we have a complete hot spot here..
I'm lucky, the Mrs and I can sleep through nearly anything, I fall asleep to a podcast which helps my brain switch off and quietens the tinnitus and we both put up with the odd bout of snoring, it has to be really bad before we'll crash in the spare room..
From our social circles it's incredibly rare as well, in fact the UK average is 12% (varies by region)..
So we have a complete hot spot here..
I'm lucky, the Mrs and I can sleep through nearly anything, I fall asleep to a podcast which helps my brain switch off and quietens the tinnitus and we both put up with the odd bout of snoring, it has to be really bad before we'll crash in the spare room..
Been married now for 34 years, in the early days it was mostly bedtime together.
Changed a bit with the arrival of bambinos.
But for many years now my wife prefers to go to bed around 20:00, mainly as she get up quite early.
I have always preferred to got to bed between 23:00-00:00.
We have never slept separately apart from when i was on deployment/exercises or been on work related visits to customers.
Changed a bit with the arrival of bambinos.
But for many years now my wife prefers to go to bed around 20:00, mainly as she get up quite early.
I have always preferred to got to bed between 23:00-00:00.
We have never slept separately apart from when i was on deployment/exercises or been on work related visits to customers.
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I remember my grandparents sleeping in separate rooms. It was nothing to do with their relationship or anything, it was that my grandad had been a milkman all his working life. His sleep pattern as a milkman was weird, about 8pm till 2am. He did it for so long he couldn’t get out of it for the rest of his life. Was on his first cup of tea by 3am every morning. In the end my Nan couldn’t suffer it any more, so they slept apart.
Aye, nought wrong with separate bedrooms but I suppose this is a gradual maturation of the relationship and individual needs and health. When young, was in the same bed and it drove me nuts as I worked in town and was often up early while she required a TV to be on AND snored. Fortunately, we are now in separate beds, some 4000 miles apart. The bliss.
Same bed, same time.
I tend to get out of bed before her but that's about it.
The only time we didn't was years ago when she was doing nightshifts and later when I had a two hour plus commute to be in work by 730, I'd always be in bed earlier.
I tend to get out of bed before her but that's about it.
The only time we didn't was years ago when she was doing nightshifts and later when I had a two hour plus commute to be in work by 730, I'd always be in bed earlier.
