Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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i'm not too bothered tbh! :D if i wear a shirt im tempted to have it untucked which looks not soo smart...might just wear a jumper n jeans but with smart shoes...
 
Surfer said:
speed dating on monday..should be interesting... what do people wear to these gigs? Gonna feel a tad out of place if i turn up in jeans and everyone is dressed up to the nines!
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Id go dressed as a golfer in really wild coloured trousers and a golf glove, then when they ask you if you play golf, say no.
 
ScarySquirrel said:
Slightly edited version of what I posted in a private group on Facebook:

They were two hours late arriving (the producers), so we had to rush things a bit. We did about 30 mins or so of shooting of me with my camera, setting up fake landscape shots and taking photos of flowers in my garden (they were going to come to the wedding I'm doing on Friday but the couple didn't feel comfortable with it). They will only use a bit of these shots but I have no doubt they'll look crap, especially as the sky was white and it was foggy!!

I then got on with cooking, which was really bloody difficult as I had to keep doing things over and over again so they could get different shots, which then messed up all the timing, and because I was stressed I just kind of made things up as I went along. To cut a long story short, the food was all good, it all tasted very nice, but naturally having cooked it all I struggled to finish my starter and main, I just wasn't very hungry.

The girl!!! Well, she was called Nichola (People call her Nic apparently...awkward! (OcUK note, I'm called Nick!)), she was 30!!!!! (Another OcUK note, I'm 25) But she looked maybe 28 tops. I wasn't sure at first, probably because I was worrying about food and what I was saying on camera, but she was actually pretty hot, she was really well dressed and by the end of the night (and after a fair amount of wine (turns out I like wine)) I was definitely keen on her.

It was ridiculously awkward trying to make conversation whilst being filmed, I really hope that doesn't come across on the show. As time went on it was fine, and I was surprised at how long they left us alone (although the camera was rolling) to just chat. She seemed really cool, we had a very similar outlook on many things and she was just quite easy going. I didn't get the impression she was massively interested in me, she seemed to enjoy the food and she said she had a good night, but I don't know whether I made that much of an impression. It was so hard to be myself, I think I just came across as a nice person, that's it, nothing special, Which is annoying! But I couldn't exactly start cracking jokes about Nazis, paedophiles, and pasty smashing, which of course is what I would have like to have done!!

I hope I don't come across as a schlong on TV, they made me say some stuff I didn't feel massively comfortable with, but hopefully it's ok.

So yeah, all done, she will now make her choice, they're back today filming at 9am (they're late again) for an hour which will be me getting ready for my potential last date, then I'll either receive a microwave meal or she'll be there to take me out in the evening I think, not entirely sure what is happening!

I am so relieved it's all over, but naturally dreading seeing it all on TV!!
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Update:

I had a couple more hours of shooting this morning, which was small interview bits of how I thought the date went and me saying "Ohhhh I hope she picks me" and all that stuff. I then had to fake iron my shirt again, and basically get ready for another night out with her, or rejection. This included about 5-10 minutes of awkwardly sitting on my bed pretending to be waiting for her, tapping my fingers and other crap like that.

I then got a knock at the door and was welcomed by a ready meal. The **** didn't pick me! The producers told me that she preferred to date an older man (even though she told me being 25 wasn't a problem), and also they said that I should be pleased as she had issues and was very needy, haha. The producers were really nice and said that I was their favourite and I was too good for her, they said they weren't just saying that and they did seem sincere, so I'm going to assume they don't just say that to everyone.

I then had to pretend cook and eat my disgusting microwave meal, which of course was cold. Then talk a load of crap to the camera, finishing up with more cheesy lines they fed me. Then that was a rap, a high five from the producer (he was awesome), "That's a rap", and then they packed up and it was all over.

All in all it was a very good experience, the guy producer and the other hot producer (girl obviously) were awesome and were great fun to have around. I was more myself off camera with them than I was on camera, but that's the type of show it is, they make you say and do crap you wouldn't normally do in order to be 'entertaining', so it's very hard to be yourself.

I was really pleased the food went down well, and now it's just a waiting game to see how much of a pleb I look on TV!!

The End.

PS. In the 12-15 hours of shooting over the last couple of days I probably spent about 3-4 hours of that swearing! Shame they can't show that really as the outtakes would be great:

"I'm feeling confident about the food and I'm…..****, that sounded **** didn't it…….I'm feeling podowj2r2t…****!! Ok one more time"

There was a lot of that going on!

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Slowly started pulling together a profile again for Match, but after searching through my local area to see what's available, I packed it in. It's like going through rubbish bins and hoping to find something shiny. Trying again after the summer when the current batch has hopefully disappeared.
 
regulus said:
Slowly started pulling together a profile again for Match, but after searching through my local area to see what's available, I packed it in. It's like going through rubbish bins and hoping to find something shiny. Trying again after the summer when the current batch has hopefully disappeared.
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I've got to say I got a chuckle out of that post. Well done!
 
Added this girl on FB that i've been speaking to for awhile, she was certainly bigger last year and she isn't thin. But she did put AVERAGE on her profile, but so far she has a lovely face and personality. I'm fussy about weight for sure, but does it really matter if she is average and isn't huge lol
 
Not had a good experience so far! I thought I'd try this out today so I sent a message to three girls this morning, all personalised/polite messages and not one girl has replied even though it says they've been online multiple times today.

What annoys me is not the fact that I wasn't successful with them it's the way that they can't even be bothered to reply back saying they're not interested, I mean I've put in the time and effort to send a message at least do the common courtesy and reply back with some kind of answer, I think it's so rude! Especially when we have a lot of similiar interests according to both of our profiles.

Annoying thing is on their profile they make themselves seem like really nice sweet girls who are looking for a "nice guy" and aren't bothered about "looks". I'm not really attractive or anything but I'd like to think I'm a nice guy and I have a lot to offer but obviously not haha.

Is this normal :(?
 
R5GTT said:
Don't fret too much about it and your not the only one.

My first date with current girly was the cinema and I didn't really know if she liked me so I didn't get so far as to even holding her hand or having a cuddle. I was pretty nervous about it all. We left the cinema and she told me she liked me but thinks I didn't like her. It turned into some real crazy moment where I was trying to explain stuff to her and that I was just really shy etc and of course I really liked her. I took her home and she seemed somewhat confused and then randomly out the blue she asks to kiss me to which I obviously responded with a yes. (That's some crazy turn around I thought :eek: ) I left hers and actually rang her after just to see if she was ok and then that eve I got a txt saying thanks for calling to check how she was.

Oh and I also had the cheek treatment at the beginning of the 2nd date. I met her at the pub and as she walked in I went straight in for the kiss and she turned so I just got her cheek lol. I felt a right muppet but just had to forget about it.

Since then and our most recent "2nd" date I've sent txt's and stuff and start getting paranoid when she doesn't reply straight away or whatever. In the end when she does its a massive relief. I don't think your paranoid, likewise with me I think we just over analyse the whole thing too much.

I worry now do I txt too much.... maybe not enough. Is it too long before dates (like a week) does she want to see me more often. Basically my head is like mush the last couple of weeks :p I know exactly how you feel :) See, i'm still thinking about it all too much even now. My friends tell me I need to just chillout and not worry about it.
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I'm so Glad I'm not the only one who felt like this lol :D.

She doesn't text much, I'll send her a text around 8 or 9 while I'm relaxed asking her how her day was and I usually get a reply around 11-12 which kills me a bit, but I'm fine once she responds.

My mate's tell me she obviously likes me enough so I just try and put it in a corner somewhere until I get a response :D.

I mean I put my arm around her to which she cuddled up to, but she made the move to me which I was surprised by. But I'm really really shy, I'm surprised I got as far as putting my arm around her.
 
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Rossuk89 said:
Not had a good experience so far! I thought I'd try this out today so I sent a message to three girls this morning, all personalised/polite messages and not one girl has replied even though it says they've been online multiple times today.

What annoys me is not the fact that I wasn't successful with them it's the way that they can't even be bothered to reply back saying they're not interested, I mean I've put in the time and effort to send a message at least do the common courtesy and reply back with some kind of answer, I think it's so rude! Especially when we have a lot of similiar interests according to both of our profiles.

Annoying thing is on their profile they make themselves seem like really nice sweet girls who are looking for a "nice guy" and aren't bothered about "looks". I'm not really attractive or anything but I'd like to think I'm a nice guy and I have a lot to offer but obviously not haha.

Is this normal :(?
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No it's not normal to be so disappointed after 3 emails not replied to. :p

Girls get loads of emails, it's a waste of their time to reply to people they are not interested in.

Persevere and if they don't reply they ain't interested. Just move on to the next one. You'll get used to it. :)
 
You'll also realise that sometimes not replying is the best policy. Sometimes there's just not the words for what you've seen ;)

Make a little bit of effort with a message, but the ones that you think would be perfect for you, well they'll hardly ever reply. The ones that do reply might just be perfect for you, so cast your net wide pal!
 
Rossuk89 said:
Not had a good experience so far! I thought I'd try this out today so I sent a message to three girls this morning, all personalised/polite messages and not one girl has replied even though it says they've been online multiple times today.

What annoys me is not the fact that I wasn't successful with them it's the way that they can't even be bothered to reply back saying they're not interested, I mean I've put in the time and effort to send a message at least do the common courtesy and reply back with some kind of answer, I think it's so rude! Especially when we have a lot of similiar interests according to both of our profiles.

Annoying thing is on their profile they make themselves seem like really nice sweet girls who are looking for a "nice guy" and aren't bothered about "looks". I'm not really attractive or anything but I'd like to think I'm a nice guy and I have a lot to offer but obviously not haha.

Is this normal :(?
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Yes this is very normal.

When you're getting a lot of emails every day it's not easy to reply to all of them, plus as I said in my profile "Sometimes a polite not interested can be taken as an invite to chat"

I decided to send out 10 emails today to women I had actual interest in. 6 replied, 3 phone numbers and I've just got back from a date with one of them. The other two I'm talking to and the one I've just seen I'm seeing next Tuesday.

Remember some days you'll get no replies then others they'll come along like buses :)
 
One thing is, Ive spoke to girls on there who literally get like 300 messages a day, its insane. Us average blokes dont have to put up with creeps, women do :D
 
Hedge said:
One thing is, Ive spoke to girls on there who literally get like 300 messages a day, its insane. Us average blokes dont have to put up with creeps, women do :D
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I'd rather pick 1 from 300 women who want to talk to me than find the 1 in 300+ that will.
 
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