Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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ScarySquirrel said:
I'm on the verge of getting into a relationship with a girl I met on POF 7 weeks ago. I'm a little apprehensive if I'm honest as I'm happy single, but she does seem perfect for me.
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Dude, 2 years 8 months and still going strong for me, help add another notch to the POF success stories :D
 
nero120 said:
I'm pretty rusty at asking girls out that I barely know! I guess the door's not completely shut but I'm not pinning all my hopes on it. I'll ask her again in a few weeks and I'll report back here with any progress. :)
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If you're rusty, then you keep on asking until somebody says yes. I learnt the hard way and am still learning :o

Good luck! Report back so it doesn't become another 'Asda checkout girl thread'.


@ ScarySquirrel: go for it, no regrets!
 
Fossil said:
If you're rusty, then you keep on asking until somebody says yes. I learnt the hard way and am still learning :o

Good luck! Report back so it doesn't become another 'Asda checkout girl thread'.
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You're absolutely right, but my trouble is I really don't get excited asking girls out without there being some chemistry/spark/excitement there first, which doesn't happen that regularly. So the only real option is to get out there, meet people and perhaps you bump into someone and everything changes.

Regarding the girl in the coffee shop, I've been thinking about it and although I'm glad I asked her out, a muted response like that really isn't what I want from a potential future girlfriend - I want her to be excited I asked her out! So as others have said, time to forget her and move on. I'll probably go back in every now and again but there's no way I'm asking her again! One chance is all she gets... :)
 
My problem is every time I find a nice girl I'm then hit with the news she lives thousands of miles away. I don't really look for girls or use dating sites it's always someone that I talk to on a forum or something. I think that's good because you're both on that forum as you share a similar interest, but the bad news is that they don't live near you.

I'm planning to move to Korea within the next couple of years so I think I'm gonna have to revert back to talking to a girl face to face to get to know them, not sure how that's going to go down really ;D
 
2 months ago I'd had enough of the mentalists on POF & deleted my account, but being a glutton for punishment I created a profile weekend before last. Saw a girl who looked nice, particularly liked her line about "not into playing games" & got in touch.

We had a daytime date during the week which went well & arranged to meet up on the weekend. Friday we went back to hers, once indoors she kind of changed a bit, being rather strict about what movie to watch & what to drink etc. I took this as "A woman's home is her castle" type thing so humoured her to a certain degree, though in the back of my mind knew it wasn't going to go anywhere.

We ended up sleeping together, I had to be away fairly early for work but we agreed to meet again. After I finished for the day I gave her a ring, no answer. I left it an hour & rang again, no answer. Now, you might think this is nothing but she was one of those people who's phone has been surgically attached to her hand, she's also a prolific texter & unless there was some sort of drama with one of her kids I sensed I was being given the silent treatment.

So I logged in to POF just to see & there she was online! I initiated chat with "Don't I know you from somewhere?" but she didn't respond. Now I conclusively knew she was ignoring me my first impulse was to leave an angry voicemail calling her this, that & the other but didn't want to lose my dignity, which I have done many times before & I think it would have given her a certain degree of satisfaction if I would have done this. So instead I left a voicemail saying something like:

"I thought there was a drama or something with one of the children but after I saw you on POF it's obvious you're just ignoring me, this is surprising as I didn't think you were like that, especially since you described yourself as "not into playing games", goodbye".

I also sent a POF message saying words to the same effect & deleted her messages & mobile number.

NEXT! :D
 
Aleksandrs said:
My problem is every time I find a nice girl I'm then hit with the news she lives thousands of miles away. I don't really look for girls or use dating sites it's always someone that I talk to on a forum or something. I think that's good because you're both on that forum as you share a similar interest, but the bad news is that they don't live near you.

I'm planning to move to Korea within the next couple of years so I think I'm gonna have to revert back to talking to a girl face to face to get to know them, not sure how that's going to go down really ;D
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Aleksandrs said:
Which bit was shocking? :eek:
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Both!

There's a gif on here somewhere about talking to girls therefore in love. :p

How can you tell if they are a nice girl over the internet? What I say to people on boards and what I say when I'm angry are completely different. ;)

For the second part, just tell yourself that you are talking to a friend, and don't pedestal them.
 
theDude said:
hmmm, don't mean to be rude but how long did you give it when she didn't respond? were you not a little hasty?

maybe she didnt think you were much cop in bed ;)#
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My thoughts were that she was a player to begin with, hook line and sinker from profile to the description of her behaviour. He got used, shouted a bit, and hopefully moved on. :D
 
Gzero said:
Both!

There's a gif on here somewhere about talking to girls therefore in love. :p

How can you tell if they are a nice girl over the internet? What I say to people on boards and what I say when I'm angry are completely different. ;)

For the second part, just tell yourself that you are talking to a friend, and don't pedestal them.
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I guess there is that. I wouldn't say I've fallen in love, but I meant more like there is a "base" for a possible relationship there based on similar interests and attitudes but it can never be carried through because of the whole distance thing. If I had the money to throw around going to visit them I probably would because there's no harm in trying and the trip would at least make for an interesting adventure.
 
Aleksandrs said:
I guess there is that. I wouldn't say I've fallen in love, but I meant more like there is a "base" for a possible relationship there based on similar interests and attitudes but it can never be carried through because of the whole distance thing. If I had the money to throw around going to visit them I probably would because there's no harm in trying and the trip would at least make for an interesting adventure.
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What I am trying to distinguish here in a roundabout way is that yeah they maybe nice to talk to, but maybe that is all they are after, a long distance pen pal. :(
 
theDude said:
hmmm, don't mean to be rude but how long did you give it when she didn't respond? were you not a little hasty?
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As I clearly said in my post I gave it an hour then rang again, when she didn't answer & I found her on POF was I hasty? NO! Been there, done that, didn't bother getting the T-shirt :p

Don't mean to be rude dude, but what would you have done? Put yourself on a string by showing patience & tolerance? With someone you've had sex with the day after you first met? We both set out our stalls clearly & I'm quite proud of the way I kept my cool & calmly said goodbye. The fact her front door had a smashed pane & had been taped up led me to believe she had a habit of starting things but not finishing them! There was other stuff too, she had 3 kids by 2 different dads & was clearly in denial over many of her responsibilities.

theDude said:
maybe she didnt think you were much cop in bed ;)#
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What were you saying about not meaning to be rude?
 
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