How would you feel?

JBuk said:
no, he doesnt trust the guys as he feels it could lead to a situation that wouldnt usually occur

i guess we`ll just have to disagree, like i said i dont see things so black and white
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Yep we'll have to disagree as the girl would still have to agree. And thus you don't trust the girl. As it shouldn't matter what anyone else tries.
 
AcidHell2 said:
Yep we'll have to disagree as the girl would still have to agree. And thus you don't trust the girl. As it shouldn't matter what anyone else tries.
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you know it is possible he just doesnt trust the guys as he may suspect one of them will make a move on his girl, he may trust her 100% but just wants to avoid her being put in that situation at all even though he knows she would never do anything, its quite understandable

that does not mean he is accusing that guy of rape..
 
Lol, in comes OcUK - "omg you don't trust her, you're an evil **** and must leave her immediately, your relationship is doomed! omggggg".

:rolleyes:
 
For me it would depend on the reason I wasn't invited. If it was people I knew, then I wouldn't be overly happy about it. If it was something where I'd just be in the way though, I wouldn't care. I went away without my boyfriend recently and as it turned out there was a guy there, neither of us even thought about it.
 
Ripper said:
I trust her and I know she wouldn't do anything but I don't trust others.
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you don't trust her

regardless of "not trusting others" if u trusted her you would be fine. If these single guys tried it on her, she would brush them off - what's the problem if you trust her?

and "Let" her go? u can't control ppl..
 
JBuk said:
I understand what your point is but he may trust her 100% and she may well be 100% faithful and trustworthy , but things can change and he could be worried one of theses guys could be influential enough to get her knickers off
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My comment wasn't entirely serious:p
But it does take two to tango. If you think she could be influenced like that, then there is an element of not trusting her. Surely if you trust her 100%, you are trusting her not to be influenced to cheat by some guy or by alcohol or any other mind altering substances. Therefore if you trust her that much the only conceivable way she would "cheat" on you is if she was raped (which of course I wouldn't count as cheating, but it would still be a reason to not let her go).
 
if she goes away and plays away, you know its over. and you'll be glad u found out now than later,

theres going to be times when shes away and tbh its a good tester to see what happens.


But yes why werent you invited? why didnt your g/f ask if you could go too etc...your a couple? you'd be expected to go with her surely?

Do you need to be by her side for her to be faithful?

these are questions you should be asking!
 
Your all kind of blaming him for not trusting her, when its surely as much her fault as his.
Trust is earnt after all.

If you don't trust her enough to not be suspicious she will get up to something dodgy, then no, you shouldn't let her go. On the other hand if your in a relationship like that then it'd probably be better (in the long run) to end it anyway.
 
turning this situation on its head a bit....

what if one of the guys going with her is an ex-bf? Still feel the same? let her go np?

in fact what if guy 1 is a notorious flirtatious womaniser and guy 2 is an ex-bf who she is still friends with?

Still cool with her going? (yeah i was in this very situation lol)
 
maybe you should ask why you can't go along too??

you're not wrong for feeling a bit meh about it, but if she wants to go then let her go.. she'll probably only spend all weekend on the phone to you anyway, just do your own thing while she's away and I bet she'll feel just as jealous...

..stop being hard on him, most guys on here would feel the same if they were in this situation
 
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