Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

MisChief · 14 Aug 2011 at 14:59

I'm not stringing him along. I'm genuinely not feeling great today. I do want to meet him again but I just haven't been myself this week and it would be wrong to meet up with him when I'm feeling like this.

Neil79 · 14 Aug 2011 at 15:13

MisChief said:
Well I've texted the guy and said I'm not feeling great and asked if we can rearrange for another day. He seemed pretty nice about it and a little concerned

I get that on occasion it's not cool

if you really wanted to meet him you'd pick another day

" don't feel to good today but can we meet on saturday instead "

Ahleckz · 14 Aug 2011 at 15:21

Broken Hope · 14 Aug 2011 at 15:43

Ahleckz said:
How on Earth is she stringing him along? People seem to be incredibly quick to challenge Mischief whenever she does anything, it's quite odd. Do you guys obsess as much with your own lady friends as you do with Mischief? You read so much into so little.

Probably because just a few posts up she said she didn't really want to go and she felt she was wasting her time, money and energy? Hardly sounds like someone who wants to see someone again regardless of how they are currently feeling health wise.

Neil79 · 14 Aug 2011 at 15:45

Does anyone get brain blocks?, I saw this profile and the lady would suit me perfectly but i'm unable to write anything yet other times it just flows naturally. It's like trying to write a story and you throw away the paper and start again

Zefan · 14 Aug 2011 at 15:54

Neil79 said:
Does anyone get brain blocks?, I saw this profile and the lady would suit me perfectly but i'm unable to write anything yet other times it just flows naturally. It's like trying to write a story and you throw away the paper and start again

I get this randomly and not just with written word, it happens in conversation too!

Just you being human.

Neil79 · 14 Aug 2011 at 16:05

An odd human but yeh

ChroniC · 14 Aug 2011 at 16:09

Zefan said:
I get this randomly and not just with written word, it happens in conversation too!

Just you being human.

I believe that's the natural reaction to realising you want her. When your not sure it flows cause you don't care. As soon as you've put a girls status above your own you will naturally feel anxious about what you write in case you blow it.
It's the main reason people don't know what to say to girls in real life too.

I have a question for you guys.
How long before you ask her out for a drink, because I see a lot of people going on about conversation that lead to nothing.
I do it within 3 messages, because frankly they're on there to be dated not messaged.

Sinny · 14 Aug 2011 at 16:10

Neil79 said:
Does anyone get brain blocks?, I saw this profile and the lady would suit me perfectly but i'm unable to write anything yet other times it just flows naturally. It's like trying to write a story and you throw away the paper and start again

Everyone gets it, yet it doesn't help when you're in an extremely prolific mood and write something that you think would pique their interest only to get some puny little one liner back.. or get a long response with them not asking you any questions.

I've been talking to someone on PoF for a few weeks now and the length of conversations we have is fantastic! I don't think it'll ever go anywhere, it's just nice to know their are some really nice talkative girls out their, that take time to read what you've said, ask some questions and give each other some confidence!

Ahleckz · 14 Aug 2011 at 16:10

Neil79 · 14 Aug 2011 at 16:12

Sinny said:
Everyone gets it, yet it doesn't help when you're in an extremely prolific mood and write something that you think would pique their interest only to get some puny little one liner back.. or get a long response with them not asking you any questions.
.

That's nothing compared to getting txt speak back!. Lets say for example i send a page worth of a message with questions and then I get

" thx for th mssage, I rly like that to wht abt you? "

And it's like :mad:

Last month I liked this girl's photo's and she had a really nice profile message but by god if she sends messages like that out, someone else must've wrote her profile or she spent years spell checking

MisChief · 14 Aug 2011 at 16:19

Ahleckz said:
How on Earth is she stringing him along? People seem to be incredibly quick to challenge Mischief whenever she does anything, it's quite odd. Do you guys obsess as much with your own lady friends as you do with Mischief? You read so much into so little.

Thanks Ahleckz - I do sometimes feel as if people here like to challenge everything I say and it's getting quite annoying.

Broken Hope said:
Probably because just a few posts up she said she didn't really want to go and she felt she was wasting her time, money and energy? Hardly sounds like someone who wants to see someone again regardless of how they are currently feeling health wise.

I said I didn't want to meet the guy anymore because I'm tired of all these dates in general. I've had a bad week and me not feeling great today just makes things worse. I don't know how many dates you guys go on, but I'm averaging 1 date a week and tbh it does get very tiring. Imagine it being interviews instead of dates - how would you feel?

For those who like to dissect every single sentence/word I use, I said "I feel as if all these dates are wasting my time, money and energy", not "I feel as if this guy is wasting my time, money and energy"

Ahleckz said:
Last thing you may feel like is going on and having to force being all 'bubbly' (no, not fat in this case!) and up for a good time when what you really want to do is get into your pyjamas and drink a bottle of wine in front of the TV.

Exactly how I feel today, minus the wine

Neil79 · 14 Aug 2011 at 16:22

MisChief said:
Thanks Ahleckz - I do sometimes feel as if people here like to challenge everything I say and it's getting quite annoying.

That's normal for OCUK

HNR1 · 14 Aug 2011 at 16:28

No internet dating for me but did meet him online in 2000 in a tech forum, he is from OC LA, i'm Uk, now technically could have met him before because i have family in OC LA. It's family tradition to marry american men, uk men just don't seem to cut it

SiD the Turtle · 14 Aug 2011 at 16:45

So I had no luck with online dating but just had my first date that came out of speed dating.

Was a good night out, great laughs but no spark. Might have made a friend though! She mentioned that the main reason she replied to my email was that it wsnt in txt spk.

Next!

Prophet · 14 Aug 2011 at 16:52

MisChief said:
Thanks Ahleckz - I do sometimes feel as if people here like to challenge everything I say and it's getting quite annoying.

Annoying or not have you stopped to think why you're the only person this happens too?

Maybe it's just the manor in which you post but you do say a lot of conflicting things which have made more than me mention it.

I'm not having a go at you. Just pointing out that you don't come across well in some of your emails.

Ahleckz said:
I don't see anything wrong with what she did personally.

Numbers would suggest that you're in a minority on this one. How can so many people get the wrong end of the stick?

MisChief · 14 Aug 2011 at 16:57

Orange Peel said:
Annoying or not have you stopped to think why you're the only person this happens too?

Maybe it's just the manor in which you post but you do say a lot of conflicting things which have made more than me mention it.

I'm not having a go at you. Just pointing out that you don't come across well in some of your emails.

Not really. It's becoming a chore explaining myself on here. Confusing or conflicting, I don't care anymore. Think whatever you like because I CBA to explain

Prophet · 14 Aug 2011 at 17:04

MisChief said:
Not really. It's becoming a chore explaining myself on here. Confusing or conflicting, I don't care anymore. Think whatever you like because I CBA to explain

You don't have to explain yourself to anyone

Just as it's your prerogative to not give a damn about what people think it's fair game for us to comment when you post on an open internet forum. After all why post if you don't want people to see and respond to it?

Sometimes we don't like what people write in response to our post. Maybe, just maybe, if the guys on here have spotted it the guys on PoF will too?

semi-pro waster · 14 Aug 2011 at 17:05

Orange Peel said:
Numbers would suggest that you're in a minority on this one. How can so many people get the wrong end of the stick?

Millions of people apparently like Big Brother if the viewing figures are anything to go by, I'm prepared to go out on a limb and say they're in the wrong despite their numbers.

I don't really know MisChief and I've not read many of her posts in here about dating but it's not all that novel for guys and girls to have different interpretations of the same actions.

[TW]Fox · 14 Aug 2011 at 17:07

Ahleckz said:
No it isn't. She said she wasn't feeling great. Would you want to go on a date if you weren't feeling well? You wouldn't be able to be yourself or have as much fun as you would want to because of being ill. It's better to postpone and have a much better date the next week when you're feeling better than have a rubbish one when you're feeling bad.

How on Earth is she stringing him along? People seem to be incredibly quick to challenge Mischief whenever she does anything, it's quite odd. Do you guys obsess as much with your own lady friends as you do with Mischief? You read so much into so little.

It's fairly obvious isn't it? First thing she did after cancelling was tell some other bloke she wasn't going on a date, and she clearly doesn't want to see him yet instead of just saying 'You are not my type' its 'I'm ill, dont worry, we will meet soon'.

If she has no interest in him just blow him out and move on!