How many of you have GFs who hang round their ex?

Depends on the bloke and bird.

I see my ex a lot, but we are very good friends - nothing ever happens; her boyfriend dont really like it, but its only 1 every few weeks i see her, and an email or 2 every few days.

But we have been split up a fair amount of time, but from your point of view i wouldnt like it
 
I'm still really good friends with my long term ex-boyfriend. He used to come ice skating with me and my current partner and on occasion he'd even hold my hand while we were skating about (because i'm not very confident) we both knew where we stood and my partner had no issue with it at all.

There had been no nasty break up, it was a mutual thing so why not stay friends???

However I wouldn't be happy about staying at an ex's place incase it out my current relationship under strain. Its certainly a little unusual.
 
Minxy said:
I'm still really good friends with my long term ex-boyfriend. He used to come ice skating with me and my current partner and on occasion he'd even hold my hand while we were skating about (because i'm not very confident) we both knew where we stood and my partner had no issue with it at all.

There had been no nasty break up, it was a mutual thing so why not stay friends???

However I wouldn't be happy about staying at an ex's place incase it out my current relationship under strain. Its certainly a little unusual.
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As you say though, your current boyfriend is involved in your friendship with your ex, which will certainly make him feel more comfortable. It's a very different situation when the ex is kept at a distance from your current partner.
 
McDaniel said:
Depends on the bloke and bird.

I see my ex a lot, but we are very good friends - nothing ever happens; her boyfriend dont really like it, but its only 1 every few weeks i see her, and an email or 2 every few days.

But we have been split up a fair amount of time, but from your point of view i wouldnt like it
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Sounds like you'd like to slip it to her again tbh. ;)
 
I usually read the whole topic before replying, but it's been a very long day and I was about to hit my bed when I saw this. But, Jesus Christ mate, I couldn't stop thinking about being with my ex when I was visiting her. Obviously, I did not travel to another country (on my birthday of all days!) to have a shag, but there's no way I can be "friends" with my ex, ever, never.

I hope something good comes out of this, for you, I mean. :)

edit: I am not trying to make you feel bad here, I am just saying, and this could be just me, but I it's impossible to do forget about being with someone. Even if she is not really into him, she will be when they sit down the the two of them. What are they going to do? See what's on the telly? :o
 
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number41 said:
Its a long distance thing (well 1hr30 drive) so only see each other at weekends and as I'm sure others who have done the long distance thing know, during the week you're mind is always going crazy! Shes hopefully moving down to the same town as me next month which will be cool as long distance certainly sucks!
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Is she moving down to be closer to you? if so that seems like a pretty big comitment from her. Surely if she is willing to do that for you, then she isnt going to want to throw it away on one night with an ex.

Just my opinion, take it or leave it :)
 
Le_Petit_Lapin said:
I can give you it from the other perspective, I have ex's round who I'm still good friends with and stay the night, and nothing happens.
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How :confused:

InvaderGIR said:
Trust her, it's the only way to find out if she is loyal to you. :)
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Or, trust her, cue her cheating on you, and you getting paranoid with every girl you get together because of her. Not nice, now, is it?

ElRazur said:
Let her know you dont want her to go and if she goes, go find another women out there. (there are more females in the uk than males) goodluck. :)
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Spot on!
 
on the one hand i say let her go, and if shes going to cheat its going to be then... but on the other hand, stopping at the exes is just plain weird! i wouldnt be comfortable with it. i wouldnt stop her but i would tell her im not keen on the idea.

some varied opinions in this thread and i think scuzis has hit the nail on the head.
 
I all for letting my GF do what she wants and see who she wants etc. I don't tell her what to do.

But sleeping around her ex. BF house? Just no!

Luckily mine would not want to do such a think anyway, eh kate? :) ;)
 
Vixen said:
As you say though, your current boyfriend is involved in your friendship with your ex, which will certainly make him feel more comfortable. It's a very different situation when the ex is kept at a distance from your current partner.
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If there is nothing to hide then there is no reason to keep them at arms length. I'd be very suspicious if I was in this situation.
 
tbh, imho you must be a bit of a idiot *dare i say it* if you look for the acceptance on the internet to decide whether you should tell you gf stay the
night round her ex's new flat after a meal (with probably a large amount of wine). :o

if my gf said anything like that I'd go off on one and seriously discuss the point of the relationship because she even considered it :mad: I'd leave her straight up if she went and stayed.. :o
 
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