Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Yeah you are right fossil. It's a fine line really. The other person needs to feel confident you aren't a weirdo and you need to also show you are fairly keen and keep their interest.

But I probably have already said too much by the time we have met and conversation can go a little dry.

Seems I will just be destined to be chatted up by 17 year olds in bars who then run off when I tell them I'm 25 and ask if their parents know they are out drinking.
 
I occassionally read this thread with great interest, as someone that has used PF before I am always suprised when people actually get some reliable dates from there!

Im not single at the moment and dont plan on being anytime soon. but have any of you tried speed dating?
I say this because when I was in the dating game I tried it out and found a couple of nice girls there one of them being my current girlfriend of over 2 years.

so just a thought and I would recommend it to anyone really, especially if online stuff isnt working.
 
I'm now singed up after going single in the past few months which gutted me beyond anything I've had before, a lot my fault.

Anyway pulled my socks up and got back into the game, blew the cobwebs off my PoF acc and I've chatted to quite a few ladies.

Met one but there wasn't really that much of a spark which was a bit of a shame because she was lovely. Conversation over text has really almost ceased on her part >.> she says this is because of work and she will 'get back to me' I can understand to a degree as she is a manager of a shop but still has annoyed me a little.

So I'm back to just looking around on the site for the next person to meet.

It's quite fun. :p
 
I haven't done online dating but about 5 years ago I messaged a user over at the drumandbass arena forums thinking it was a friend, it turned out to be a girl and we ended up chatting etc, and ended up going out for about 3 years.
 
Pretty much in the same boat been chatting to some girl for a week first few days were almost constant contact texting or on MSN chatting for hours but now its dried up maybe a couple messages a day so I'm putting that down to lack of interest and going else where.
 
Well, after being on POF for just over a month and sending a few messages out, I'm not having much luck :p I've had messages off some girls but none of them interested me really as they weren't my type. I joined okcupid too but so far it's been a load of balls, so much so I might delete my account on it.

Signed up to Oasis this evening and so far I'm liking it, seem to be girls on there that actually look respectable compared to POF and okcupid. It's got a much nicer interface too. Wondering how to get some responses from girls, the messages I've sent out aren't just "Hi you okay" messages, I actually put some thought into them and asked light hearted questions about things in their profiles. It's all starting to become a PITA getting nothing back.

Wouldn't say my profile is bad either, and I'm not a bad looking bloke. Me liking metal probably puts them off thinking I'm some Satanist. :p
 
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TommyV said:
Are there any success stories here?

I signed up once, it was full of whales who were arrogant as you'd not believe. Closed up shop shortly after, lack of effort on my behalf no doubt, though.
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Had a few dates with women I managed to snare at Match. Dated one for 6 months and she's now one of my best friends even though she's the current ex. Still chatting to another one which I also count as a friend.

It's really like trudging through a swamp and finding the odd flower. Worth it? Nah, not really.
 
I have good news from it, I have made one really good friend that met on a date and we have kept in touch for like 10 months, i stayed round there last night.

I have 7th date coming up and there are plenty of nice genuine women on there that I was messaging. just keep at it, have a fiddle with your profile. get some better pictures.

good luck.
 
sanaxe1 said:
Any advice on what to put? I'm absolutely terrible on POF.I actually have no idea what to talk about in the first message. I'm fine in person but trying to talk to a stranger online feels so strange to me. Can people give some examples on what there first couple of messages are?
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i just ask how their weekend was, or have they been up to anything exciting. tell them what you did.
maybe something about their picture or interests?

literally one sentance but with something half interesting written. you don't need a lot. ultimately they'll look at your pic and think yes or no and that's it.
 
So after getting bored of the online dating thing and time and again meeting girls where we had absolutely no spark, I've decided to keep it real and make an effort to talk to more girls in the real world.

A couple of months ago I noticed there was a new girl in my local coffee shop who seemed to be running the show, she had a great energy about her and I thought she was just my type of pretty. So over the proceeding months I made an effort to chat to her often and get to know her, and there were a few occassions of what I thought was flirty behaviour. I've also done some nice things for her to let her know I like her, like I surprised her with a sushi hand roll from this amazing local place that we were talking about one day. So I'd been umming and ahing about asking her out as I wasn't sure if she was flirting or just "being friendly to the customers", but today I decided enough was enough and I asked her if she wanted to go to this sushi restaurant I'd heard about with me. Reply wasn't brilliant, she said that she's been a bit ill recently (which she had mentioned before, something about going to get a blood test) and has no appetite and can't drink alcohol, so I should ask her again in a couple of weeks time. Now, me being a regular guy wasn't expecting this curve ball so now I'm not sure if that was sincere or a clever brush off. However, she does seem quite forthright and I would have expected her to just say she wasn't interested.

What do you guys think, am I in with a chance? Either let me know your opinion or give my ego some love for asking a girl working in a busy coffee shop out in front of lots of waiting customers! :o
 
What are the views of eHarmony? Or what ever it's called?

I think it's about time I stop trying to meet people out on a pish up.

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Tom|Nbk said:
After a week it seems kinda hopeless. Guess I'll leave it till it comes along. Gutted I ruined what I had with my ex. Life ey.
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Same, I truly ruined something spectacular.

Currently just a sad bugger sat on a forum lol. Where I could have currently been sat on the sofa with the love of my life playing Lego Harry Potter!

So yep, life eh?

EDIT 2: Just made this profile, thoughts?

http://www.oasisdating.com/en/memberhome/1748a289/
 
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A couple of months ago I noticed there was a new girl in my local coffee shop
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A couple of months? Haven't you left it a bit late? If I was in your position, I would've asked her out within a couple of weeks after meeting her for the first time (at the latest). Obv, you have to talk to her for a bit before asking. I think I agree with Raymondo and say that you've been friendzoned.

Tell us what the 'flirty behaviour' was?

I think you should try again within the next two weeks. If there is an excuse again, then you have your answer.. and time to go to another coffee shop :p
 
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So after getting bored of the online dating thing and time and again meeting girls where we had absolutely no spark, I've decided to keep it real and make an effort to talk to more girls in the real world.

A couple of months ago I noticed there was a new girl in my local coffee shop who seemed to be running the show, she had a great energy about her and I thought she was just my type of pretty. So over the proceeding months I made an effort to chat to her often and get to know her, and there were a few occassions of what I thought was flirty behaviour. I've also done some nice things for her to let her know I like her, like I surprised her with a sushi hand roll from this amazing local place that we were talking about one day. So I'd been umming and ahing about asking her out as I wasn't sure if she was flirting or just "being friendly to the customers", but today I decided enough was enough and I asked her if she wanted to go to this sushi restaurant I'd heard about with me. Reply wasn't brilliant, she said that she's been a bit ill recently (which she had mentioned before, something about going to get a blood test) and has no appetite and can't drink alcohol, so I should ask her again in a couple of weeks time. Now, me being a regular guy wasn't expecting this curve ball so now I'm not sure if that was sincere or a clever brush off. However, she does seem quite forthright and I would have expected her to just say she wasn't interested.

What do you guys think, am I in with a chance? Either let me know your opinion or give my ego some love for asking a girl working in a busy coffee shop out in front of lots of waiting customers! :o
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The forget her comment is a bit harsh. Though you could be correct that she is being polite to customers BUT you will never know unless you try!

To me that sounds like a pretty genuine and serious excuse...obviously wish her well and I would act as I have been acting for the next few weeks.

Personally I would then drop it into a general conversation...."Oh that Sushi place I mentioned a few weeks ago...fancy going next week?"

If she still doesn't fancy it or makes up some other excuse then maybe leave it as it is and look elsewhere.

Obviously, you need to find out if she is single over the next few weeks! ;)
 
I'm on the verge of getting into a relationship with a girl I met on POF 7 weeks ago. I'm a little apprehensive if I'm honest as I'm happy single, but she does seem perfect for me.
 
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Obviously, you need to find out if she is single over the next few weeks! ;)
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Already done my friend! Just for a bit of background, I don't actually go into the coffee shop that often because I've been having to commute out of london (so I have to rush to get a train), plus I don't want to see her that often as I don't want to be "friendzoned". So I found out from her that she moved to London because she had a messy break up with her ex (they were living in Edinburgh together) and she wanted to get away from him and start afresh so she moved down here.

To everyone else, I appreciate the comments and you're all right in that I should have made a move earlier, I guess my excuse is that it's pretty hard to pick a good time when she isn't being rushed off her feet by customers, and also the fact that I'm pretty rusty at asking girls out that I barely know! I guess the door's not completely shut but I'm not pinning all my hopes on it. I'll ask her again in a few weeks and I'll report back here with any progress. :)
 
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