How many of you have GFs who hang round their ex?

I'm good friends with my ex. I admit it would be a bit wierd at first, but as long as she can behave responsibly and earn your trust then it should all be fine. It depends how over him she is.
 
My ex used to travel down to London to see her ex. My response? Meh... I trusted her. If she was going to cheat there was nothing I could do to stop it. I certainly wasn't going to be a complete tit about her right to speak to who she likes.

Therefore to answer - it never caused any problems in the relationship.
 
Hellsmk2 said:
My ex used to travel down to London to see her ex. My response? Meh... I trusted her. If she was going to cheat there was nothing I could do to stop it. I certainly wasn't going to be a complete tit about her right to speak to who she likes.

Therefore to answer - it never caused any problems in the relationship.
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Sound like a sound guy. If she's going to cheat with on you with her ex boyfriend, she might jus cheat on you with some random guy on a night out? Basically, if she's going to cheat, she's going to cheat.

I'm still proper good friends with my ex and i'd hate it if she started seeing some guy who said she couldn't see me because he was too insecure to deal with it.

As for staying the night, i do not know. He could just want one of those evenings where they can just watch a film and eat popcorn. Nothing sinister. Its hard, but if you can let her go to her ex's and she does cheat? On some level, wouldn't you feel better that she had done this now and not in 6 months time?

Johnny Girth said:
Get rid of her now. Cheater + staying at ex's for a "cooked meal" = not a chance.
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Woah? Steady on there Girthy.
 
Why would he want her to stay over, can't see the new flat asleep can she?

If you want someone to see your new place then you invite them over for an hour or so, not the night!

If you're having to ask people's opinions on this, then you're obviously uneasy and you need to tell her how you feel. You'll only spend the whole time wondering what they are getting up to and you'll still feel uncomfortable when she gets back.

If my Mrs told me she was going to stay over at an ex's, then I'd be packing her bags for her and taking the house key off her! - Might sound harsh, but I've been through the whole being cheated on thing with one of her "friends".
 
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number you should offer to go with her, start talking about which wine you two should bring before she can object ;)
 
Im going through pretty much the same shindig with the new misses at the moment, only spanner in the works being her ex told her he still has feelings for her the day after she told him we were taking things further...Oh did I mention he still has a gf lol??

So yeah, she still wants to hang out with him over the summer which is cool with me I guess, Im not gonna dictate who she can and cant see...Although I have to admit it doesnt exactly make me the most comfortable Ive ever been. I trust her, I mean she has always been open about it all and even offered to only see him with other friends around too, but again wouldnt want to stop her doing anything she didnt want. Its the **** of an ex I dont trust lol, but I guess that will always be the case...so I guess my advice will just be take it with the biggest pinch of salt that you can. Tough I know, but to be honest...what else can you do?
 
number41 said:
Just speaking to her earlier and her ex has got himself a new flat and he wants her to come up and visit, cook her a meal, stay for the night, etc. Would others see this as normal or would they feel a little uneasy?
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Come on mate, thats like asking "If i hit myself over the head with an axe as hard as I could, would it hurt?".

You're a weirdo for even asking this!
 
number41 said:
Just speaking to her earlier and her ex has got himself a new flat and he wants her to come up and visit, cook her a meal, stay for the night, etc.
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That would definitely make me feel very uneasy and I would not let her go tbh, unless there are others staying.
 
Arthur_Jay said:
Its the **** of an ex I dont trust lol, but I guess that will always be the case...so I guess my advice will just be take it with the biggest pinch of salt that you can. Tough I know, but to be honest...what else can you do?
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It's amazing what some blokes are willing to put up with, does pride or self-respect never come into it? :confused:

At the end of the day if you're really not comfortable with something don't put up with it!
 
Homeboy listen man and listen good. Letting her go is TOTALLY wrong. The following facts makes it a no no. She dont have a clean record like you said, It is her ex we are talking about for **** sake, no man would consider such move from their GF plus the fact that you had to ask in here shows that you dont feel easy/right about the whole thing.

Let her know you dont want her to go and if she goes, go find another women out there. (there are more females in the uk than males) goodluck. :)

PS
If i was the ex, i would be doing push ups with my manhood in readoness for tonight marathon with your GF.
 
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Make no mistake, within 20 minutes of her getting there he's going to be popping the cork on the Asti and putting on his ploughing boots!
 
Wang said:
Make no mistake, within 20 minutes of her getting there he's going to be popping the cork on the Asti and putting on his ploughing boots!
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Yes, I have been 'the other guy' once and my intentions didn't include sleeping on the couch.

Be careful.
 
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