But that's what has annoyed me. By her booking it off without asking me if I'd like to see her -- it's essentially making me feel obliged to see her. I can't help how I feel, and the point is I would now feel guilty about not seeing her that weekend. Was that how I planned to spend my birthday (and anniversary!) weekend? No. It's not the fact it's my birthday necessarily (trying to avoid coming across as angsty-teenager here), but any old weekend would be the same. If you make plans to see someone, the date isn't forced upon you by one party, there should be a joint decision made.It is evident that you don't generally communicate at all since she is booking your birthday off without the foggiest idea whether you're free or not.
I'm just looking for someone to agree that she's been a bit unfair about it to start with.
Question; what if my girlfriend had booked a surprise weekend away for my birthday? What if she'd even booked a surprise meal for me and my friends? (Which she has done before). My mum doesn't socialise with my circle of friends so she wouldn't want to come, so she would have booked the day off for no reason and been disappointed.Absolutely mental....there is nothing unfair or selfish about somebody going out of their way to want to see you. It's actually about one of the most selfless things she could do.
Question; what if my girlfriend had booked a surprise weekend away for my birthday? What if she'd even booked a surprise meal for me and my friends? (Which she has done before). My mum doesn't socialise with my circle of friends so she wouldn't want to come, so she would have booked the day off for no reason and been disappointed.
I think you're wrong. She's actually being quite selfish in choosing a day that is good for her and not even thinking about my wishes. Like I said, this could be said for any weekend, let alone my birthday. If she wants to see me then we should have a chat about when is good. Not her blindly dictating she wants to see me for my birthday and expecting me to agree? I can't honestly be the only one that would rather spend their birthday with girlfriend or friends?
As for being selfless, most of the time when she "wants to see me" it means travelling to hers which is a good 2.5hr journey...
Meh..
But that's what has annoyed me. By her booking it off without asking me if I'd like to see her -- it's essentially making me feel obliged to see her. I can't help how I feel, and the point is I would now feel guilty about not seeing her that weekend. Was that how I planned to spend my birthday (and anniversary!) weekend? No. It's not the fact it's my birthday necessarily (trying to avoid coming across as angsty-teenager here), but any old weekend would be the same. If you make plans to see someone, the date isn't forced upon you by one party, there should be a joint decision made.
Yes that's a rant, but I feel that's a fair way to feel about this. I'm just looking for someone to agree that she's been a bit unfair about it to start with.