How would you feel?

Ripper · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:29

So.... my girlfriend of almost 4 years has decided she wants to go away for the weekend with some mates (2 girls and 2 lads, all single). She asked me what I thought and I whilst I didn't say "No I don't want you to go" I never exactly made myself sound to keen on the idea.

Turns out she's said yes and she'll be going. We had a bit of a row this morning and I can't see myself being OK with this at all. If she goes i'll feel like **** and if she stays i'll feel like **** knowing that I'm the reason she's not going.

I trust her and I know she wouldn't do anything but I don't trust others. I'm now refusing to see her for the time being

What would other people feel like in this situation?

aslco · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:30

Let her go.

Fyebot · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:31

You don't want her to see her friends?

Morba · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:32

why do you not want her to go? stop being so possesive.

Glaucus · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:32

You're well out of order and now you're refusing to see her :rolleyes:

Ripper · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:33

i don't think i'm being possessive at all, I'm not like that. She goes out with her friends all the time and I don't have a problem with that, but to me this is different. If it was just girls going i'd probably be ok with it.

JBuk · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:33

are you not invited?

Glaucus · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:34

Ripper said:
If it was just girls going i'd probably be ok with it.

You're insecure and possessive..

Even when in a relationship you're still two different people and don't need to be joined at the hip 24/7

PardonTheWait · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:35

Ripper said:
I trust her and I know she wouldn't do anything but I don't trust others. I'm now refusing to see her for the time being

You don't trust her though. I used to say the same thing until I grew out of it. If you trusted her you would let her go and not worry about it, don't try and blame it on not trusting others. If you think something might happen between her and someone else, that's down to mistrust of her, not of anyone else.

Ripper said:
If it was just girls going i'd probably be ok with it.

Because you don't trust her. There's no way you can say otherwise.

Psyk · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:37

Saying you trust her but you don't trust the people she's going with is basically accusing them of being rapists.

JBuk · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:37

Psyk said:
Saying you trust her but you don't trust the people she's going with is basically accusing them of being rapists.

lol wut

CaptainComedy · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:38

let her go, if anything does happen it just means you werent meant to be

[ASSE]Hinchy · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:38

Erm... get a grip. Think how you'd feel is she was doing what you're doing. What is wrong with people nowadays.

Glaucus · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:38

JBuk said:
lol wut

well if he trusts her, then the only way anything would happen is if they where rapists.

What actually is the case is he does not trust her, nothing else.

PardonTheWait · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:39

JBuk said:
lol wut

He's right. If you say you trust your girlfriend, and don't think she'd do anything with someone else, but you think something might happen.... the only way it could happen is if it was forced on her.

So he's either lying to himself or he thinks his girlfriend's male mates will force themselves upon her, and I think we all know which one it is.

Ripper · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:40

Fair enough I didn't expect such a strong reaction against me, guess I'm in the wrong then. Suppose i'll have to try and get my head round it, cheers

[TW]Fox · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:41

You dont own her, she is free to go on holiday with her friends if she wishes.

Van Hellseek · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:42

Just for a weekend? :confused:

Let her go, and you go out with your own mates and spend the weekend getting drunk and having some fun of your own.

Or you could mope around imagining someone else having sex with your girlfriend.

scorza · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:42

I agree with the OP. I don't believe it's possible for straight guys to be just "friends" with girls. One or both of them will try and get off with her during the weekend unless they're gay. Girls know this and use it to make us jealous, or in the worst case, to break up with us.

JBuk · 19 Jul 2008 at 14:43

Mohinder said:
He's right. If you say you trust your girlfriend, and don't think she'd do anything with someone else, but you think something might happen.... the only way it could happen is if it was forced on her.

So he's either lying to himself or he thinks his girlfriend's male mates will force themselves upon her, and I think we all know which one it is.

AcidHell2 said:
well if he trusts her, then the only way anything would happen is if they where rapists.

What actually is the case is he does not trust her, nothing else.

she may of course just get typsy , let herself go a bit and do something she would regret