Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Maybe drop the "and so forth" bit, sounds waffley :)
What course are you doing, it's pretty relevant to what you'd be doing in the future surely ?

You don't really say anything about what you are like as a person, although actually you sound pretty content to be single, I'd wonder if you actually wanted a relationship or not or whether you'd rather be off out on your motorbike :(

I didn't put what course I was doing in the hope it may be a talking point if someone asks. I shall add it in though and see.

How do you mean what I am like as a person? That's the type of stuff I hate writing really. Makes me feel like I am writing some sort of crappy CV, not much use at them either haha
 
Too much text :o Please put interesting facts and hobbies into bullet points for ease of reading :p

I think the length of the profile is quite important, having looked at a "few" recently. Too short (or just a long list) is (mostly) a big turn off but lines and lines of stuff to wade through isn't going to get read by many who will just gloss over it.

I also thing on POF the "first date" bit is telling. I don't know about anyone else but as soon as I read "something fancy" I think "wants it to be paid for by the guy...", and as soon as I read "not just drinks one evening, us your imagination" or "it gets old" I think "Been on loads of dates... why...? Isn't interested in a relationship or very picky?"

Am I just being a bit overzealous? Obviously the latter may be they haven't found the right person and are neither but it doesn't seem good when they appear to be saying they have been on loads of dates but nothing has come out of it...
 
Had a second date this avo, decided not to pursue a third though for whatever reason.

Do I let her know I'm not feeling it? Or just go for the gradual phase-out?
 
Had a second date this avo, decided not to pursue a third though for whatever reason.

Do I let her know I'm not feeling it? Or just go for the gradual phase-out?

I'd let her know personally. Being ignored after you've spent time with someone (I've had two or three not pursue a second date) is a bit lame. Just be honest.
 
I wasn't gonna go for the ignore, that's just harsh. I've phased out a couple in the past sucessfully, but not always had such a good reaction when being honest.

I think I'll keep the text banter going but stretch it out a bit, then let her know if she mentions meeting again.

It's a bit of a tough one this internet dating lark, you're chatting online for a week or so before you swap numbers, then you text/speak for another week before meeting, then if they don't float your boat you have to try and find a way to cut them off!

Still, it means I'm down to three now, keeping up with four was starting to get tricky!
 
I have a date (after a few weeks break) on Monday. She seems really nice, we've chatted a bit and exchanged a few texts, so high hopes! Plus, she's local, so no travelling malarkey needed (my last three dates were at least 45 min away). Looking forward to it - I hope everyone else has a good month too! :)

This is also on POF, and she messaged me first so I was pleasantly surprised!
 
Just got back from a second date with a lass I met on POF. Went to see The Vow which has hopefully earned me some brownie points. We seem to get on well together and are constantly texting each other and there are plans for a third date. She lives 30 miles from me which is a bit of a stumbling block, but for now it doesn't bother either of us.
 
Well, my relationship with "the Finn" failed at christmas.
Back on the market again so I've signed up with Match and I'll give this POF a go.
 
Great POF date last night, we really hit it off and there was never a big lull in conversation. Going round her place on Thursday for dinner and snuggling up to a film, can't wait! :D
 
Hmm well I gave up on this and went to the intimate encounter route. Why not, can't be bothered with dating any more, lets cut to the chase.
Sod law huh, after being beneficial friends for two weeks, were now kinda together. Who'd have thunk it. :D
 
Well, that's one way to do it! :D

I've never wanted to message people for 'intimate encounters' for two reasons a) their is something 'off' in their profile e.g. not attractive/crazy and b) some people can set it so that you can't message them if you've messaged other people for intimate encounters. Still, each to their own!
 
Well the girl I was supposed to be meeting for ice skating a couple of weeks ago for a second date texted me the day before to tell me she had just got serious with someone else... Shame, she was attractive and easy to talk to with the same soft of lifestyle. I've had a lot more success on OkCupid than POF though. Less girls but my messages are replied to more often and more girls message me. I'm currently in long term messaging with one girl (lives a reasonable distance away and not too keen to meet up... I'm not keen on a long distance thing anyway...) and just started texting another... See how both of them go.

I also got talking with a really nice girl at the weekend (real world discovery). After several hours of what seemed like fun it transpired she had a boyfriend... Why can't someone just slip it in to conversation close to the beginning...? :rolleyes:
 
I also got talking with a really nice girl at the weekend (real world discovery). After several hours of what seemed like fun it transpired she had a boyfriend... Why can't someone just slip it in to conversation close to the beginning...? :rolleyes:

Because that is an attention seeker for you! Strings guys along even though she isn't interested.

Might want to be a little more direct at the start of the conversation to save yourself a lot of hassle. :cool:
 
Out of three 'prospects':

1) Was talking about having kids before we met (mental)
2) Stopped texting me and said she needed to be alone
3) Was supposed to meet me today but family matters got in the way

Oh well, there's always Jill.

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