Oh dear god, fail. Spent an hour or two talking to an entity devoid of all traces of a personality. Fine online, but she was completely unable to hold any form of conversation. Still stunned now at just how different she was in person. Next!
Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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Oh dear god, fail. Spent an hour or two talking to an entity devoid of all traces of a personality. Fine online, but she was completely unable to hold any form of conversation. Still stunned now at just how different she was in person. Next!
What is a good way of starting a message to someone, the usual "Hi" if you use quick reply is useless I try and be a little different and relate it to something I have read and provoke an answer to a question but get no responses 
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I get the same response, sometimes, but from talking with the couple of girls I've actually got on with/met this is the kind of message they actually want to get.What is a good way of starting a message to someone, the usual "Hi" if you use quick reply is useless I try and be a little different and relate it to something I have read and provoke an answer to a question but get no responses
It takes time to craft a decent message and it can be a bit depressing when you get READ DELETED (or even UNREAD DELETED) but keep at it.
Well i texted her about wanting to go for lets just say another date 
, no reply this was sent 6hrs ago. No she's not at work and women always use their phone 
No reply, maybe she hasn't seen it it's possible. But if i get ignored then I wont be too pleased so much for " I had a great time " and " Yes i'd like to see you again, dinner sounds lovely ". I waited near on two days so i didn't come across as needy.
Never mind, plenty of fat err fish in the sea
, no reply this was sent 6hrs ago. No she's not at work and women always use their phone No reply, maybe she hasn't seen it it's possible. But if i get ignored then I wont be too pleased so much for " I had a great time " and " Yes i'd like to see you again, dinner sounds lovely ". I waited near on two days so i didn't come across as needy.
Never mind, plenty of fat err fish in the sea
Well i texted her about wanting to go for lets just say another date
No reply, maybe she hasn't seen it it's possible. But if i get ignored then I wont be too pleased so much for " I had a great time " and " Yes i'd like to see you again, dinner sounds lovely ". I waited near on two days so i didn't come across as needy.
Never mind, plenty of fat err fish in the sea
erm correct me if I'm wrong but didn't you post this:
Don't worry i've got my head back on straight, just said to her on msn going to watch a movie and i hope she has a good weekend x. Ended up talking on msn after our date because i wanted to show her some interesting bits about somewhere we visited which has changed over the years.
Will text her on monday and leave it this weekend
In all honesty, and no offence intended, you do come off as too needy and desperate. Not just judging by this situation, but by your posts in this thread in general. Just chill. Every woman's going to run if a guy behaves the way you do. You tend to act like they're the one and only just after one chat! You sometimes try to make it seem like it's not that bad ("plenty of fish in the sea" etc.) but it's clear you're taking this thing way too seriously considering it's essentially nothing. Chances are that even if a woman starts to like you and you expose behaviour such as you describe here, they'll run away. It's scary, tbh.
Sorry if this comes off harsh. Not intended that way but you're not doing youself a favour by obsessing so much after such little time.
How the hell do i expose my behaviour when i'm talking to you guys for advice?, I haven't texted her every 5secs. I was told to wait a few days and i did, I've even spoken to a few female friends and anything other than the next day is fine. Even the date was now planned at the end of the week!
I think on the next date i'm going to have fun and just completely ignore them for a month because it seems the longer you ignore someone the less needy and desperate it seems.
I think on the next date i'm going to have fun and just completely ignore them for a month because it seems the longer you ignore someone the less needy and desperate it seems.
His problem is that he listens to every single one in here and the second someone else has an alternative opinion to what somebody else told him he gets confused.
It's no wonder he doesn't know whether he is coming or going, his problem is that he can't make a decision for himself.
He'd be better off staying out of this thread and learning for himself.
Perhaps.... When i get a text message unless I haven't seen it, i always reply within a few hours. I mean christ women have mobile phones attached to them like glue
No it's because people tell you how to take things and i do but then i'm doing it wrong again but to do something else.. It's like someone telling you that you need to kiss on the first date on the cheek but you do that and someone else tells you not to kiss on the cheek as it seems needy. I may over think things, i may come across needy but all that comes in this thread first before i jump the gun. It's also like photography, you post a shot but someone says " not enough interest ", so you post a shot with interest " doesn't follow the rules of the third ", so you do that and you get " good shot but i'd prefer it if you took it from a different angle "
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Guys keep telling you to take it easy, to just chill and wait. But each time you start chatting to a girl you get antsy and paranoid. You say you'll wait, but you don't. You said you'd leave it this weekend and text her on Monday.
But that's not what you did! You texted her at 8 on a Sunday morning... .
She already said she'd go on a second date with you. No need to rush things because if you keep texting her she'll think you're a psycho. I'm sorry if this comes off as rude, but it's most likely what she'll think.
I wouldn't ignore them for a month. But sending text after text is def. not the way to go either. If your strategy never works, it's time to rethink it, no?
I'm just trying to be helpful tbh. It seems you're very inexperienced & it's a bit painful to see how clumsily you go about these things.
But that's not what you did! You texted her at 8 on a Sunday morning... .
She already said she'd go on a second date with you. No need to rush things because if you keep texting her she'll think you're a psycho. I'm sorry if this comes off as rude, but it's most likely what she'll think.
I wouldn't ignore them for a month. But sending text after text is def. not the way to go either. If your strategy never works, it's time to rethink it, no?
I'm just trying to be helpful tbh. It seems you're very inexperienced & it's a bit painful to see how clumsily you go about these things.
Actually, I'm quite bad with texting. I'm known to reply late all the time, like a few hours or even a few days late, or not even reply at allWell i texted her about wanting to go for lets just say another date
I don't do it on purpose though, I'm just lazy and forgetful 
if she doesn't reply it's either because she's busy or because she doesn't want to reply. Either not at that point or never at all. You gotta keep in mind this is just someone you're just getting to know. She's not your girlfriend, she's not your friend, essentially, she doesn't owe you a thing. Sometimes it seems like you get attached to these imaginations you have of these people. Just relax!
Just trust me when I say that it's scary to women when guys seem overly involved after just a date. Comes off as stalkerish to them.
How was that six hours ago then? Do you live in some weird time zone?
That was my error, i thought i texted 6hrs ago
Oh and read this it's not something i have in my sig which i should..
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt47972.html
It seems to be highly related to my Asp
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She said she was looking forward to meeting again but not at the start of the week, end of would be better.
I left it till sunday from friday, texted her about going out a second time and what i thought was a good idea for the second date...
She replied tonight that she couldn't do a relationship but i was a really nice guy, she had a great time and i deserve someone special..
There we go
I couldn't post the entire conversation she sent me, she didn't say work load something to do with exams and projects but the message to me was private so..
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I got a reply and yes i agree i do over think things, i didn't expect the message i got..
That's really touching, sad that i couldn't go further but she told the truth and it means i did the right thing on the day
That's called the knockback mate, if she was too busy with work she wouldn't be dating, however she let you down gently which was nice of her & I'd be ok with the outcome too, albeit disappointed.
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