Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Nix said:
I think I'm probably best just living vicariously through krooton for a while.
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The only thing I could advise would be to focus any energy you would have put into a relationship and use it to get your life back on track first, as you can't be happy with someone (really) until you are happy with yourself.

Possibly look for a job further a field, somewhere with a better hottie to nottie ratio, then it's win win!
 
Tim said:
Nix I've not read the whole thread as it's like 83838852 pages long, but do you have a profile on pof or match, or have you decided it's not for you?

To be saying your days are numbered at 23 though, wow:(
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The latter - not for me.

krooton said:
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The only thing I could advise would be to focus any energy you would have put into a relationship and use it to get your life back on track first, as you can't be happy with someone (really) until you are happy with yourself.
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I'm happy with myself mate - I think I'm awesome (well, it depends what mood you catch me in). I just don't like my particular lot at present and no amount of will or want seems to be solving it; it's very frustrating.

I'd love nothing more then to have a job, my own place (not in this god forsaken town), a girlfriend and a little disposible income. Not exactly reaching for the stars is it?
 
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Orange Peel said:
I sent an email to someone who's viewed my profile several times. Just checked and it's been read and deleted. Damn and blast I actually put a lot of effort into that one :(
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On POF? If they've viewed your profile you can't know if its once or 100 times. The top row of Viewed Me is people who have viewed you at some point sorted by when they were last online so people who have viewed you will keep appearing here when they log in.

Sorry to sound like some kind of POF geek but just in case you didn't know.
 
oh i feel guilty now...

a guy winked at me and on his profile he seems like my type although there were a few things i was unsure of but (and this may sound shallow) he doesnt look that good looking and i think in a relationship you have to have some attraction to the person.

so i sent the "thanks but i dont we're a good match...." etc and he's just messaged, nothing nasty but just saying how he thought i sounded like what he was looking for and thanking me for at least sending a message to say im not interested rather than ignoring his wink.

i feel bad now :(
 
secretspy said:
oh i feel guilty now...

a guy winked at me and on his profile he seems like my type although there were a few things i was unsure of but (and this may sound shallow) he doesnt look that good looking and i think in a relationship you have to have some attraction to the person.

so i sent the "thanks but i dont we're a good match...." etc and he's just messaged, nothing nasty but just saying how he thought i sounded like what he was looking for and thanking me for at least sending a message to say im not interested rather than ignoring his wink.

i feel bad now :(
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Better now than break someone's heart 6 months down the line.
 
secretspy said:
oh i feel guilty now...

a guy winked at me and on his profile he seems like my type although there were a few things i was unsure of but (and this may sound shallow) he doesnt look that good looking and i think in a relationship you have to have some attraction to the person.

so i sent the "thanks but i dont we're a good match...." etc and he's just messaged, nothing nasty but just saying how he thought i sounded like what he was looking for and thanking me for at least sending a message to say im not interested rather than ignoring his wink.

i feel bad now :(
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If his response impressed you enough I gues you'll meet him? If not fair enough. Don't feel bad you're saving him and you time. If you go out with him for pity I suspect it won't last forever.
 
secretspy said:
i feel bad now :(
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I don't see why, you've done nothing wrong. If anything, you're both approaching it like mature adults which is quite refreshing if truth be told. It comes with the territory - you both know that. There's no point getting worked up over it.
 
secretspy said:
im not getting worked up i just felt guilty for saying no as i got the impression from his profile that its a word he hears quite often
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If he's genuinely unattractive, then yeah - it will be. Still doesn't mean you should feel guilty or take pity on him for it. You weren't horrible, you were just honest. There's no point dragging people kicking and screaming just to save hurt feelings, sexuality doesn't work that way unfortunately. The most you could possibly do is respond courteously and you did, so really... you've got nothing to be ashamed of. Unless of course you were mean? You laughed at him didn't you? That's cruel. Damn right you should feel bad. :mad:
 
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secretspy said:
im not getting worked up i just felt guilty for saying no as i got the impression from his profile that its a word he hears quite often
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Nothing wrong with saying no as least people know where they stand then.
Better than stringing someone along and giving them false hope, or ignoring them altogether. It leaves them free to persue other avenues.
 
mac1st3 said:
My sister in law has a fear of escalators, she can't decide when to get on/off and so has a panic attack.
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I can believe that actually as I have a very mild version of that, it's like when I'm getting on one I want to stand on a 'complete' step, not across two of them (even though it still remains flat for a short while). So I'll kind of let one step go past as I was waiting for the right moment, but then think "*£%^ I've missed it!", and have to wait for the next one. Then when getting off I occasionally worry about my standing leg getting swept along and bashing in to the floor while I'm putting my other foot forward.

For some reason this only occurs at train stations though...

Fortunately I've done it enough times that it's not a proper phobia or anything, just a mild pause for consideration, but I can see how it could develop into an OCD or whatever for some people.
 
secretspy said:
im not getting worked up i just felt guilty for saying no as i got the impression from his profile that its a word he hears quite often
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If I was him I'd just be happy you replied, I bet most people don't even given him the satisfaction of a response. From his perspective it sounds like he was trying his luck, as they say if you don't ask you don't get. :)

MW
 
Mr-White said:
If I was him I'd just be happy you replied, I bet most people don't even given him the satisfaction of a response. From his perspective it sounds like he was trying his luck, as they say if you don't ask you don't get. :)

MW
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Personally i'd rather be ignored than rejected. I don't think secretspy should feel bad though.
 
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