Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

SheepBeast · 29 Jan 2012 at 17:51

theDude said:
So, its evident you don't know much about women... change EVERYTHING!

Concentrate on the fact your in a band, this should equal instant pastysmash!

Get a better picture/haircut

Remove all the negative things. I dont like clubs, football etc... tell them what you do like!

dont tell them you have a good sense of humour, everyone thinks they have but its up to them to decide whether you have.

expand on number 10, the best line in the whole thing.

delete number 1,2,3,4, 8 and 9.

You won't meet a girl that is into just playing xbox and eating curry, they are girls. well you might but she will be 56 stone with a face like a rogan josh.

not being an arse, just constructive!

Thanks for the advice I've changed my profile a bit. I don't have time nowadays to go on any dates anyway so I made the profile more to test the water than actually achieve anything for the time being. Hence the minimal effort put into it. I disagree with your last point though, I had several female friends at school and have some at uni too who like gaming and "guy" type activities and they are all pretty hot. Just none of them are interested in more than friendship.

RoachycaL said:
Nothing wrong with his picture or haircut. I've never liked going down the route of changing my hair so more girls will like me. That would simply be attracting the wrong audience to be honest.

If it were me, I would simply take the negative bits out. There is nothing wrong with saying you like video games, but just moderate it a little bit.

I've come across plenty of profiles that are "girl gamers" so saying you won't meet one is rubbish. They were pretty good looking too!

^ thanks, I agree girl gamers seem pretty common. Maybe it's different in the experience of a lot of people on this forum because they're quite a bit older than me (I'm only 20) and so gaming wasn't so mainstream when they were a kid. As far as I know hardly anyone likes gaming as an adult who didn't start doing it when they were a kid.

apeZ · 29 Jan 2012 at 20:33

There's nothing wrong with putting gaming, but evaluate your profile from the perspective of a non-gamer. If you've put that you spend hours playing Skyrim and eating takeaways, it's not the best start.

Princey · 29 Jan 2012 at 20:40

What am I doing wrong gentlemen? I get virtually no messages or profile views even though I change something on my profile weekly.

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=29958633

SiD the Turtle · 29 Jan 2012 at 21:14

SheepBeast said:
Thanks for the advice I've changed my profile a bit. I don't have time nowadays to go on any dates anyway so I made the profile more to test the water than actually achieve anything for the time being. Hence the minimal effort put into it. I disagree with your last point though, I had several female friends at school and have some at uni too who like gaming and "guy" type activities and they are all pretty hot. Just none of them are interested in more than friendship.

^ thanks, I agree girl gamers seem pretty common. Maybe it's different in the experience of a lot of people on this forum because they're quite a bit older than me (I'm only 20) and so gaming wasn't so mainstream when they were a kid. As far as I know hardly anyone likes gaming as an adult who didn't start doing it when they were a kid.

I know plenty of girls who game, casual through to COD fanatics but the key difference is that they're GIRLS. Using phrases like 'pwning n00bs' is akin to looking for a doppelganger of yourself but with boobs- you'll only attract tomboys and turn off real girls.

pingwing · 29 Jan 2012 at 21:20

Jamesy P said:
What am I doing wrong gentlemen? I get virtually no messages or profile views even though I change something on my profile weekly.

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=29958633

To hazard a guess, why you no smile? 5 pictures and you are posing like a 13 year old girl on myspace...

That and if you've stuck tl;dr at the end who else is going to?

~>Dg<~ · 29 Jan 2012 at 23:46

SheepBeast said:
what do you guys make of my profile...

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=35875697

i know i'm eliminating a great number of girls by mentioning gaming but if i'm honest, it's such a large part of my life i think it's pretty much a requirement for any potential match anyway.

here we go

first delete pic of island of mull :confused:

wtf !

and just add this line

- i play guitar in a rock band (gig regularly) and also write my own songs. currently practising singing too but i'm not very good at it!

all rest lose

~>Dg<~ · 29 Jan 2012 at 23:56

Jamesy P said:
What am I doing wrong gentlemen? I get virtually no messages or profile views even though I change something on my profile weekly.

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=29958633

jamesy p

too long to be interesting get better picture (first thing seen

)

heres short hand version of your des

I'm, James I'm 25 from Stourbridge, West Midlands
im interested in gadets and tokyo
i have a sweet tooth and love to cook
will be starting flying lessons soon
love 70/80's horror films
my music tastes are rock and metal

Ceiling_Cat · 30 Jan 2012 at 01:05

SheepBeast said:
I know it'll put off most girls but that's kinda the point.... I don't want to waste time with people I have nothing in common with. Done enough of that already and it never ends well. There are plenty of girls out there who like people like me. Regardless the honest feedback is appreciated.

There's being honest and then there's **** blocking yourself. You can be honest, just package it up nicely unless you want a tomboy/fogbeast.

SheepBeast · 30 Jan 2012 at 02:49

~>Dg<~ said:
first delete pic of island of mull wtf !

What? I don't see why it's such a bad pic? :confused:

I'm not very photogenic.

Ceiling_Cat said:
There's being honest and then there's **** blocking yourself. You can be honest, just package it up nicely unless you want a tomboy/fogbeast.

Can't really argue with that.

SiD the Turtle said:
I know plenty of girls who game, casual through to COD fanatics but the key difference is that they're GIRLS. Using phrases like 'pwning n00bs' is akin to looking for a doppelganger of yourself but with boobs- you'll only attract tomboys and turn off real girls.

Yeah you're probably right, hadn't thought of it that way. My girl gamer friends have been kinda tomboyish I suppose in the sense that they hang out with all the guys and we all make "guyish" jokes including them. I guess it depends on the sense of humour that the person has.

SheepBeast · 30 Jan 2012 at 02:53

Jamesy P said:
What am I doing wrong gentlemen? I get virtually no messages or profile views even though I change something on my profile weekly.

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=29958633

"The pictures" is a scottish expression I believe, and not everyone will know what you mean. Might be better just saying "the cinema". The "about me" part is good. I think the key thing wrong is the photos. You're a decent looking guy (no homo) but the photos are pretty crappy. Find a nice one of you looking happy (not a blurred/drunk one from a night out), or if you don't have one then just get a mate to take a picture of you. Tad embarrassing but meh, might help you have more success.

TehBluebear · 30 Jan 2012 at 08:35

TehBluebear said:
Been on PoF a while, but I desperately need new pics. I get the feeling that a lot of girls are put off by the pics. Sent messages to a few girls now to not have any replies :/

http://pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=25421237

Critique would be very welcome, I need update my photos (hair is 2/2.5 inch shorter now, and the beard is quite trimmed back (No. 1). Found a mate on there, and she said my profile text was ok, but would be nice to get a wider opinion on it. Obvs doing something wrong if I haven't had any replys from any convos I've initiated yet.

CircleFaust · 30 Jan 2012 at 09:14

CatMangler said:
I'm new to POF and have got a general question that someone maybe able to help with:

Whats with the "meet me" messages I get, surely there should be a little bit more communication before we get to that stage or is this the way someone expresses that they are interested and further contact should begin?

I think I'm missing something, whats the etiquette/protocol here?

i think they want you to msg them with the hope you'll ask them out

take a look at their profile and judge it. you'll know if they are genuine or not

Amp34 · 1 Feb 2012 at 16:17

Ok so this is probably going to sound a bit snobbish but having looked at PoF before the only people on there appear to be the girls you didn't like at school, except now they have half a dozen kids in tow as well (at least in my area). There are plenty of websites for "young Professionals" advertised on the tube etc., has anyone used one and if so are they any good? Perhaps PoF would be a lot better in cities rather than towns but I'm wondering if the above sites would help remove a lot of the ones that don't interest me anyway.

I'm not sure I really want to do the whole online thing but it would help me get out of my "complicated" rut I'm in now, which involves keeping in touch with a girl I'll probably never see again and trying to get together with someone closer who just isn't interested (that makes me sound like I have baggage... hmmm).

krooton · 1 Feb 2012 at 16:25

~>Dg<~ said:
jamesy p

too long to be interesting get better picture (first thing seen )

heres short hand version of your des

I'm, James I'm 25 from Stourbridge, West Midlands
im interested in gadets and tokyo
i have a sweet tooth and love to cook
will be starting flying lessons soon
love 70/80's horror films
my music tastes are rock and metal

Doesn't matter, he's back with his ex.

maj · 1 Feb 2012 at 17:21

CatMangler said:
I'm new to POF and have got a general question that someone maybe able to help with:

Whats with the "meet me" messages I get, surely there should be a little bit more communication before we get to that stage or is this the way someone expresses that they are interested and further contact should begin?

I think I'm missing something, whats the etiquette/protocol here?

Was just about to ask the same thing, but I think it's some automated feature POF has where it picks random people from your area because I've been a member on POF a few times and I've always received one of those e-mails yet never get a response back from them. I've had a look at other people's profiles and I can't see where you click to say you want to "meet" them. Only thing I can think of it's either a feature you pay for, or when someone adds you to their favourites.

Of course it may not be an automatic feature, and someone really does/has wanted to meet me, it's just my craic has put them off

But why use the "meet me" feature, when they can just send you a message showing their interest?

I had such an e-mail from POF again today but not sure how to play it.

secretspy · 1 Feb 2012 at 18:15

I think the meet me box is on their profile somewhere. It's a bit like a wink I guess. If you haven't got time to send a message or someone doesn't know what to say they're still letting them know that they are interested. Also its when you flick through the matches I think

A couple of guys who did the meet me actually sounded like a good match. I sent them a message but didnt get a response :confused:

Amp34 · 1 Feb 2012 at 18:23

secretspy said:
I think the meet me box is on their profile somewhere. It's a bit like a wink I guess. If you haven't got time to send a message or someone doesn't know what to say they're still letting them know that they are interested. Also its when you flick through the matches I think

A couple of guys who did the meet me actually sounded like a good match. I sent them a message but didnt get a response

I'm sure I get occasional emails with the meet me thing in. I have no pictures, about two lines of text and until today hadn't signed in for about a year. Makes me think it's all automated as no one appears to have looked at my profile in a loooong time.

As said I've just signed into PoF to see about giving it a proper go (I may even put a photo up...). I've just written the about me section, any suggestions?

I'm pretty new at this so please bear with me!

So about me I guess. I'd like to think I'm quite a nice, caring kind of guy who is looking for someone to return the feeling.

I currently live in a small town but am moving to the big lights of London very soon to be nearer work. When I'm not working I like to relax, go to the cinema and just good time. In general I love anything that involves a bit of energy (and in reality a bit of danger), so rather than beach holidays I usually like to head for the hills or the coast, skiing and walking generally but I have been known to try my hand at kayaking, climbing and I may even get in the water in the UK if you're persuasive enough.. However like home life I do like to chillax from time to time, a few days city sightseeing here and a few swimming in the sea there.

I guess I'm also a bit competitive and love a bit of fun with likeminded people, whether that be on the slopes (if you can ski that's a big plus!) or just at home relaxed on the floor playing a board game. Never take me to seriously, I don't!

Well the suggestions say to describe my taste in music... In which case I'd suggest i don't have much... Generally anything dancy/rocky/poppy with a good beat really, although don't ask me what the song is as I probably won't know.. Even if I have been listening to it regularly!

I guess I should really suggest what I may be looking for in a lady..? I don't know really. Someone to share my loves with, so someone who doesn't mind getting a bit dirty /cold/wet every now and then, perhaps a bit competitive and motivated, with a desire to go further? If that doesn't sound like you, don't worry, it's probably not what I want anyway... So get in touch.

Redman · 1 Feb 2012 at 18:29

There's a 'meet me' tab on the same bit your email link is - it just cycles pictures & you click yes or no. Entirely pointless I imagine

DiCe! · 2 Feb 2012 at 15:56

Ive been for a few drinks with a girl, very pretty, great to have a laugh with....

Ive thrown her in at the deep end, asked her to a charity black tie dinner.
Shes said she thinks she is free will let me know, and asked why i picked her to go with...

came back with the answer that its a good night etc and that I owed her a drink. Hoping she says yes...It genuinely is a great night and think it would be better if she was there

NO PRESSURE

theNude · 3 Feb 2012 at 02:39

Amp34 said:
I'm sure I get occasional emails with the meet me thing in. I have no pictures, about two lines of text and until today hadn't signed in for about a year. Makes me think it's all automated as no one appears to have looked at my profile in a loooong time.

As said I've just signed into PoF to see about giving it a proper go (I may even put a photo up...). I've just written the about me section, any suggestions?

No one will look at your profile with no pictures, plus it normally sorts by last log in so no you wont be very lucky if you dont change ur profile.