Long Distance relationship

What do you class as long distance? Meaning how far in miles would you class it? My partner doesn't live too far. My partners is just under 30 miles away. We both live in the London Boroughs. The only difference really is we are on opposite ends of the city. We don't see each other all the time, but manage in about 3-4 times a week. Dependent on the workload between us really.
 
asakura797 said:
What do you class as long distance? Meaning how far in miles would you class it? My partner doesn't live too far. My partners is just under 30 miles away. We both live in the London Boroughs. The only difference really is we are on opposite ends of the city. We don't see each other all the time, but manage in about 3-4 times a week. Dependent on the workload between us really.
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I wouldnt class that as a LDR. How I wish my LDR involved her being just in the same continent!

Met 3 years ago while she was here, but she lives in South America. Were together for 2 years doing the long distance thing, I went there, she came here, saw each other every 5-6 months. After 2 years decided to end it mutually, but 1 year later (so a couple months ago) both decided that nobody else we have met can match what we had so got back together, havent seen her for a month and won't for another 3 till I go down there for 6 months or so. After that, I don't know.

If anyone is thinking about getting into a LDR - don't do it! If for whatever reason this doesnt work out, im never getting into one again thats for SURE! I hope it does work out but its pretty complicated. As mentioned, Skype is a life saver, can call her mobile from my mobile for 13p or so. Had our ups and downs but if you are committed it can work, but definately sucks when you are out and about and see other couples together and just feel :(
 
I managed 7.5 years with 1,000 miles between me and my now ex.

If you trust each other it's easy. If she suddenly wants kids and to settle down and no-one is willing to relocate in the short term, it's not.
 
Met my ex back in March and we were both in the final year of uni, we broke just over a week ago because it wasn't working due to only being able to see each other one or two times a month and it just felt like we were growing apart.
 
Long Distance relationships are great... you can bang who you want when she ain't around. :D and that's the exact reason they don't normally work.
 
I am surprise how many people have gone through this actually, both scared me (!) and gave me hope with your stories. Well... seeing her in a few hours, will have a chat before it goes any further.
 
mrbell1984 said:
Just to make you all paranoid who's in a long distance relationship just think what they could be doing with someone else right now or even 12 hours from now ;)

mwahahahhaha.
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If that even enters your head the whole relationship is meaningless anyway.

I met my girlfriend at Uni and she moved back home after. We both plan to move in together in a few years time once we are both in a good position financially and job wise to relocate to an area of the country we both fancy.

I don't find it a big deal at all, we see each other often, we talk all the time but we also get our own time and space as well, which I like to fill with obsessively posting on internet forums.
 
Define LD: anything with travel times under 3 hours.

I had a long distance Edinburgh<->San Francisco which failed after a difficult year.
Recently survived Paris<->Lausanne with help from the TGV making travel times about 4 hours.

3 months later and my GF has now moved to richmond. Looking to see if I can survive another LDR.
 
As everyone said, what do you class as distance.

I met my girlfriend at university, she was a fresher I was a final year student ;) Either way, I am from Milton Keynes and she was in Birmingham - 85 miles. We both studied at Coventry which is nearer by around 30 miles. Not long distance compared to some but it isn't 10 minutes drive down the road.

Initially we would see eachother every other weekend, whilst she was at uni and she would come down. It progressed to every weekend after some time.

Now I have moved to Birmingham, we have brought a property and we get the keys today believe or not.

Been together 4 1/2 years say, had the tough times, arguments...lets break up...you name it. Though! We are now stronger then ever so don't be put off by all the moans and groans you read.

Try it, if it doesn't work out, speak about it, can something change? If it can't, well then your going to have to try harder or call it a day
 
fifiov said:
I did it for a long time. My girlfriend and I went to university a fair distance apart (Cambridge and Edinburgh), and saw each other every...2 months or so, I guess, but that wasn't so bad - we were both working a lot (her more than me, to be fair) and having a good time with new friends in our respective cities. Spent more time together in the Summer, and that was fine the first two years.

The following year, I did my study abroad in China, and we kept it going through that too - it was her final year at Cambridge, so she was ridiculously busy, but we still kept in touch as much as possible, and she came out for a few weeks over Christmas and new year. It was incredibly hard, I admit, and I felt very isolated over there at times. Still, survived that, moved back to the UK, and she came to live with me in Edinburgh for 2 years.

Now, however, she's moved to Leeds to do a PhD, and I'm still in Edinburgh for a while before moving back to China, and we eventually decided we just couldn't do long distance any more, especially after living together. Neither of us was going to stop the other from doing what they wanted, and ultimately we knew this was coming, but I couldn't put my life on hold for 4 years and she couldn't come to China with me, so...that was it really.

It sucks, after that long, especially when we're still in the same country for now. Sucks even more to have happened out of circumstance, as I'm still so hung up over her - she was my best friend after that long too, and the change in dynamic is horrible.

Anyway, er - basically, it's possible, as long as you're both committed, but it can be very hard depending on how often you see each other and your own circumstances, and as I found, it can just be too much in the end.
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This is the reason I'd never entertain a LDR, even if it worked to start with. Feel sorry for you mate, thats harsh!
 
I was in a long distance relationship for the better part of 3 years. I was at uni in Durham and she was at uni in Nottingham and then working in Leicester. Holidays were better as I lived on the Wirral and she lived in Lancashire. We saw each other about once a month while I was at uni, then more regularly during holidays. Lots of texting and calling most days.

Got married at the end of it.
 
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