How many of you have GFs who hang round their ex?

kidloco said:
Be rather interesting to put the shoe on the other foot, tell her your staying at an ex's for the night, just for a meal and to see her new rug you understand :D
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Now you can guarantee that she wouldn't be happy one bit with that. She should consider how you would feel. Talk to her and say you don't want her to stay the night. If she still goes ahead with it then shes a... cant think of a suitable word... If she respects you, and can see how she would feel, she wont go.
 
waxapple said:
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You're right, I didn't know that. :D

Girls also know what platonic means :p

..but yeah, I agree with you.
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Busted! :(
 
I think it would depend on who the ex was, and how well I knew them. If she was someone I could talk to and trusted, then I wouldn't mind the meal, although I wouldn't be happy about staying over.
I still talk to a couple of my exs, and have gone out for meals with just them. My boyfriend is fine with it being just the two of us, because they're old friends that I don't see very often and he doesn't know, so if he came along, he'd be a third wheel. Maybe it's slightly different in that I give him the option to come with me and get to know them, and I try to do these things as a couple, rather than excluding and hiding from him.
 
number41 said:
Just speaking to her earlier and her ex has got himself a new flat and he wants her to come up and visit, cook her a meal, stay for the night, etc. Would others see this as normal or would they feel a little uneasy?
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Alarm bells would most certainly be ringing for me. In fact my ex is trying to patch things atm up and go for lunch etc and I'm not really sure what her intentions are.
 
number41 said:
Im just going to take it as it comes really. Its a long distance thing (well 1hr30 drive) so only see each other at weekends
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Then sorry mate but you're buggered, i'm 99.9% sure of it. :p
 
number41 said:
Been seeing the new GF for a few months now and all is going well so its not a relationship thread as such! I just wondered how many people had GFs that still were great friends with their ex? I've never had this before so its new to me! How do other people feel about it?

Just speaking to her earlier and her ex has got himself a new flat and he wants her to come up and visit, cook her a meal, stay for the night, etc. Would others see this as normal or would they feel a little uneasy? She doesnt have the best track record in the world with cheating as I knew her at uni!! But after a 2 year gap she seemed to have changed and when we met up a few months back and then it all kinda happened!

Suppose it's just niggling me in the back of my mind about how she used to be! Despite my friends saying people dont change, I believe people can for the better!

*Wait until the real relationship thread next month when I write about how my friends were correct lol :D *
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Sounds like a car whore to me but this ones a flat whore ! you need to get your self a bigger flat than his and maybe add some neons !
 
No matter what anyone says on this topic you're going to feel uneasy if she goes and to be honest her even suggesting it. I think you should trust your instincts more, dont let yourself be taken for a mug as you'll feel sick with yourself if you get taken for being a mug. Not sure I missed a followup post by you (the original poster) but why did they split up and who made the decision. Either way just ask her why she would want to go, spend the night with an ex rather than spend time with yourself ? I think her ex wants to "Christen" his new pad.

Just sounds very dodgy mate, dont let yourself be used.

Good luck either way.
 
i've not had this situation, BUT one of my good mates girlfriends is still on excellent terms with her ex, he has no problem with it.

My mates girlfriend and ex still go out clubbing together and the like but theres nothing more there than a friendship.

i guess it all depends on the people, has she seen/been out with him before he has asked her over.....or is it just out of the blue? if its the later then i guess i have to agree with majority here and he is just up for some bedroom action as he isnt over her.....

but if they have been good friends since then i dont see a huge problem :cool:
 
number41 said:
Been seeing the new GF for a few months now and all is going well so its not a relationship thread as such! I just wondered how many people had GFs that still were great friends with their ex? I've never had this before so its new to me! How do other people feel about it?

Just speaking to her earlier and her ex has got himself a new flat and he wants her to come up and visit, cook her a meal, stay for the night, etc. Would others see this as normal or would they feel a little uneasy? She doesnt have the best track record in the world with cheating as I knew her at uni!! But after a 2 year gap she seemed to have changed and when we met up a few months back and then it all kinda happened!

Suppose it's just niggling me in the back of my mind about how she used to be! Despite my friends saying people dont change, I believe people can for the better!

*Wait until the real relationship thread next month when I write about how my friends were correct lol :D *
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Sausage time tbh. He wants in. Is she actually going to stay at his??? And are you seriously gonna put up with it?

Similar to my situation. My ex ( :D) stayed at an exs without telling me. She also had another ex over to stay for a week coz he was in the area and they are friends now. Generally my ex has a lot of guy friends. She just says she gets on better with guys.

Normal??? ohh and we broke up because she was a control freak. X ultra high maintenance. Apart from that she was lovely...... Ive realized all women are crazy....


edit: ohh and this is the same ex of mine who wanted to bring another ex of hers on holiday with us..........:rolleyes:

p.s. i should add that this ex of mine wants to stay friends with me.... she also wants a bit more than that *cough* if you know what i mean..... should i be :D ? or should i be :( at that?
 
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Richdog said:
It's perfectly fine... i'm friends with my ex, it's normal for a lot of people, anc can be perfectly innocent. However...



Is it Ok for her to stay around her ex's apartment, just the two of them, while she is seeing you? Do you really need to ask this question? And what's more, if she thinks it's ok to do this then she shouldn't be in a relationship either. I'd be putting my foot firmly down and telling her if she stays round his then there's going to be trouble, because that is crossing the line, and I don't know many sane men that would be comfortable with that, especially when you know she has a shoddy history.
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Used to have the same, they were good friends, it was long distance with me and her and i just had to accept it, went ok still had the old jealousy but foundthat once we talked about it we were mostly cool. Then i got bored..... :p
 
The whole thing is wrong. You are not included, she doesn't need to sleep over, he is trying it on.

To the people saying you have to trust them, yea OK that is a given, but this is just letting them get away with anything. Will all be downhill from here as she thinks she can do want she wants, regardless of how it makes you feel.
 
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