To be fair i will explain my reasons for my posts, my annoance and kinda disbelief. I found your post very arrogant and the way you made the initial replies (like a spoilt kid)
like this one...
"Yep I stamped and I cried but she just stood there hands on hips shaking her head in that calm im gonna be unreasonable but not give a crap eitherway look on her face."
Okay so...
"my girlfriend said go nut which she did I had free rain to build my fantasy PC and she wouldn't complain which also included a nice big LCD TV to go with my system"
At some point you would think two adults would briefly discuss a price point for such a system. She then okays this and you would go about planning your purchases. Its reasonable to assume a budget of at least £1000+ as a minimium - £5000 would be required depending on just what a "fantasy pc" with big screen is.
No mention of money has been said in your posts, only a vague term of approx 18 hairstraightners with a price point of anything from £60 - £120. So thats a spending already of anything from £1080 - £2160, not that this is accurate but like your wage claim it then gave me the impression, here we go storyteller type of guy here. Not very accurate on costs, not very accurate on wage, no mention of budget. Yet the item for purchase in question is 1% at most of your annual salary, however its an issue you have to create a thread about it and describe it all to us. I read this all as kinda strange.
Regards your wage im sure you received a P60 and know fine well what your yearly salary was. 35k-50k is a hellava lot for a spark and no-one here would disagree that stating such a figure isnt an impressive wage, but then you maybe wernt trying to impress anyone right, even though you were asked.
The disrespect...
Can your girlfriend deal with real money terms, at this point its as if your post puts her out as being daft, as if she only understands "hairstraightners" we are led to presume, girls eh though they do love hair straightners etc. Hell if im confused just to what youve spent already im sure she is too and maybe, just maybe shes shocked if she indeed now knows what you had spent to this point.
You now say budget isnt the issue?
hold on a minute ....
"to which ive now been told we cant afford it and I'm not allowed a big LCD "
This indicates a budget issue doesnt it? Certainly a reason for us to believe shes putting her foot down and saying no way sonny.
To be honest its fair to believe that half the guys on here have spent quite a lot of money on their own electrical toys, be it from misspent collage uni grants to guys that top up credit cards, hire purchase or just blow a small fortune on their own interests. a lot of us are selfish and i too have been guilty of this in the past when ive sneeked in new hardware purchases or lied about prices of things ive bought. The reason is and im sure this applies to a lot of married or men in relationships on these forums is that their is much more important and better things the money could or should be spent on.
We suffer from the new disease of internet shopping addiction!
its not self greed or unthoughtfullness for others we are addicts with a problem. Hey whatever gives you a clean concious guys but the truth of the matter remains and thats we all buys things we want and dont really need.
Women do it with clothes etc and are no different, hell im sure she has bought plenty and not let on to you the full price but its kinda different when your comparing hair straightners at £60 - £120 to "dream pcs"
Why not just do a few hours overtime like any working person does when they need or want extra funds. Your working for it why cant YOU then spend it how you please as long as its not effecting the relationship. As others have mentioned 21"-24" are all very affordable now but really come on how much overtime would you have to do to pay the difference in such anyways thats why its such a moot point.
Alternatively i suggest YOU DO THE MATH
Have your big HDTV and get it on finance if needed with a single saturdays overtime each month to easily pay for it?
Surely a dream system is worth a few hours overtime to a guy thats on 35-50k a year, particulary as 50" screens are only a grand to 2 grand, peanuts to you mate.