Have to agree with this.
Neil79 you have been blown out. She's used an excuse albeit a nice one, but don't take it to heart we all have been blown out at one time or another, and it's a good thing because caring so hard is actually counter productive. Bare with me here.
In my teens when I was desperate for anything, nothing came. Women, like dogs can smell fear. They can see it in your movement, in your eyes, and in your nervous conversation, the way you text them and its a turn off.
Self confidence is a tricky thing, its like a see-saw. Certain things can give you a bucket load and make you irresistible, and then a few comments or mistakes and you lose it all and wonder why things aren't going right.
Even if you don't have much self confidence though, the best plan is to fake it. Simple things, like not replying straight away (rememeber your to busy with friends or work or anything else at the moment) Reply later apologising for a late reply (but not just a normal reply) exclaim why your so busy and popular, and then suggest when you do manage to get 5 minutes away form your hectic lifestyle you could meet up with her. If you want to take it a step further you could even get her to suggest when she's free then say cant do that day I'm busy. (it might seem like your playing silly games, but all your doing is faking actually being so popular and likeable that you really do have loads on, and in time with your new found confidence this will be true, but for now fake it)
Women are exactly the same as men, you just have to replace one value for another, i.e women see you as (money, can I show him to my friends, funny, intelligent, good looking) men see, (would I do her)
So, when you see a girl who's fat or ugly, whatever (would I do her) no, but she sees you and thinks (money, funny etc) Yes!
She will text you first and keep texting you, however you don't want to do her so you don't reply, or don't reply until you can bothered (sound familiar) you've accidently become the cool, relaxed, carefree one. (your no longer thinking about your value)
Now take a girl you meet and do think (I would do her), you suddenly change your attitude back to the un-confident one, text to quick, asking for new dates to quick, and she can smell your fear. Your thinking to much about your value, and its clouding all judgement.
The trick is to act like the (I wouldn't do her) on the (I would do her's), and that's only the start of it, an its painful to do because you think it will have the wrong effect
Trust me this is coming from someone who didn't have natural confidence and had to work out how to gain it through changing his lifestyle.
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