Long Distance relationship

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I know this is not a relationship forum or anything, I just want to know is anyone in/had one? how did you guys keep the relationship alive? do you like txt everyday?

Is actually not that far for us, but due to working hours, is more like we will only see each other once every 2 weeks.
 
2 weeks, try 2 months.
Yes, I hate it but it will soon change. The only way LDR's work is when you both know its not indefinite and you have a finite amount of time apart that you have both agreed upon. Otherwise IMO its not worth it.
 
Sorry dude, my bad.

My g/f and I managed six months of only seeing each other weekends, although we were only 70 miles apart and connected by motorway for about 65 miles of that. We both have cars.

She has now moved to stafford and has a job here, and we're moving in together 1st november :)
 
bad experience for me, joined the RAF and it just didn't work, she ended up going off with the bouncer from the local nightclub!
We were young and immature, i guess it all depends on the people involved!
The then girlfriend and i did lead a bit of a hedonistic lifestyle back then though so i'm sure that didn't help!

Good luck and i hope you make it work!
 
Yup in one at the moment ;)

Im in London/Surrey, the gf's in Diest Belguim ;)

See each other either once a month (for a weekend) and sometimes every 2 weeks depending whats happening, though we msn/e-mail/skype all the time.

Isnt really that hard to be honest, both of us are busy with our jobs so it keeps us occupied.

Oh and Left4dead at the weekends always helps ;)
 
I was, and it can be dangerous.

Make sure it's worth it, otherwise it's a lot of wasted time and effort.

I don't have any regrets, but I put an awful lot of myself into it due to the distance issue. Maybe if I was with someone closer it wouldn't have been so intense and might've lasted.
 
My GF is 5000 miles away.

We keep in touch throughout the day, lots of texting and skype. We just try to keep talking as much as we can, about everything and anything.
 
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My first one was with a Uni love. The distance bit lasted 9 months before we broke up. I used to go and see her every other weekend and it was just about ok but we just realised there was very little chance of either of us being able to live in the same place.

I've now currently got myself into another kinda one, this time with someone from another country. It was going to be hard but tbh I think the time is fast approaching, the likelyhood of us ever seeing each other again is dissipating... :(

So yeah, don't start one unless you really can't help it and if that is the case you need a plan for when you are actually going to be able to get together properly again.
 
How much distance is long distance in your case? Try 5000 miles :p

I met my wife-to-be 2 years ago in New Orleans and I've been back every 3-4 weeks without fail since then. It's a hell of a long distance but a few things have kept it going to the point where we get married next month. After that, we still have to do the long distance thing until next August when she is coming here.

1. It has to be real. Not just a fling, not just for the sex, not just an excuse to get out of town now and again.
2. It takes commitment. A lot of it, especially if there is a time difference. You'll have to stay in when you would otherwise go out, you'll have to spend a lot of money on travelling and contact (phone bills if international).
3. It takes a lot of trust. If you're going to be apart for long periods of time then you must trust each other. It's difficult but if you two are right for each other it is possible.
4. You need a goal. If there is no goal of you two ending up under the same roof eventually, it is doomed.
5. If it's international - money. You'll need lots of it. I earn more than average for my age and I am effectively poor now. I moved out of my own house, I rent a small box room from a friend and I have cut out all luxuries. Airfares aren't getting any cheaper.
6. Skype. Lots and lots of Skype.


If you both want it, it is possible. The past two years have been hard. I have learned a lot about life and myself. It's totally worth it though :D
 
I did, and it disillusioned me to the extent that I say I'll never do it again.

I was young, and still am, but I don't want to do it again.

Scuzi said:
I met my wife-to-be 2 years ago in New Orleans and I've been back every 3-4 weeks without fail since then.
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Wow. Sacrificed so much there, I wish you all the best!
 
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The time difference is one of the horrible things about international, alongside actually talking. I can only chat to mine in real time at 6pm for an hour (her lunch), her evening is my early morning...
 
Is like 1.5 hour drive, so not actually that far really, is just our working hours are very different, I have to book holidays from work if I want to see her.

But you guys are right tho, it has to lead to something, we only started going out for about a month, guess rather than how to keep alive, a chat of destination is needed.... thanks for the reply guys...
 
I had a g/f that lived up North, that I met on holiday. It was before the internet & mobiles had just come out, so it was a lot of writing hand written letters.

Not a complete waste of time by any means, cos she was fit. But it cost me a lot of mileage on my car, and the week it finished I met someone local who was even fitter !

My advice is stay local. If you cherrish your automobile's resale value that is.
 
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