How many of you have GFs who hang round their ex?

ElRazur said:
Letting her go is TOTALLY wrong. The following facts makes it a no no. She dont have a clean record like you said, It is her ex we are talking about for **** sake, no man would consider such move from their GF plus the fact that you had to ask in here shows that you dont feel easy/right about the whole thing.

Let her know you dont want her to go and if she goes, go find another women out there. (there are more females in the uk than males) goodluck. :)
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Not a chance any girl of mine would be doing that. Go see the flat? Fine. Any more than that is dodgy ground. If she's going for dinner I'm going too.
 
Jezza101 said:
Personally, Id be worried if the only reason I thought my gf was faithful was because I controlled who and where she went. Either you trust her, or you dont. If you dont trust her, and she's likely to stray - better you get it over with now rather than trying to control her for the rest of your days. Would you really be happy knowing that the only reason shes with you is because you didnt let her go be with someone else. Id rather be with someone who only wanted to be with me...


Gl :)!
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Agreed but that wont exactly apply here tbh. Would you be happy for your GF to pull such a move - sleepover at an ex? Personally, i wouldnt allow her to go (i.e tell her i aint ahppy with it) and if she respects me or see the potential problem such move could cause, she would desist. This aint about control but about simple common sense.
If am a girl, i wouldnt even think of telling my man such things.....I would just tell the ex "NO and it aint right" than come home with such a lame excuse to my BF......
 
ElRazur said:
Man, i wouldnt even wanna go to such dinner, It would be akward imo. :p
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Hey, if they're just friends then I can be friends with her friends :)

I can get on with anyone, no problem.

Then if there's any problems or awkwardness I know that there was more to it.
 
I was meeting the gf to watch a 6 nations game a while back. She called and told me her ex had called out of the blue and wanted to come along and hang out (even tho he knew I was going to be there).

Immediately suspicious, I went along with it so as not to upset anybody. it was VERY awkward - he seemed a little bit unsure of himself. Looking back i think it might have been a last ditch effort to get her back, and that he couldn't do anything because I was sitting right there.

Afterwards I told her that I thought he was a nice enough guy (which he was), but I wasn't at all comfy with the whole thing.

She apologised big time, and agreed it wasn't such a good idea. I genuinely think she hadn't thought the thing through when she ageed to let him come along. That was the last I heard or saw of the ex.

Tell your gf that you're not try trying to control her friendships or anything, but just let her know nicely that your very uncomfortable with the idea or her hanging out at his like that. It does sound a bit unhealthy, even for a trustworthy girl.

See what happens, you might find she won't want to rock the boat with you too hard. She doesn't want to loose another boyfriend.....
 
Lol didnt expect such varied replies in all honesty! Was expecting people to say "Stop being silly, its only dinner, etc" but ah well!!

El's reply made me laugh :D Im just going to take it as it comes really. Its a long distance thing (well 1hr30 drive) so only see each other at weekends and as I'm sure others who have done the long distance thing know, during the week you're mind is always going crazy! Shes hopefully moving down to the same town as me next month which will be cool as long distance certainly sucks!

I wouldnt ever find out if she cheated when at her ex's anyway as he lives 2 hours away. Its him I'm more worried about as I've been the guy before "cooking the meal" for a girl so know how some people work!! ;)
 
I take it she likes the sausage then?

No way in hell would i let my gf stay over at her exs. Put the foot down, if she does it anyway she goes in the bin. I asked my girlfriend to stop talking to her ex as i felt pretty uncomfortable with it, she agreed that she'd feel uncomfortable if i was talking to my ex so she stopped talking to him.
 
let her go :)


just arm yourself before hand :)


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this is a womens way of testing you, she wants you to stand up for yourself and say something...how good a friends can they be, if she has any brain cells she must know this would hurt you. tell he you just got a call from a girl you used to date for a while and shes invited you to show you around the city for the weekend, then tell her when you get back on monday you can go out and do something...this will make it work as she will think you have noooo clue as to what your doing, and not just playing a game.
 
Agree with most people here. I wouldn't be happy one bit, and id tell her. If she does go you will only be worrying about whats shes doing. If she IS going to cheat then she will, maybe its better to know sooner rather than later? Then again, she might not and you don't have anything to worry about.

But sounds dodgey to me... sleep over?? why?? Like someone has already said, you cant look at the flat or talk while you are asleep. If the purpose of inviting her over is just to see the flat, then she only needs to stay for a few hours... but over night? nah!
 
This thread has had me in rolling around with laughter.

PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD DONT THINK THIS IS OK!

Seriously, the whole 'can you still be friends with your ex' thing is always a hot debate. Sure I would talk to a few of my ex's if I passed them in the street, but I wouldnt invite them round for a meal and sleep the night unless I had the intention of putting on a bit barry white and kick starting the love machine :p

My word, I dont know whats worse, the bare faced cheek of the guy whos suggested it, the bloody bint whos considering it, and then has the balls to tell you ( sorry i know shes your missus ) or you for putting up with such tosh.

Be rather interesting to put the shoe on the other foot, tell her your staying at an ex's for the night, just for a meal and to see her new rug you understand :D

Trust is a wonderful thing, but there are limits, and this is one of them. its just a huge NO NO from start to finish.
 
I'd try to trust her. If she's going to cheat on you she's going to cheat on you, and there wouldn't really be anything you could do in the long run, other than try and be the best partner possible to her.

If she cheats on you, get rid of her, but acting weird because she's going to stay at a mates - ex or not, isn't going to help.

miracleboy said:
One thing to always remember.

Girls know the meaning of the word plutonic. Men don't.
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Adj. 1. plutonic - of igneous rock that has solidified beneath the earth's surface; granite or diorite or gabbro.

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You're right, I didn't know that. :D

Girls also know what platonic means :p

..but yeah, I agree with you.
 
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