Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Quick question, anyone had girls say that they are 'shy' or 'nervous' about meeting up after you ask them? What's the best way to proceed? Just keep messaging them and ask again at a later date?
 
Got a wink and a hi from a nice looking lady on zoosk however I'm not paying for a month on any dating site as it's a waste of money. Done it in the past too many times and it's just not worth it!. Told her that I just cancelled my account and i'm on pof now, gave her my profile. Would like to talk to her on there!

If she doesn't not that bothered anymore :( :(, women seem more interested in hard boys who like going to night clubs and getting hammered, sod it.

- Tired n Grumpy
 
Anyone able to give my out me a once over (above)?

I'm pretty new at this so please bear with me!

Redundant.

So about me I guess.

Who else would it be about?

I'd like to think I'm quite a nice, caring kind of guy who is looking for someone to return the feeling.

Wishy washy, alienating the reader. "I am quite a nice, caring kind of ...". This is better but your word choice is poor. 'Quite' and 'nice' are to expression what magnolia paint is to interior decorating.

I currently live in a small town but am moving to the big lights of London very soon to be nearer work.

Add in other places you've lived in this space. Only yokels date yokels.

When I'm not working I like to relax,

Everyone does. Redundant.

go to the cinema and just [have a] good time.

In general

Redundant.

I love anything that involves a bit of energy (and in reality a bit of danger), so rather than beach holidays I usually like to head for the hills or the coast, skiing and walking generally but I have been known to try my hand at kayaking, climbing and I may even get in the water in the UK if you're persuasive enough.

This is the first interesting bit I've read. It tells me something about you, your personality and genuine interests come through and it seems honest.

However like home life I do like to chillax from time to time, a few days city sightseeing here and a few swimming in the sea there.

I don't think you want to use the word 'chillax'. Might be a personal dislike of mine.


Conversational tone on the internet can either work very well ("Hey, I get him already!") or work very badly ("Why is he typing the same way he talks? Did he go to school?")

I'm also a bit competitive

'Bit' is the last resort of those who don't want to define. You either are or are not competitive.

and love a bit of fun with likeminded people, whether that be on the slopes (if you can ski that's a big plus!) or just at home relaxed on the floor playing a board game.

I like this. It's open, inviting and feels like you're talking to someone not putting on a facade.

Never take me to seriously, I don't!

Apart from the typo, I'm not sure this is a strong message to send. What about, "I enjoy [doing stuff] but don't take it too seriously, or at least not all the time. Looking for someone who has the same outlook" ?

Well the suggestions say to describe my taste in music... In which case I'd suggest i don't have much... Generally anything dancy/rocky/poppy with a good beat really

Don't repeat what the suggestions say and dancy/rocky/poppy 'with a good beat' makes you sound like everyone's dad. You don't want to be everyone's dad. There must be some music you like or enjoy. Have a think.

although don't ask me what the song is as I probably won't know.. Even if I have been listening to it regularly!

Unless you have puppy dog eyes, this will not fly. Sorry.


Stop doing this. "What I'm looking for ..." or "What I'd like is ..." or "The type of person I am attracted to shows ..."

I should really suggest what I may be looking for in a lady..? I don't know really.

What? You don't know what you want from a potential partner? Why are you even posting this notice?

Someone to share my loves with,

Which you haven't stated

so someone who doesn't mind getting a bit dirty /cold/wet every now and then, perhaps a bit competitive and motivated, with a desire to go further?

Is this a statement of things you're looking for or a question?

If that doesn't sound like you, don't worry, it's probably not what I want anyway... So get in touch.

The last 4 words make no sense in the context of that sentence.

"If that doesn't sound like you, don't worry, it's probably not what you or I want anyway. But for those who like what they've heard, get in touch.

Apart from that, I think it's great :)
 
Whilst I don't necessarily disagree with your criticism magnolia, you could probably be slightly more constructive. In particular that smily face is just smarmy and annoying - it's really hard to write something like this without either sounding like a total pansy or 'woaaah I'm so wacky!'
 
Whilst I don't necessarily disagree with your criticism magnolia, you could probably be slightly more constructive. In particular that smily face is just smarmy and annoying - it's really hard to write something like this without either sounding like a total pansy or 'woaaah I'm so wacky!'

Think is a lot of these my advice posts are clearly what they'd write for themselves and wouldn't suit the person writing it.
 
Hey, take my smiley face out if it bothers you. I was actually saying that I liked his general approach but there were areas where I'd do things differently. I'm sure he is capable of ignoring them if they don't fit with his stance on things.

Are we offering critique or not?

e : just read my post again. How on earth can that not be viewed as constructive? For every negative point that I saw, I offered options. For the bits I like, I said I liked them. What more could I have done?
 
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Has anyone used OkCupid? I just signed up the other day and it seems to be superior to match and pof! There is a lot more choice of girls in my area too.
 
[FnG]magnolia;21181702 said:
Hey, take my smiley face out if it bothers you. I was actually saying that I liked his general approach but there were areas where I'd do things differently. I'm sure he is capable of ignoring them if they don't fit with his stance on things.

Are we offering critique or not?

If you liked his general approach, personally I think you should have made that a bit more obvious, because the way you have practically gone systematicly gone through each sentence makes your final comment look rather sarcastic.

With that clarification that's fine though, apologies.
 
Multi-quoting isn't interpretted as overly negative, but abruptness can be interpretted as blunt and heavy handed.

Are we offering critique or not? Because if this is just a 'boo hoo hoo' thread then I'm out and won't waste my time offering alternative ideas on how to word things. Just let me know.
 
[FnG]magnolia;21182422 said:
Are we offering critique or not? Because if this is just a 'boo hoo hoo' thread then I'm out and won't waste my time offering alternative ideas on how to word things. Just let me know.

Haha, no, you're fine.

As I said, I don't even disagree with your criticisms.
 
Off to London this weekend to meet a tasty blonde I've been chatting to for a while via POF :)

Gonna do tourist stuff in the day (Tate, Eye etc) then hole up in the boozer for lunch, followed by rugby and heavy boozing. Can't wait!
 
Off to London this weekend to meet a tasty blonde I've been chatting to for a while via POF :)

Gonna do tourist stuff in the day (Tate, Eye etc) then hole up in the boozer for lunch, followed by rugby and heavy boozing. Can't wait!

Blimey, let's hope she's as slender as her profile picture, mmm?
 
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