Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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Well, I've exchanged a few messages with a girl on Ok Cupid, which is nice. Waiting to hear back from her again though. Unless I have frightened her off.
Had a thing with a girl in real life, some months ago but she was only interested in 'a bit of fun' which was was completely opposite to what I wanted, but that's in the past now.
Looking to the future though; hopefully New Years Eve and tonight will provide me with more numbers..hopefully and to see if the dating web sites come up with anything.
Cheers,
David
Had a thing with a girl in real life, some months ago but she was only interested in 'a bit of fun' which was was completely opposite to what I wanted, but that's in the past now.
Looking to the future though; hopefully New Years Eve and tonight will provide me with more numbers..hopefully and to see if the dating web sites come up with anything.
Cheers,
David
I don't know why this always happens to me, but whenever I go out clubbing or to a party and pull, I seem to get a message the next day on PoF. It's quite odd as it's happened far to often.
I really hate it as well, as in the past I've mentioned something I've been talking to the other one with and it all blows up in my silly face. I'll go along with it again and see what happens.
I really hate it as well, as in the past I've mentioned something I've been talking to the other one with and it all blows up in my silly face. I'll go along with it again and see what happens.
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Well last night was probably the best first date I've ever had! No awkward moments/silences at all and got way more than i bargained for... crawling in at 4am this morning 
Second date booked... for tomorrow
Second date booked... for tomorrow
You look strangely familiar... Especially in the 3rd pic... I swear you've messaged me before
You're not bad looking at all, maybe it's your writing style.. Too witty maybe? Show an example of a message you've sent!
You've review my profile before - that might be why you recognise it.
Had some luck after my last post in that girls were messaging me rather than the other way around! One said I seemed normal compared to everyone else on there but after a few texts she said she wanted to get to know me better before we go on a date (isn't that the point of a date?). So I'm taking that one a bit slower.
Another girl was great. We got along really well and texts weren't forced like most are. In fact, as one point we were texting each other all day for two days. I suggested we meet but it was difficult to get a date before Christmas. I think I might have come across a bit too eager but I was honest I said I hate waiting around and the start of jan was a bit too long away, being a bit jokey about it. She said she knew what I meant and really wanted to meet but she's gone a bit quiet over Christmas so I've backed off. Hoping was an arrange something in the New Year and I haven't scared her off!
I had a great moment the other night when at a club where I heard a girl say "he's on POF" and nodded to me. Awkward...
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Why awkward?
If she said it loud enough for you to hear, could it have been an invitation to come chat?
I did. It ended quite quickly haha. She was polite but made it obvious she wasn't interested.
Not sure if I should post this in here or the relationship thread but what the hell, it's an interesting rant:
http://shiningpearlsofsomething.blogspot.nl/2012/09/anonymous-letter.html
http://shiningpearlsofsomething.blogspot.nl/2012/09/anonymous-letter.html
I can see some truth in that, but can only voice that it's be written a bit too angry at women.
Though I can see a lot of truth in it, though I've probably done what whoever has wrote this has done and learned the hard way. I've been on dates where (maybe one in particular), the Girl just wont shut up about the boys she's pulled and her ex. But that's assuming everyone is like that.
Though I can see a lot of truth in it, though I've probably done what whoever has wrote this has done and learned the hard way. I've been on dates where (maybe one in particular), the Girl just wont shut up about the boys she's pulled and her ex. But that's assuming everyone is like that.
Well I've spent a good 12 months on POF and slightly more recently on Okcupid.
I had given up hope, I had met one person from each, the first one from POF was a nice lass from Castleford, Police Office
We got on ok, conversation was slow, decided we weren't suited and left it like that.
Second was from Okcupid, met her eventually after 2 months of chatting! (she's a very nervous type), got on amazing on the phone and through chat, but when we met 0% attraction from me
I was gutted! Still, we are friends so thats worked out ok!
Just 3 days ago I decided I had had enough, fed up of putting 100% in and getting a slither of generally rubbish back so I deleted both my profiles!
Soon as I did I was reading through this dating thread and someone mentioned Oasis Dating, never heard of it, but thought balls I shall give it a try!
I crated a basic profile, no where near the depth of info as my older ones on the other sites and used a fairly standard pic of me from a wedding a few months back.
Well blow me down and call me Roger! Within the last 3 days I have 6, yes 6 lovely ladies chatting to me! The only issue I am having is remembering about them as I am virging on mixing details up, does anyone have a decent spreadsheet or database I can keep this info in?
I had given up hope, I had met one person from each, the first one from POF was a nice lass from Castleford, Police Office
We got on ok, conversation was slow, decided we weren't suited and left it like that.
Second was from Okcupid, met her eventually after 2 months of chatting! (she's a very nervous type), got on amazing on the phone and through chat, but when we met 0% attraction from me
I was gutted! Still, we are friends so thats worked out ok!
Just 3 days ago I decided I had had enough, fed up of putting 100% in and getting a slither of generally rubbish back so I deleted both my profiles!
Soon as I did I was reading through this dating thread and someone mentioned Oasis Dating, never heard of it, but thought balls I shall give it a try!
I crated a basic profile, no where near the depth of info as my older ones on the other sites and used a fairly standard pic of me from a wedding a few months back.
Well blow me down and call me Roger! Within the last 3 days I have 6, yes 6 lovely ladies chatting to me! The only issue I am having is remembering about them as I am virging on mixing details up, does anyone have a decent spreadsheet or database I can keep this info in?
I chatted on POF a while ago, got chatting to this woman for about a couple of weeks, she said "you're great, you have a great personality" etc. "send me a pic" she said, so I did, then the classic reply, "I'm sorry you are great but you're not what I'm looking for, can we be friends?", I laughed, then cried, as this was the first time I tried dating for a number of years due to mental stuff, but I still persist
I find there are a lot of superficial people about on these dating sites, as is life
One question; are there actually any women out there without children or tattoos? I know picky.
Cheers
I find there are a lot of superficial people about on these dating sites, as is life
One question; are there actually any women out there without children or tattoos? I know picky.
Cheers
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god online dating really grinds my gears at times.
messaged a girl a few days ago, i get this reply prertty sharpish
i reply next morning and have heard nothing since. now i might think fair enough prob getting used to the influx of messages etc that happens with online dating, but this is so common now for me, where her firs reply seems interested, and then i never hear from them again.
another example of someone replying just recently
she like the previous girl has been online enough.
why bother replying once and then not again?
that article linked above is a load of tosh!
messaged a girl a few days ago, i get this reply prertty sharpish
Hey well thank you. Literally joined this site 5 minutes ago so profile isn't bulky
Lou
i reply next morning and have heard nothing since. now i might think fair enough prob getting used to the influx of messages etc that happens with online dating, but this is so common now for me, where her firs reply seems interested, and then i never hear from them again.
another example of someone replying just recently
she like the previous girl has been online enough.
why bother replying once and then not again?
that article linked above is a load of tosh!
I wouldn't say it's a load of tosh, maybe melodramatic but makes some valid points.
Yes, women seem terrible at replying to messages. The only explanation I can fathom is men gather a lot of attraction for a woman fast, you like the look of her, you want to message her and get to know her, thus you are already invested in the idea of taking her out.
Women on the other hand it seems take a lot more time before they invest in an interaction or more importantly the outcome of one. I'm sure she could say the stupidest of things and you'd still reply. Yet her interest initially balances on a knife edge and multiple factors can sway it either side, some within your control and some without.
I find there are a lot of superficial people about on these dating sites, as is life
Probably best to put a picture up in the first instance anyway in all honesty. I think, however, if you're not a good looker, that you will struggle with online dating because to the girls, first impression is important.
Real life can be easier, ironically, as people can learn to look beyond your faults and looks as they get to know you. With online dating, you're often cast aside if you don't pass the first "visual" test.
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