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Richdog said:I've never heard such absolute unadulterated rubbish, but it certainly made me laugh. If that's what you genuinely believe then boy are you in for a shock.
Actually he is quite correct; it is something i have observed for a long time. Every guy has an agenda when it comes to female relations.
get some confidence.
Some self confidence!
Anyone who says wait and see what happens is TALKING RUBBISH. IF YOU DON'T ASK YOU DON'T GET. If you see someone you like, go for it. Ask girls out, the worst they can say is no. If you like one of these girls go out with just her, and subtly make your feelings know. Its up to you. Rather than sit and mope do something to make things how you wnat them.
If you are worried about your friends taking the mick, especially if they are super successful with women, then stop. As at the end of the day you won't look back and have regrets, and also you'll be the one with balls.
Problem is finding one... but you'vee already your eyes on someone so the hard work is done.
Some self confidence!
Anyone who says wait and see what happens is TALKING RUBBISH. IF YOU DON'T ASK YOU DON'T GET. If you see someone you like, go for it. Ask girls out, the worst they can say is no. If you like one of these girls go out with just her, and subtly make your feelings know. Its up to you. Rather than sit and mope do something to make things how you wnat them.
If you are worried about your friends taking the mick, especially if they are super successful with women, then stop. As at the end of the day you won't look back and have regrets, and also you'll be the one with balls.
Problem is finding one... but you'vee already your eyes on someone so the hard work is done.
rossyl said:
Yeah it's easy street after that isn't it
Unless your Mr. Smooth with model looks chatting up girls can be a bit of a mission. Factors like not appearing needy and not making yourself too available come into play.I've seen you are quite successful with girls from your other posts but that doesn't mean everyone is.
Although your other advice about him having to get some confidence and go for it is spot on.
Nix said:
The girl I did that to was purposefully twisting me round like some sort of liquorish string. Wasn't nice at all, cheating, lies, crap, bull**** etc. So it definitely wasn't "Using" so to speak.
AS for the running from girl to girl every 5 seconds, I've had three girlfriends. One from when I was 14-17, the one I just spoke about (couple of months) and the one I'm in now which is definitely serious.
Yep but who isn't?Richdog said:Reckon he's still a bit of a wannabe cassanova though.
Saberu said:Yeah it's easy street after that isn't it
I've seen you are quite successful with girls from your other posts but that doesn't mean everyone is.
Although your other advice about him having to get some confidence and go for it is spot on.
I'm soooo NOT successful with women. Well not overly anyways.
But what i meant by the hard work being done when you find one is.... asking someone out is the easiest thing to do. What comes before that and after are the hard parts.
Actually asking someone is dead easy. She says no, you are down for a bit..but hey thats life.
As for me. I asked someone out. It went well. Now its neither here nor there, and is very confusing, and I'm probably being messed about. So its a hard part. But asking her out was easy!
Locrian said:
I definitly wouldn't say that, I suppose it depends on who you hang around with (guys wise). Most of my male friends as well as I definitly arent like that, but then we have grown up as a mixed group of girls and guys and I hate going out with just guys because I like a mix of characters that girls bring.
I have to admit that I do sometimes harbour some wants for a couple of girls I know but mainly due to past relationships/issues with them. Most of my female friends I just see as mates and nothing more, it they came on to me I would turn them down because I dont see them like that.
TBH if you cant just be friends with a girl without wanting more you need to sort your life out.
rossyl said:
Follow your own advice, get some balls and tell her what you want out of the relationship. If you want it to be serious you could say something along the lines of I want to get into a serious relationship at this stage of my life, or that your looking for something exclusive. Don't let girls mess you about, I've been there.
Psyk said:
Aint it just lol, from my experience its about doing things, anything, and you will meet people, even if its a new job, in fact a job is pretty much the best one because your forced to interact with people.
You cant sit at home pondering over it and wondering why it isnt happening all day long but it wont get you anywhere.
I mean you can go out on the "pull" but i dont think thats ever got me anywhere personally furthur than numbers and the odd meeting after.
Amp34 said:TBH if you cant just be friends with a girl without wanting more you need to sort your life out.
Not at all, if so then nearly every single guy has to "Sort his life out".
I don't see what needs "Sorting out" exactly... :\
Zefan said:
lol i have a load of girl friends some extremely stunning ones ! but i dont want them anything more than just a friend, as i have a great friend relationship with them, we can talk about everything and go and have a drink without taking it further
plus if shes sending back vibes (the girl im interested in) then does she need to sort her life out? if she cant just be a friend with me?