How many of you have GFs who hang round their ex?

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Been seeing the new GF for a few months now and all is going well so its not a relationship thread as such! I just wondered how many people had GFs that still were great friends with their ex? I've never had this before so its new to me! How do other people feel about it?

Just speaking to her earlier and her ex has got himself a new flat and he wants her to come up and visit, cook her a meal, stay for the night, etc. Would others see this as normal or would they feel a little uneasy? She doesnt have the best track record in the world with cheating as I knew her at uni!! But after a 2 year gap she seemed to have changed and when we met up a few months back and then it all kinda happened!

Suppose it's just niggling me in the back of my mind about how she used to be! Despite my friends saying people dont change, I believe people can for the better!

*Wait until the real relationship thread next month when I write about how my friends were correct lol :D *
 
number41 said:
Just speaking to her earlier and her ex has got himself a new flat and he wants her to come up and visit, cook her a meal, stay for the night, etc. Would others see this as normal or would they feel a little uneasy?
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Being friends is common, my wife is friends with ex's and we all get on fine but ^^sounds a bit strange if it's only the 2 of them. Would others mates be going along too?
 
There will be soft lighting, some wine, drunken fun, and then he'll try doing her, I know I would!

Unless I'd dumped her..
 
Definately not, he wants some luvin'.

If she was genuinely not interested, she'd either be concerned he'd asked her to stop the night and tell you, or she'd tell him that she'll go, but not stop the night and then still tell you.
 
I can give you it from the other perspective, I have ex's round who I'm still good friends with and stay the night, and nothing happens.

Hmm....that sounds dodgy...but yes, you can remain good friends with an ex and not shag her brains out everytime shes over. :)
 
number41 said:
Been seeing the new GF for a few months now and all is going well so its not a relationship thread as such! I just wondered how many people had GFs that still were great friends with their ex? I've never had this before so its new to me! How do other people feel about it?
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It's perfectly fine... i'm friends with my ex, it's normal for a lot of people, anc can be perfectly innocent. However...

Just speaking to her earlier and her ex has got himself a new flat and he wants her to come up and visit, cook her a meal, stay for the night, etc. Would others see this as normal or would they feel a little uneasy?
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Is it Ok for her to stay around her ex's apartment, just the two of them, while she is seeing you? Do you really need to ask this question? And what's more, if she thinks it's ok to do this then she shouldn't be in a relationship either. I'd be putting my foot firmly down and telling her if she stays round his then there's going to be trouble, because that is crossing the line, and I don't know many sane men that would be comfortable with that, especially when you know she has a shoddy history.
 
Its like hes showin her his flat to impress her to get her back? Sorry but thats what i think.

And my gf used to walk home from collage with her X. I once phoned her and she was with him. Diddnt even feel jelouse tho cos she was only walking home.

And she has another X on MSN, but i really hate that :(

If my gf went round his flat tho, and stayed the night, against my will, she will be dumped. COS IT AINT RIGHT.
 
agw_01 said:
Sounds a bit dodgy to me.

I certainly wouldn't be happy if my girlfriend went and spent the night at her ex's place.
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Me too, but only 'cause she is always telling me how she doesn't like her most recent ex. etc. so it'd be rather strange. As for her guys before him, meh I've never heard much about them so it's all fine.

I used to be best mates with one of my ex's during college, whilst I had a girlfriend, the girlfriend didn't seem to impressed when I went with my mate to get her nipple pierced. :p
Never cheated or even thought about it though.

Trust her, it's the only way to find out if she is loyal to you. :)

InvG
 
Camalot said:
If my gf went round his flat tho, and stayed the night, against my will, she will be dumped. COS IT AINT RIGHT.
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How about if she wanted to get a job, or heaven forbid, vote?! Would you also dump her then?
 
The fact that she openly told you about it bodes well in my opinion, it seems to suggest that she doesn't have any bad intentions (even if he does then that shouldn't be a problem assuming you can trust her).

That said, you might want to check if the ex's new flat is a one bedroom place ;)
 
Bill Door said:
The fact that she openly told you about it bodes well in my opinion, it seems to suggest that she doesn't have any bad intentions (even if he does then that shouldn't be a problem assuming you can trust her).
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Exactly.

To be honest, if you have to ask, you don't trust her, which is never good. I've always trusted my girlfriends and nothings happend, but then I seem to have this power to make them only want me...which I can't understand...I wouldn't want me :p

InvG
 
InvaderGIR said:
Exactly.

To be honest, if you have to ask, you don't trust her, which is never good. I've always trusted my girlfriends and nothings happend, but then I seem to have this power to make them only want me...which I can't understand...I wouldn't want me :p

InvG
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Alpha Male ;)
 
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