I'm disgusted

[Matblack]

Bleh, dont know whether to giggle like a school girl on crack or watch paint dry!

Coz you know that girls love over protective men who won't let them out of the house alone, plus Will would have to change jobs to move in with Roz and protect her 100% of the time never letting her leave his sight.

Why should a girl not be able to go out alone without a bloke and dress to go clubbing and not risk being touched up by some horny drunk moron?

MB

 

[zain]

Why should a girl be able to go out alone without a bloke and dress to go clubbing and not risk being touched up by some horny drunk moron?

MB

Ask the men that do it, why ask me? It seems the only decent way to stop them. I see its not the best solution but that is a simple one.

 

[Matblack]

Ask the men that do it, why ask me? It seems the only decent way to stop them. I see its not the best solution but that is a simple one.

I disagree, what about when you go to the loo or to the bar or she gets out of sight on the dance floor? The only way to stop this is for men to understand that it isn't on and they will get a slap from the law if they do it. I don't do it and I'm a bloke, I wouldn't even think of doing it, so its a mans choice to keep his hands to himself and he needs to exercise that choice.

Constant observation is not a solution, its the pathway to mental health problems and a failed relationship.

MB

 

[zain]

Well I think youre being silly now and getting at me w/o a decent reason so I wont say no more

 

[Matblack]

Well I think youre being silly now and getting at me w/o a decent reason so I wont say no more

I'm not getting at you, I just want you to understand why I think what you said was wrong. No offence meant

MB

 

[Freefaller]

Gone a bit off topic but a simple solution would be: Go out with her. The presence of a male will put off any guy doing such things im sure, unfortunatly they may still look but youd be banged up for life if you attacked each person who looked at her lol :S

Have you read the thread at all? She was on her way to work, and I was already at work. How can I be with her every single minute of ever day? That's just ridiculous. Besides even if we were living together people have their own lives, I'm not going to crowd her by being with her 24/7 (though it'd be fun) - she's an independent person and doesn't need me at her heel at every hour. As I said, when I'm out with her she's never hassled ever.

The thing about womens dress code ~ Personally I do find it a lot more revealing and so on, just for a minute...just a minute!!! I think well theyll do anything and I guess thats what runs through guys minds a lot when they see girls in a short skirt or what have you. Its sort of asking for it I guess but that dont make it ok, oh and girls can be just as bad to the guys

For a start this makes little grammatical sense, or any sense at all. Secondly, it's far too cold for her to be wearing stupid short skirts, and as I said again, had you read the thread she wasn't wearing anything revealing!

Davey, MB cheers for your kind words, it's all under control now. I was just fuming and it all just came out and felt like venting my frustration on the gentle ears of OcUK members, who as ever have been great at giving advice, and general soothing comments.

 

[zain]

I read the thread, I said the off topic comment because people were talking about how they were groped in clubs or at work. It makes sense to me.

 

[Freefaller]

I read the thread, I said the off topic comment because people were talking about how they were groped in clubs or at work. It makes sense to me.

It makes more sense now that you've said it was about going out at night. You never mentioned that originally

 

[BrightonBelle]

At my last job (worked at a Uni) there were some builders on site and I got the usual stares etc everytime I walked past - must've said something aswell as I reported them to Estates.

The Head builder guy apologised the next day but of course some of them kept whistling etc...

If someone ever touched me I would go straight to the police/person they are working for. That is just bang out of order... Instinct would probably want me to punch them in face too, but if there is a group of builders together that could be dangerous in this day and age - you never know what could happen

Sorry to hear that about Roz FF hope shes ok

BB x

 

[Pants]

Me and my GF were in town in a PUB, she went to the toilet and when she came back she told me some lad grabbed her boobs.

I walked over to him (and his group of mates) and confonted him, asked him what he thought he was doing. I was clearly pretty ****** off. He just sheepishly flatly denied all knowledge and looked pretty scared, i don't know why i'm not exactly hard.

I just left it and walked off, dont know if I was harsh enough? I don't really like fighting and at least made him feel small in front of his home boys.

Sometimes wish I just slapped him about a bit.

My GF was not too destressed by it though, I don't think she cared too much. She was just happy with me having words. I dunno.

 

[DanH84]

Disgusting that people think they can get away with that kind of rubbish. I know it's slightly different but i used to discuss with my girlfriend what she's do if the worst came to the worst. Things like pepper spray are dubious but at the end of the day i would not care a bit about legality if it came between helping a loved one protect herself.
We had a few chats after a rape in the area and she started to carry round a small can of hairspray which is completely legal, bare in mind she is a smoker who uses lighters as well so there was something she would have which could just possibly buy a few seconds.

 

[Freefaller]

Me and my GF were in town in a PUB, she went to the toilet and when she came back she told me some lad grabbed her boobs.

I walked over to him (and his group of mates) and confonted him, asked him what he thought he was doing. I was clearly pretty ****** off. He just sheepishly flatly denied all knowledge and looked pretty scared, i don't know why i'm not exactly hard.

I just left it and walked off, dont know if I was harsh enough? I don't really like fighting and at least made him feel small in front of his home boys.

Sometimes wish I just slapped him about a bit.

My GF was not too destressed by it though, I don't think she cared too much. She was just happy with me having words. I dunno.

I reckon I would have reacted much in the same way. I don't mind confrontation, but I'm not a violent person. (Playing rugby got it all out of me ). I think you handled it well, and that's the way Roz would have wanted me to have reacted. Good on you. It is horrid though hearing such stories and seeing your other half evidently tormented by it though.

Thanks BB - Sorry to hear you had an unpleasant experience - glad to hear you did something about it, not that it seemed to achieve much, but anyway!

 

[Pants]

I reckon I would have reacted much in the same way. I don't mind confrontation, but I'm not a violent person. (Playing rugby got it all out of me ). I think you handled it well, and that's the way Roz would have wanted me to have reacted. Good on you. It is horrid though hearing such stories and seeing your other half evidently tormented by it though.

Thanks BB - Sorry to hear you had an unpleasant experience - glad to hear you did something about it, not that it seemed to achieve much, but anyway!

Glad to hear that to be honest (that you might do the same thing). I sometimes worry that I do not stick up for myself/loved ones enough.

It enfuriates to hear about others expiriances, the thought of anyone else touching my kate makes me rage. At least kate wasn't too bothered, you must be even more ****** off than me.

 

[Eliot]

Yeah great in rush hour on a train...

actually theres a key inside the pocket you turn then you have to press a button for it to activate.

 

[singist]

Firstly, I'm glad that your lady is ok and not letting these things ruin her life.



It seems to me that it's an attitude thing ..... it displays a fair bit on here too, though not as often as it used to now the "would you hit it/do you think she's hot" threads have gone.

"we lads" are constantly making remarks that younger males pick up on; mostly, these remarks are in jest and macho bravado/pubescence etc but it fosters that ethos of women being "sexual objects".

I don't want to come over as a puritan with no sense of humour but what the OP is angry about does get treated lightly here with all manner of jokes etc ..... only recently there was a "punch her in the ovaries" comment followed by pml, roflmao etc.

Being proud of ones body and feeling good about displaying it does not equate to "I'm anybody's, please feel free to assault me" either.

Yes, I am old and yes, I do remember what it's for etc but the sort of behaviour and comments mentioned should not be tolerated or encouraged IMO.






/ Meldrew.









Now then, where's my concubine?

 

[Freefaller]

Firstly, I'm glad that your lady is ok and not letting these things ruin her life.



It seems to me that it's an attitude thing ..... it displays a fair bit on here too, though not as often as it used to now the "would you hit it/do you think she's hot" threads have gone.

"we lads" are constantly making remarks that younger males pick up on; mostly, these remarks are in jest and macho bravado/pubescence etc but it fosters that ethos of women being "sexual objects".

I don't want to come over as a puritan with no sense of humour but what the OP is angry about does get treated lightly here with all manner of jokes etc ..... only recently there was a "punch her in the ovaries" comment followed by pml, roflmao etc.

Being proud of ones body and feeling good about displaying it does not equate to "I'm anybody's, please feel free to assault me" either.

Yes, I am old and yes, I do remember what it's for etc but the sort of behaviour and comments mentioned should not be tolerated or encouraged IMO.






/ Meldrew.









Now then, where's my concubine?

Mr Melrew...

I find it hard to disagree or disregard what you have said above, and if I'm honest find myself agreeing with most of it. Lads will be lads, however there is a difference to wolf whistling or making a few silly comments to actually going up to a person and being inappropriate. Hopefully people are intelligent enough to understand the difference between going over the line and friendly/naughty heckles on these forums, and I do believe that a lot of what is said on here is often tongue in cheek or merely words, rather than actual mimicing of behaviour.