Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Well I've been on pof for about a month now and didn't find any luck till now! I got talking to 2 girls, exchanged numbers and Facebook etc but didn't go on any dates :(. One of them seems abit too shy and the other one just dropped contact, shame as we had so much in common!

I kept getting messages off girls who didn't attract me in the slightest, so I just gave up going on POF anymore, but sti had the app installed on my phone still. Out of the blue, got a message from a girl that I kinda knew (only knew her name and what she looked like) and went on from there! She seems nice enough, she is very attractive, and we seem to get on very well! Our first date was shopping at Trafford centre followed by a meal, and our second date we went to new brighton on the beach for hours, walked along the sea etc and went for a meal! Third and fourth date has been arranged for the weekend, going to Wales for the day on Saturday with her and her little niece (I don't mind, I get on with kids) and Sunday going to watch Will Smiths new film! I have to admit though conversations can become dry which I don't like, ill put more effort in when texting but I've learnt now not to give a crap! She also doesn't seem flirty or anything on dates, maybe she just needs time or is playing hard to get, I haven't got a clue!

One question: how long until you would ask the girl out? About 3 weeks? I know it's when you think your ready, but would be nice to hear other people's views!

Sorry for any spelling mistakes, using my phone!
 
Ben-Irvine93 said:
Well I've been on pof for about a month now and didn't find any luck till now! I got talking to 2 girls, exchanged numbers and Facebook etc but didn't go on any dates :(. One of them seems abit too shy and the other one just dropped contact, shame as we had so much in common!

I kept getting messages off girls who didn't attract me in the slightest, so I just gave up going on POF anymore, but sti had the app installed on my phone still. Out of the blue, got a message from a girl that I kinda knew (only knew her name and what she looked like) and went on from there! She seems nice enough, she is very attractive, and we seem to get on very well! Our first date was shopping at Trafford centre followed by a meal, and our second date we went to new brighton on the beach for hours, walked along the sea etc and went for a meal! Third and fourth date has been arranged for the weekend, going to Wales for the day on Saturday with her and her little niece (I don't mind, I get on with kids) and Sunday going to watch Will Smiths new film! I have to admit though conversations can become dry which I don't like, ill put more effort in when texting but I've learnt now not to give a crap! She also doesn't seem flirty or anything on dates, maybe she just needs time or is playing hard to get, I haven't got a clue!

One question: how long until you would ask the girl out? About 3 weeks? I know it's when you think your ready, but would be nice to hear other people's views!

Sorry for any spelling mistakes, using my phone!
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Well for starters you have been on 2 dates, and got another 2 arranged with her family getting in too. This in itself shows that she likes you and feels comforatble with you. With regards to the flirting, all I can say is that if you are not being flirty then she will not respond and flirt back. A lot of girls won't flirt unless they see signs from you that YOU are interested. There have been times that I have just had to just ditract them from what they are doing and just go for kiss!! Never failed so far :)

It is entirely up to you what you want from this, and if you like her enough. My suggestion would be to go out and enjoy the date 3 & 4, but be somewhat more tactile with her, flirty and playful touching. See how she reacts!

Hope all goes well what ever you decide to do :D
 
Flipt said:
Well for starters you have been on 2 dates, and got another 2 arranged with her family getting in too. This in itself shows that she likes you and feels comforatble with you. With regards to the flirting, all I can say is that if you are not being flirty then she will not respond and flirt back. A lot of girls won't flirt unless they see signs from you that YOU are interested. There have been times that I have just had to just ditract them from what they are doing and just go for kiss!! Never failed so far :)

It is entirely up to you what you want from this, and if you like her enough. My suggestion would be to go out and enjoy the date 3 & 4, but be somewhat more tactile with her, flirty and playful touching. See how she reacts!

Hope all goes well what ever you decide to do :D
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Yeah, I guess bringing family into things shows that she does like me etc which is a good start! Heck, I even bumped into her in town the other day and her mum said something nice about me!

Regarding the flirting situation, I do flirt, but I won't do it on a high scale to cause any awkwardness if there were any to occur,but I gave her a kiss on the cheek the other day to say thanks for the meal, I guess the little things do count! But I like your idea, ill try a bit more and see what happens! Maybe the ice just needs breaking!?

I reckon if these 2 next to dates go well, and I bag like another 2 dates and if things feel right, might aswel just pop the question!
 
Got a second date tonight with a hot Irish chick, I always seem to end up with Irish girls! Weirdly she sent me the first message, and asked me for my number.

Going to the cinema, I feel like its a bad idea though........
 
Ben-Irvine93 said:
Yeah, I guess bringing family into things shows that she does like me etc which is a good start! Heck, I even bumped into her in town the other day and her mum said something nice about me!

Regarding the flirting situation, I do flirt, but I won't do it on a high scale to cause any awkwardness if there were any to occur,but I gave her a kiss on the cheek the other day to say thanks for the meal, I guess the little things do count! But I like your idea, ill try a bit more and see what happens! Maybe the ice just needs breaking!?

I reckon if these 2 next to dates go well, and I bag like another 2 dates and if things feel right, might aswel just pop the question!
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Well at least her mother is on your side ;)

Just carry on with the flirting, and get comfortable with her and being around her. Go for some playful touching like tickling or poking (no innuendo intended on poking)!! Give it a few more dates before you go for the proper kiss close, but you could just go for a peck on the lips and say whoops you missed her cheek ;)

I have been with my girlfriend for about 4 months now and I never popped the question about whether we could be an item. For me it was all natural and just evolved in us being exclusive to each other. I wouldn't ask the question, just go with the flow :)
 
Going on my 3rd date with the girl from last week this evening for bbq picnic! Really quite excited as she's turned out to be as interesting/nice in real life as on pof (a first in my experience especially as she is pretty too). :)
 
Skillmister said:
Everything works well if they actually want to give you their number.
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Yes, but there are three categories:
1) will not give you their number
2) will definitely give you their number if you ask
3) are amenable to giving you their number given the right persuasion

I'd say that 3 is more common than 2, and that playing it like she's a 3 when she's a 2 is better than the other way around.
 
Well I think I have found a keeper. Finally a woman who is comfortable in her own skin and truly independent. Awesome banter too! (this is from Match). We have had a few dates and few lined up.

Was about to give up on it too!
 
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Have a very skillful mouth, deep throat is my middle name plus a very peachy round ass
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I do get a lot of messages (all from straight guys)
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