Hmm this is getting interesting...
After the last date I'd had enough of online dating, but left my profile up "just in case".
My approach changed & I became quite cynical, not on purpose but out of laziness tbh. I just couldn't be arsed with it anymore. Rather than answering messages in a bright & positive manner with a couple of questions relating to their profile I was quite offhand, replying with things like "I hope you're part of the 1% that isn't mental" & "I'm just about ready to give up on online dating, maybe you're the reason I have stuck around?"
The results were unexpected. One girl told me not to give up & I replied with a moan about how the only girl I'd connected with waited until we had been seeing each other for 6 weeks & were sleeping together before telling me she wanted to meet up with her "ex" now & again for sex "without any feelings of love". She responded by asking me out on a date!
She wanted to meet somewhere closer to where she lived but I dug my heels in by saying no let's meet in town & she accepted this, when she wanted to meet slightly later than my proposed time I grudgingly relented. This is the complete opposite of the "gent" I usually try to be.
Anyway we met this evening & I was full of cynicism, expecting her to have ballooned to 16 stone since her pics were taken or have a man-laugh or something but I was happily proven wrong, she was as per her profile. I still couldn't be bothered, I was tired & it was the end of a long day, plus she wanted to meet late evening rather than straight from work, so I just let her talk.
Evidently she is ok for money, owns her own house, lives in a smart area, has a good job & lots of foreign holidays. As she was telling me all this I wasn't reciprocating during the pauses as I normally would to keep the conversation flowing, I just let her talk & smiled at her. If she asked me something I answered but not in depth, just provided the information. I just talked about what I wanted to talk about, like moaning about how the tables in the cafe/bar were too high for the chairs & made me feel like a baby in a highchair & joking about LA Law when I felt she was going on about her conveyancing & legal stuff a bit too much.
Anyway our date reached a natural end after about an hour & as we were leaving I spotted her checking me out. I told myself not to:
1) Ask her how she thought it went
2) Tell her I liked her
3) Tell her I wanted to see her again
4) Offer to walk her to her car
All of these thoughts flashed through my mind but I just smiled & faced her, she asked me to text her so we could "meet up & do something" & I kissed her goodbye.
The main thing I noticed is the fact I didn't really care made me much more confident, I was comfortable & relaxed & avoided much of the negative thinking which descends on me when I'm nervous. Having said that lots of self doubt came flooding in when I was driving home: "What would she want with you? You just rent a 1 bed flat in a rough area & haven't been abroad for 2 years, you don't work in the legal profession blah blah blah". Flipping nut thinks waaay too much
Whether she wants to see me again is up to her but I'll give it a day then txt her. Main thing is I'm learning
lol! Ungrateful ***** 
(although the vast majority of them are 
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