Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

.Lethal · 15 May 2011 at 16:51

rotters said:
well im not a boy at 33, so son seems to work well, I think it was more the part of genuine naivety you should be focusing on.

I'm 29, my mother calls me by my first name.

Considering she is a mature woman who hasn't had the internet for most (if not all) of her adult life I think you should give her a break, personally

How many 50+ adults do you know that are familar with internet slang?

rotters · 15 May 2011 at 17:27

mate I agree but you must admit it was a little funny.

Deleted User 234324 · 15 May 2011 at 17:28

I dunno if it counts, but met a girl at a friends BBQ 3 years ago, as I was with someone at the time, I didnt say anything. Anyway as im single I got chatting to her on facebook a while ago, one of our friends set us up on a blind date lastnight, it went brilliantly. Having not seen her in 3 years she hasnt changed a bit.

She hasnt stopped texting me all day and were meeting up again Tuesday

.Lethal · 15 May 2011 at 17:38

rotters said:
mate I agree but you must admit it was a little funny.

IDD

Neil79 · 15 May 2011 at 19:04

MadMossy said:
She hasnt stopped texting me all day and were meeting up again Tuesday

Well done

Mat · 15 May 2011 at 19:24

http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=8452181

That's a really old iMac she's got there!

easyrider · 15 May 2011 at 19:35

Is it me but I cant bring myself to subscribe to one of the Date sites although the quality of the women is far superior to POF lol

Mat · 15 May 2011 at 19:39

easyrider said:
Is it me but I cant bring myself to subscribe to one of the Date sites although the quality of the women is far superior to POF lol

I subscribed to match before POF but it does exactly the same thing, has exactly the same cross section of women and you pay for the privilege. I wouldn't bother.

easyrider · 15 May 2011 at 19:42

Mat said:
I subscribed to match before POF but it does exactly the same thing, has exactly the same cross section of women and you pay for the privilege. I wouldn't bother.

All the women on POF seem out of work mincers though

secretspy · 15 May 2011 at 19:45

One of the guys I had contact with from when I first joined is starting to show a few "qualities" that I don't like.
Says he's a non smoker on his profile but had a call from him recently and unless he was making blowing noises randomly it sounded like he was smoking and he clearly wasn't paying any attention to what I was saying. He asked me a question, I responded then a short while later he asked again.

Also really annoys me when people talk to others when they're on the phone. It's different if they were to say "sorry one second" but to start talking to someone whilst I'm responding to something they've asked me just bugs me.
Good job I'm not overly interested in him!

Another has said he is bad at making plans in advance even though he asked me about meeting up and in his messages he doesn't seem all that interested.

Fingers crossed for the Thursday guy!!

We are texting a lot, have lots in common and seem to be getting on well too.

We were texting on and off last night whilst I was at the meet and he kindly helped to look up train times for me.

.Lethal · 15 May 2011 at 20:53

secretspy said:
Snip

If thats the case move on from the first guy, doesn't deserve a second look at if what you say is true.

Re: Thursday guy, sounds alright. Goodluck.

milgo · 15 May 2011 at 20:59

I have been reading this thread with interest lately.

I had a blind date with a girl last night. Got on really well, lots in common I thought. I drove her home. She sort of lingered for a kiss which was too slow to act on.

So I asked if she fancied going to the zoo today as we were both free and she accepted. Still found her signals very confusing. The fact she wanted to go out so soon was good, but then in person she doesn't seem to hold a lot of eye contact. That says to me she isn't interested so it knocked me back a bit. When we pulled up in the car I felt like she couldn't get out fast enough.

I sent her a text 5 or 6 hours later saying i enjoyed myself and I would like to take her out for dinner next weekend. She said she will let me know because she doesn't know about work/friends etc.

Think I lost my cool and messed it up tbh. A real shame because she is the first girl in years I have had so much in common with.

Just thought I would add to the sob stories

secretspy · 15 May 2011 at 21:17

The lack of eye contact might just be a confidence thing. Try not to write it off just yet, wait and see whether she comes back to you.

milgo · 15 May 2011 at 21:34

I hope so secretspy. The ball is in her court now so yeah, fingers crossed

My last girlfriend was 27 and this girl is 20 so I guess their attitudes could be quite different.

Scarfacé · 15 May 2011 at 22:28

I'm getting more into this now... it's quite addictive! Had a few messages from different girls now!

One girl viewed my profile and "wants to meet me" so I messaged her asking if it was a mistake because she was far too pretty to want to do that... and she messaged back straight away saying that no it wasn't a mistake and that she was hoping to chat to me.

The thing is, I think she's probably too pretty and definitely too sophisticated for me... I'm 23 and still have uncontrollable laughter if anyone farts. Haha.

To those that have met up with people off dating websites - do you get anxious that they won't fancy you when you meet up in person?

I'm supposed to be revising for exams... I blame this thread!

On a seperate note... does the title of this thread not annoy anyone else? It doesn't make any sense!

Amp34 · 15 May 2011 at 23:03

Arranging dates, why are they such a pain!? It's not really an online dating thing as this girl I've known for a couple of months and seen in person around quite a bit but we've been talking through facebook messages quite a lot recently. Finally asked her out one evening over facebook chat (yeah, romantic... but the opportunity came up and I didn't want to miss it) about a week ago. She said maybe, then messaged me later saying she wasn't going to go, but wanted to... I actually saw her in person a couple of days later where we had a nice chat, bit I got "distracted" so didn't follow it up.. I then messaged her a day or so later asking her out again, had to wait about 3 days for a reply which was again yes so hopefully we can finally get a date actually set!

It's probably quite a normal time period but my temperment doesn't like this sort of thing! The waits to get the replies and the taking a while to organise something that to me is quite simple! I am one of these people that hates waiting though, I like to plan something, even holidays only a short period in advance.

Hopefully it's worth it in the end though.

EDIT: and in case anyone remembers a thread I did on here a while ago this isn't the same girl...

ScarySquirrel · 15 May 2011 at 23:22

Scarfacé said:
I'm getting more into this now... it's quite addictive! Had a few messages from different girls now!

One girl viewed my profile and "wants to meet me" so I messaged her asking if it was a mistake because she was far too pretty to want to do that... and she messaged back straight away saying that no it wasn't a mistake and that she was hoping to chat to me.

The thing is, I think she's probably too pretty and definitely too sophisticated for me... I'm 23 and still have uncontrollable laughter if anyone farts. Haha.

To those that have met up with people off dating websites - do you get anxious that they won't fancy you when you meet up in person?

I'm supposed to be revising for exams... I blame this thread!

On a seperate note... does the title of this thread not annoy anyone else? It doesn't make any sense!

Don't ever think someone is too pretty for you, and certainly don't tell them if you do think it.

RoachycaL · 15 May 2011 at 23:48

Dunno how everyone on here is having so much luck!

I'm on POF & Match and really haven't had much profile action so far. I've messaged a few people but rarely get anything back. I wouldn't say that I'm terribly ugly either!

The standard of women in my area is pretty abysmal on both sites it seems, lots of chavs on the website "for a laugh" or "cos my mates signed me up lol xoxoxoxox"

theNude · 16 May 2011 at 00:32

I have met two girls, One i get on great, one i am not talking to anymore, she was boring. I have been sharing long messages with about 4 other girls who now want to meet up, this is going to be expensive and i am losing track of each others details. I am preparing a word document for each person with key notes to help me keep track

Scarfacé · 16 May 2011 at 12:00

ScarySquirrel said:
Don't ever think someone is too pretty for you, and certainly don't tell them if you do think it.

You're right - it doesn't really portray much confidence, does it?! I was using it as a kind of compliment and she's still chatting to me so all is good.

RoachycaL said:
Dunno how everyone on here is having so much luck!

I'm on POF & Match and really haven't had much profile action so far. I've messaged a few people but rarely get anything back. I wouldn't say that I'm terribly ugly either!

The standard of women in my area is pretty abysmal on both sites it seems, lots of chavs on the website "for a laugh" or "cos my mates signed me up lol xoxoxoxox"

I find that I get the most profile views/activity when I'm actually on there. I guess it's because you show up on the "online now" bit? I don't get many profile views if I'm not logged on.

theDude said:
I have met two girls, One i get on great, one i am not talking to anymore, she was boring. I have been sharing long messages with about 4 other girls who now want to meet up, this is going to be expensive and i am losing track of each others details. I am preparing a word document for each person with key notes to help me keep track

Player!