Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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I'm getting really annoyed at the moment I think - I've had one date a while ago that went really well but the lass didn't want a second (she let me know this by not responding to texts), a number of promising conversations that then have the lass suddenly stop responding. No reason why. If they would at least say something along the lines of "I've realised you're not really my type" or some such, I'd be fine with it.

Ah well, lets keep hoping and playing these games.
 
So after a rather hard breakup 15months a go I'm starting to get back into things dating, even though I still have feelings it's time to move on. But every guy I seem to get talking to and get along with then comes out with having a boyfreind a few weeks later.
It's tiresome and just helps to stereotype!
 
Socaddict said:
a number of promising conversations that then have the lass suddenly stop responding. No reason why. If they would at least say something along the lines of "I've realised you're not really my type" or some such, I'd be fine with it.
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I get that quite often too. I've also had several delete their profiles and the latest one stopped replying after I gave her my number!
 
One of the problems with Internet dating is that half the time you've no idea whats' going on in the other person's life, nor what their agenda is.

I've done Internet Dating and the same thing has happened to me a couple of times. I've been e-mailing some bloke and then suddenly he stops replying. I usually assume that he has met someone, he owes me nothing, so that's that.
 
dowie said:
That's the basis (at least in part) for a massive portion of relationships in many cultures around the world - older male breadwinner and younger female... IIRC a 5 year age gap (with a younger woman) is supposedly most likely to be successful.
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It's fine in part, but it with a 5 years age gap at child rearing ages, it's likely that both parties have a bit of life experience and will likely have more than just lust and money in their successful relationships. End of the day, lust fades and the money isn't forever guaranteed, so if there isn't something more, you're probably doomed. Still, as long as you're happy, whatever works. I have nothing against the age gap, just backing up the dev. :p
 
Berath said:
One of the problems with Internet dating is that half the time you've no idea whats' going on in the other person's life, nor what their agenda is.

I've done Internet Dating and the same thing has happened to me a couple of times. I've been e-mailing some bloke and then suddenly he stops replying. I usually assume that he has met someone, he owes me nothing, so that's that.
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Yeah, many people use online dating as a "supplement" to their real-life activities, it's basically just like throwing out a secondary line into the lake, with different bait, on the off-chance that you might catch something good. It's exactly how I use it.

Lately though I've met so many people at parties and events that I've completely stopped with the online stuff.
 
Yeah you can never jump to any assumptions or get worked up if it goes cold etc.

Best to keep it secondary to having a healthy social life :)

Having fun again with Match as I have changed my age range of women I want to see (30-33, I am 28), and got some good pictures in the past few weeks. My tactic is to click on girls profile I think are decent, then wait for any of them to wink ;)
 
Monserrat said:
Are there any dating sites for the disabled?

Granted, I'm overweight, but at the same time I prefer the fuller figured lady. That's a choice that I made.

What bugs me is that my disability is a choice that I didn't make. No one else in the family has it - it was a spontaneous mutation and I was born with it. It's called Stickler syndrome, which resulted in having only 1 eye, a -27 lens prescription which means that I see 2M with the lens or 1st 3 rows of the eyesight chart (which means that I can't drive), moderate-severe hearing loss where I need hearing aids full time, a lisp because of aforementioned hearing loss, shortened bones which caused me to be 5' 4" where the rest of the family are more like 5' 8", plus the lack of a nose which I had built later in life via plastic surgery which looks normal in shape but smaller than average. As I have a reduced mental capacity due to the disability, I've always had lowly-paid jobs at around the £13k mark where the rest of my family have been headteachers, head of dept, quantity surveyors and events manager (One Big Sunday, Hogmanay etc)

The point is that all of the above traits are undesirable to women, through absolutely no choice of mine. I was dealt a crap hand, probably in the bottom <1% in the sea of fish :-( So I think the only way I'm going to score is by going down the disability route. No woman wants a short sensory-impaired guy on low income and can't drive.

Dimple? Anyone? I know there are a few disabled on here.
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What? Fk being in the 'lower end' of the apparent 'sea of fish', you're no better or worse than anyone and don't forget it. If someone thinks that then f em. There's someone out there for everyone and I've seen a lot of disabled people with facial differences and more with a non disabled partner. Just know that when you do find that someone, look back at thinking there was even a lower end of some made up pool and laugh.
Don't put yourself down, it's not your fault how you were born, embrace who you are and enjoy your life.

*non gay internet hug*
 
l33th3tr33 said:
What? Fk being in the 'lower end' of the apparent 'sea of fish', you're no better or worse than anyone and don't forget it. If someone thinks that then f em. There's someone out there for everyone and I've seen a lot of disabled people with facial differences and more with a non disabled partner. Just know that when you do find that someone, look back at thinking there was even a lower end of some made up pool and laugh.
Don't put yourself down, it's not your fault how you were born, embrace who you are and enjoy your life.

*non gay internet hug*
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100% this!!!

should you ask for a girls facebook or number first?
currently talking to a lovely girl and actually seems genuinely interested in me (there's a first!) she actually puts effort into her replys, decent amount of text and is also asking questions back aswell! and i wanna move it on from POF to stop it fizzling out!
 
Number tbh.

Girl messaged me yesterday, swear to god she must be absolutely stupid because she can't even follow a basic conversation. Each of my replies are met with a 'what?'.. and i have to repeat/reword it. She's actually reasonably attractive too, oh well :rolleyes:
 
Skillmister said:
Number tbh.

Girl messaged me yesterday, swear to god she must be absolutely stupid because she can't even follow a basic conversation. Each of my replies are met with a 'what?'.. and i have to repeat/reword it. She's actually reasonably attractive too, oh well :rolleyes:
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i was thinking number, thought i would just check.
tbh, i struggle to ask for either the number or their facebook! haha i always fret over how i word it! haha
 
I usually offer my number but when I do, half the people I'm talking to don't respond after that. I've never asked for anyones Facebook as I don't tend to use it much myself.
 
FatFishMonster said:
i was thinking number, thought i would just check.
tbh, i struggle to ask for either the number or their facebook! haha i always fret over how i word it! haha
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I think you just need to create a reason to ask for the number and just keep it simple. Usually something like "We should meet up for a drink some time, send me you're number and we'll get it organised."

I'm not so keen to ask for Facebook before I meet someone. I have done it though (usually when they ask me) and it's good for seeing more pics obviously.

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I usually offer my number but when I do, half the people I'm talking to don't respond after that. I've never asked for anyones Facebook as I don't tend to use it much myself.
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I never do that. I always ask for their number first.
 
Say it's easier to text and give them your number, rather than log in to reply every time. If they're not interested you won't get a text then you know you're not wasting your time.
 
l33th3tr33 said:
Say it's easier to text and give them your number, rather than log in to reply every time. If they're not interested you won't get a text then you know you're not wasting your time.
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yeah, i normally use the line of "can i have your number? its easier to text than logging in here all the time"
that way, if they dont want to text me, some strange girl hasnt got my number! haha

currently messaging 2 girls and a 3rd has just sent a message.
but tbh, i find it hard keeping multiple ones going at the same time.
the girl ive asked the number from is probably my preferred, she just seems a lot more interested and talks like she genuinely wants to speak to me. but meh...we shall see, these things can fall over like a house of cards.
 
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