Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

Gamefreak501 · 21 Feb 2013 at 13:55

sunny007 said:
anyone got any tips on convo ideas ?

Hmm..from all the long conversations I've had with girls on line, I tend to talk about, travel/holidays, festivals, music, bands, work, career prospects, future plans, hobbies and interests.

In real life situations..when I've been in a movie, I might make the odd remark that I find funny during the film and then talk about the film when it's finished.

Though once you start to get to know someone the conversation becomes more natural..the jokes become more natural and it all rolls of the tongue.

I don't know if this will help but I'm active and into travelling and music so this helps with conversation.

Narj · 21 Feb 2013 at 13:55

Street said:
I felt bad for her as she'd written a good well thought out message and she seemed like a nice girl! Just a shame I'm so shallow and couldn't look past the rolls of fat!

A few extra pounds is absolutely fine but that sort of size, if not a medical condition, suggests that she can't be bothered to look after herself. I'd find it offputting as well.

Skillmister · 21 Feb 2013 at 15:36

Narj said:
A few extra pounds is absolutely fine but that sort of size, if not a medical condition, suggests that she can't be bothered to look after herself. I'd find it offputting as well.

Exactly. It's hardly shallow if a woman just plain can't take care of herself.

elmarko · 21 Feb 2013 at 15:44

Skillmister said:
Exactly. It's hardly shallow if a woman just plain can't take care of herself.

That's ignoring the myriad of self esteem issues they would have.

aln · 21 Feb 2013 at 16:29

Flipt said:
I think MisChief is now testament to the disaster, judging by her new admirer!! Hahaha

This is exactly why I wouldn't. Nothing really to hide, just don't wanna deal with trolls. It's gotta be worse for the few girls around here, whoever is doing it is a sad git.

regulus · 21 Feb 2013 at 18:28

Not sure what to do with this lawyer I've been seeing. We get on so very well and both into each other. She's extremely smart, independent, successful and have a strong-no-nonsense personality. All qualities I love in a woman. She's also very very easy on the eye. Long wavy blonde hair and green eyes. Stunning in fact.

Only only issue is that this lady have pretty expensive taste. Our dates don't go for under £200 (she pays her share) a time and events that's planned as future dates are north of that number. Now I do quite well financially but this roller coaster is going a bit fast for me. I agonize over buying a pack of chicken breasts when it's 50p more expensive than at Tesco and here I am ordering £15 glasses of wine served by a Sommelier.

She's also happy with eating at home (she's cooking for me tomorrow night) and watching a movie but I'm more worried about the times we DO go out. What about gifts, holidays, events and the like. She's not going to be happy going up to Clacton for a week in a caravan is she? (said for effect. I don't holiday in Clacton)

Fuzz · 21 Feb 2013 at 18:35

regulus said:
Not sure what to do with this lawyer I've been seeing. We get on so very well and both into each other. She's extremely smart, independent, successful and have a strong-no-nonsense personality. All qualities I love in a woman. She's also very very easy on the eye. Long wavy blonde hair and green eyes. Stunning in fact.

Only only issue is that this lady have pretty expensive taste. Our dates don't go for under £200 (she pays her share) a time and events that's planned as future dates are north of that number. Now I do quite well financially but this roller coaster is going a bit fast for me. I agonize over buying a pack of chicken breasts when it's 50p more expensive than at Tesco and here I am ordering £15 glasses of wine served by a Sommelier.

She's also happy with eating at home (she's cooking for me tomorrow night) and watching a movie but I'm more worried about the times we DO go out. What about gifts, holidays, events and the like. She's not going to be happy going up to Clacton for a week in a caravan is she? (said for effect. I don't holiday in Clacton)

Unless you are portraying yourself to be someone you are not, remember the fact she likes you for who you are... Don't run to the hills simply because you can't keep up with her lifestyle. Just go with it, if she's worth it and wants to be with you she'll not berate you for it.

Oh and Mischeif..
Put yourself down as slim, there's a good lass.

regulus · 21 Feb 2013 at 18:38

Fuzz said:
Unless you are portraying yourself to be someone you are not, remember the fact she likes you for who you are... Don't run to the hills simply because you can't keep up with her lifestyle. Just go with it, if she's worth it and wants to be with you she'll not berate you for it.

Oh and Mischeif..
Put yourself down as slim, there's a good lass.

Just go with it?

And no, I don't portray myself as something I'm not. What would be the point.

I'm going to have to have a word. If I just go with her lifestyle, I won't save a penny.

mrk · 21 Feb 2013 at 20:12

(PLEASE do not message me if you have pictures with snakes.. quite a few of you do but sorry; really dont like them !! Genuinely scared lol)

Update: No I do not mean a metaphorical snake............... really guys ? i mean, really ??! But yeah not interested on seeing either, thank you !

Grudas is out then

Oh and the last line read:

If you're the kind of person who has pictures of yourself as your phone or laptop background... lol we cannot be friends, i'm sorry.

Lol...

MisChief · 21 Feb 2013 at 20:30

aln said:
This is exactly why I wouldn't. Nothing really to hide, just don't wanna deal with trolls. It's gotta be worse for the few girls around here, whoever is doing it is a sad git.

Thing is, I've not even mentioned what my username is, linked my profile or told anyone which dating site I'm on. This person obviously has too much spare time on his/her hands and nothing better to do with their life.

Fuzz said:
Oh and Mischeif..
Put yourself down as slim, there's a good lass.

Yessir!

pingwing · 21 Feb 2013 at 20:34

Proud moment here, went on my first date from the internet this afternoon with an extremely friendly Canadian girl. Went to see the rain room in Barbican, 4 hours queue to get to know each other then 20 odd mins playing out in this rain thingy.

Good fun afternoon and getting over the initial omg meeting women from the net thing.

Neil79 · 21 Feb 2013 at 20:43

I'm starting to think that first date Lunches or Coffee's don't really work, doing something fun does

Even if the lady says " I had a really nice time "

MaxP779 · 21 Feb 2013 at 20:53

Has anyone else turned off the feature that lets others know you viewed them?

I did a while ago because i found myself viewing fatties/freaks for a laugh quite frequently and some interpreted this as interest :eek:

aln · 21 Feb 2013 at 22:05

MisChief said:
Thing is, I've not even mentioned what my username is, linked my profile or told anyone which dating site I'm on. This person obviously has too much spare time on his/her hands and nothing better to do with their life.

I've had an Internet stalker before, he was a pain in the **** and I wouldn't be surprised if he was still lurking about somewhere. Guys been foaming at the mouth about me since around 1999 all because I was good at a video game when I was 15.

Being a girl, you've probably experience this times at least 1000 for no other reason than being female. I'm willing to bet you've had quite a few visits to your profile from people on this forum already. You need to watch what you say or you need to stop giving a ****.

You've had 17k visits on your profile I've had 38. OK so you have 5 times as many posts but that still means you're apparently about 90x more interesting than me. Maybe you are, but like I said I suspect it's just because you're a girl. No offense intended.

MisChief · 21 Feb 2013 at 22:16

17k visits only because Tefal was bored and refreshed my profile page like thousands of times

I'm used to it anyway. I seem to have a lot of haters on this forum, I just find it hilarious

aln · 21 Feb 2013 at 22:18

MisChief said:
17k visits only because Tefal was bored and refreshed my profile page like thousands of times

I'm used to it anyway. I seem to have a lot of haters on this forum, I just find it hilarious

They're not haters, they're frustrated admirers who haven't quite got over the fact you're really just text in a box yet.

Abraxaz1 · 21 Feb 2013 at 22:33

Well my stint on POF has been terrible to say the least, one date with a girl that seemed to lie about everything about a month ago and nothing since.
Looked at my "competition" and its all steroid boys with short descriptions and even smaller vocabularies.
I thought women wanted semi clever guys who can string a coherent sentence together but apparently I was wrong.

mrk · 21 Feb 2013 at 22:38

Ah the joys of ignorance. (not @ Abraxaz1!).

Skillmister · 21 Feb 2013 at 22:41

Abraxaz1 said:
Well my stint on POF has been terrible to say the least, one date with a girl that seemed to lie about everything about a month ago and nothing since.
Looked at my "competition" and its all steroid boys with short descriptions and even smaller vocabularies.
I thought women wanted semi clever guys who can string a coherent sentence together but apparently I was wrong.

Obviously you're looking for the type of girl that doesn't want that.

Abraxaz1 · 21 Feb 2013 at 22:45

Skillmister said:
Obviously you're looking for the type of girl that doesn't want that.

they don't seem to exist in this area it's all men trapped in fat women's bodies, why is it when I travel over the border I meet women with class but when I return home all I'm surrounded by is ****s who couldn't hold a intellectual conversation with a child let alone a adult.

And before people say its only me moaning because im fat, currently 6'4 and 90kgs and running 10K regularly etc. so not out of shape