Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Big Chris said:
Not a bad effort, most of the OcUK profiles I've read waffle on for ages about playing games in the dark on their own all night so you've scored points there with potential ladies.

Just one question though, what's a pot noddle? ;)
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mine contains no games playing at all, maybe this is where I am going wrong.
 
Ahleckz said:
Get chatting, bit of banter, and sod it - get it sorted. No point in having loads of back and forth and trying to make them like you online.
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Preaching to the choir brother. Got a date tomorrow, Saturday and Sunday afternoon. Two of them are repeat dates and one a newbie I snared this morning. Max of four emails to them before asking them for a drink.
 
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paradisiac said:
mine contains no games playing at all, maybe this is where I am going wrong.
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Use a it of self effacing humor, chuck a few hobbies in, describe your job in no more than two sentences. Do not under any circumstance resort to any negativity or desperation. Sprinkle it a bit with whatever ambition or aims you have. Your life is a ball and any girl will be lucky to be part of it.

Remember, dating is happy happy, so be happy. It's rare you're going to snag a date by telling her about your problems and what's wrong in your life. Don't give too much away. Leave her wondering about you and what you're about. Nobody cares about your life story straightaway since you're a cheesy picture and a few sentences at that point.

If you message girls, keep it short with clean spelling. Two comments on their hobbies, a sentence or two (max) about you and where you and her can potentially get along. 'Love the photo of you at Glastonbury. I myself go every year. How great was U2 last year?'. Something like that. Try leave it open ended so she has a gap to get into the conversation. Do not give any compliments that can be construed as romantic in nature. Girls spook easily and disappear. Keep it conversational and by email 3-4, ask if she wants to continue this conversation in a setting where she'd feel comfortable meeting a stranger from the Internet. I never fail to get compliments on that. They think it's really considerate.


I can write a bit more but the above is what works for me. And works very well. And remember, photos as key. Doesn't matter if you write silken prose and come up with hilarious gags or metaphors. 90% of hotties will ignore you if you have bad pics up. So take care in choosing them.

About all I can think about right off the bat.
 
regulus said:
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yeh, my profile is just a wall of text, without any humour or personality I feel. im great face to face with people (well at least I was 7 years ago before I met my ex wife) and had no trouble getting dates. but unfortunately, im not in a position for meeting people this way at the moment. and, well, I will be honest, I don't take a great picture, so I think this is a bit of a non starter too.

well, don't I just sound like mr cheery :p I promise my profile doesn't have any negatives like this, well at least I don't think it does.
 
paradisiac said:
yeh, my profile is just a wall of text, without any humour or personality I feel. im great face to face with people (well at least I was 7 years ago before I met my ex wife) and had no trouble getting dates. but unfortunately, im not in a position for meeting people this way at the moment. and, well, I will be honest, I don't take a great picture, so I think this is a bit of a non starter too.

well, don't I just sound like mr cheery :p I promise my profile doesn't have any negatives like this, well at least I don't think it does.
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I take horrific pictures. Really, everyone I know comments on that. :(

What I do is video cam myself for a few sec and then going frame by frame, looking for a decent frame-pic where I won't send them running. Face to face I'm perfectly fine.

Tricky business this online dating huh? I don't last more than 3 weeks before cancelling. Really hard graft.
 
regulus said:
I take horrific pictures. Really, everyone I know comments on that. :(

What I do is video cam myself for a few sec and then going frame by frame, looking for a decent frame-pic where I won't send them running. Face to face I'm perfectly fine.

Tricky business this online dating huh? I don't last more than 3 weeks before cancelling. Really hard graft.
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what gets disheartening is where I think **** it, I will message someone im too good for for a little ego boost, and still don't get a reply :p
 
regulus said:
Haha :D. I myself struck out with quite a few uglies/fatties. What can I say. it happens :p
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im off to a gig end of the month on my lonesome, so im hoping some hotty will spot me looking lost or something and I can work my magic then. this online stuff (unless you live in a big city) seems like really hard work. even if I just found a social buddy, that I could go out with to meet people would be a bonus, but I just get overlooked on these sites.

Ahleckz said:
I agree with your sentiment, but not your approach. If it works for you, that's cool but I'm slightly different. I don't compliment photographs, at all. In fact, I don't even mention them unless it's something interesting that is being shown (not the person).

Clean spelling important, send a message and let them reply. Don't just ask loads of questions, respond to what they say, have a bit of chat, tease them. Introduce the idea of grabbing a drink, and make a date in the very near future. Swap numbers, boom.

On another note, got a date on Saturday and another on Sunday. This is easy!
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that only works if they actually reply :(
 
Ahleckz said:
I agree with your sentiment, but not your approach. If it works for you, that's cool but I'm slightly different. I don't compliment photographs, at all. In fact, I don't even mention them unless it's something interesting that is being shown (not the person).

Clean spelling important, send a message and let them reply. Don't just ask loads of questions, respond to what they say, have a bit of chat, tease them. Introduce the idea of grabbing a drink, and make a date in the very near future. Swap numbers, boom.

On another note, got a date on Saturday and another on Sunday. This is easy!
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Don't necessarily mean photographs, in fact, I don't think I've ever done it. Maybe once at most. Usually something in their profile I focus on. It's easy to sense what someone's passions/values are and focus on that (God that sounds kinda creepy :p).

You're getting dates awfully quick. Usually takes me two or three days of buttering.
 
I personally base it on the type of convo i have going, if its a nice flowing convo then ask to meet up after a couple of days, if its an awkward type of convo with not much being said i usually leave it a week or so to see if it picks and if not then hope and pray its not like that face to face.
 
Princey said:
How long do you guys wait before asking to meet up?
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Depends on how many emails are exchanged. 4 days max. Otherwise it becomes an email ping pong affair that will fizzle out. My fastest was a mail from her around 3pm and we met at 7. But that's obviously unusual. 2 days on average I'd say before attention spans start disintegrating.
 
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