Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Well I've just had to block my first person! This guy was crazy! He wrote me an essay saying 'you've probably seen me in Big Bang Theory opposite Sheldon Cooper' then he wrote a detailed description of how our date (which I'd not yet agreed to) would go. As I was reading this (it took a while) he popped up on chat and asked when we could meet. I asked him what he meant about being in Big Bang Theory and he said 'people say I look like Raj' (he didn't in the slightest).
Since then he's been looking at my profile constantly and keeps writing weird messages complete with poems! Luckily he's leaving the country soon, but WOW!
 
Well that's just weird! How do you know he's constantly looking at the profile??

Sensible question but I've never used the old online dating chat function is it as rapey as chatting women up on msn or quite a good plan??
 
I think he must have set it up so that it told him when I was online, then a second later the box would pop up in the bottom right saying 'blah just visited your profile' (I'm on OKCupid).

Personally I don't like being contacted by the chat. It's normally guys whose messages I've not replied to (for good reason) who start writing to me there. They seem to think that writing 'hi' in the chat will suddenly make me remember I've not replied to their message and then suddenly reply, which obviously I won't :)
 
Well went on an impromptu 'date' last weekend, basically went round hers and chatted, watched a movie etc, was very chilled out.

Another one is coming back from holiday in a few days and we're planning something then.

All in all I think online dating so far is a bit pointless. I'm not saying it doesn't work because hey, people have met their current partners on there. But I've said it before, it all seems a bit too unbalanced. The concept being 'I'm a woman, entertain me and I might just bless you with my attention and letting you get to know me' being the mentality of a lot of women on there, even the not-so-aesthetically pleasing and whales is a bit off-putting.

I realise this is the 21st century also, but I don't really think you can get to know someone through messaging and texting. It seems a very drawn out process to attain the unattainable, message me if you'd like to ask more about my job, my interests, then maybe we can take this to text and carry on, then maybe meet in person. When you meet someone in real life, no one really cares about that kind of stuff, it's just fluff talk to read between the lines and work out if that person is the type of person you'd get along well with, laughter, body language, eye contact all being subliminally interpreted which is impossible via the intarwebs.

Kind of like shopping for clothes online, you might see something and think it looks great, order it and when you try it on it looks terrible. Vice-versa, you might see it and think it wouldn't suit you, but in reality it might be a perfect fit and suit you great.

/rambling done
 
Holliday said:
The concept being 'I'm a woman, entertain me and I might just bless you with my attention and letting you get to know me' being the mentality of a lot of women on there, even the not-so-aesthetically pleasing and whales is a bit off-putting.
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I really can't take online dating seriously because of this. There is nothing normal about this and I can't see ever having a healthy relationship with someone who thinks men should worship them for being woman.
 
Charlotte1988 said:
Well I've just had to block my first person! This guy was crazy! He wrote me an essay saying 'you've probably seen me in Big Bang Theory opposite Sheldon Cooper' then he wrote a detailed description of how our date (which I'd not yet agreed to) would go. As I was reading this (it took a while) he popped up on chat and asked when we could meet. I asked him what he meant about being in Big Bang Theory and he said 'people say I look like Raj' (he didn't in the slightest).
Since then he's been looking at my profile constantly and keeps writing weird messages complete with poems! Luckily he's leaving the country soon, but WOW!
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Holliday said:
All in all I think online dating so far is a bit pointless. It all seems a bit too unbalanced. The concept being 'I'm a woman, entertain me and I might just bless you with my attention and letting you get to know me' being the mentality of a lot of women on there, even the not-so-aesthetically pleasing and whales is a bit off-putting.

Kind of like shopping for clothes online, you might see something and think it looks great, order it and when you try it on it looks terrible. Vice-versa, you might see it and think it wouldn't suit you, but in reality it might be a perfect fit and suit you great.
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aln said:
I really can't take online dating seriously because of this. There is nothing normal about this and I can't see ever having a healthy relationship with someone who thinks men should worship them for being woman.
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These pretty much sum up my feelings of online dating these days, met some decent people online not through dating sites which have been a much more worthwhile endeavour but the dating sites seem to be a nice place for some women (not all) to post pics of themselves, stroke their egos, have guys fall about over them, and then when it comes to meeting up, back out and act like dating sites are meant for some complete other purpose.

Or as mentioned, they seem nice from how they're "advertised" but you don't really get a sense of who they really are untill it's too late :p

Either way, I'm steering clear for the time being, enjoying being single having seen my relatives/other friends who are getting married/having children, and don't envy them in any real way
 
mac1st3 said:
Or as mentioned, they seem nice from how they're "advertised" but you don't really get a sense of who they really are untill it's too late :p
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You could just be talking about woman in general there. Woman who are often overly nice so everyone likes them are the biggest ******* when you get to know them really.
 
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