Longest wait?

Psy-Blade · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:29

SS-89 said:
What I personally find odd is the fact you spend up to 2-3 weeks away from each other (I'm final year university and my GF lives pretty far away so during holidays only see her once or so but would never willingly spend that long apart)...if that's the case then how is this any different from those occasions?

Something doesn't quite add up.

We don't willingly spend them apart. Its just that she'll have work one weekend, I'll have a hike the next and a birthday after that. We live 80 miles apart or so now, but its only an hour on the motorway to see her.

It's different now because we're not talking so that she can get her head sorted out. We'd usually talk every 2 or 3 days and skype once a week.

ZG002 · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:29

So her whole ******* family is in on the break up?

One word I'm afraid.

Mug

JBuk · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:31

Psy-Blade said:
We don't willingly spend them apart. Its just that she'll have work one weekend, I'll have a hike the next and a birthday after that. We live 80 miles apart or so now, but its only an hour on the motorway to see her.

It's different now because we're not talking so that she can get her head sorted out. We'd usually talk every 2 or 3 days and skype once a week.

Doesn't exactly strike me as the greatest love affair tbh

Psy-Blade · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:31

ZG002 said:
So her whole ******* family is in on the break up?

One word I'm afraid.

Mug

Why so? her mums in Egypt at the moment and I can't wait for her to come back so I can have someone decent to talk to. We got along very well, and she'd never treat me unfairly.

Gideon Lorr · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:32

Raymond Lin said:
She knows. Deep down she knows.

Why would she give up something she loves?

Ding ding ding! Top answer! Give her one day away from you, then go to her out of the blue and put it to her: either you're on, or you aren't. Make her pick.

meghatronic · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:32

Psy-Blade said:
Why so? her mums in Egypt at the moment and I can't wait for her to come back so I can have someone decent to talk to. We got along very well, and she'd never treat me unfairly.

I'm gonna put money on the fact she knows and was involved in family discussions about it.

Blood is thicker than water.

MiNxYyY · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:34

I dont believe in this break BS.

Having a break is just another way to get with someone else, but ofc she wont say its cheating because you were on a break . .

End it now or forever be messed about.

Grandmaster Fap! · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:34

Sounds like this relationship is a ******* disaster, get drunk and move on...she has.

Psy-Blade · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:35

meghatronic said:
I'm gonna put money on the fact she knows and was involved in family discussions about it.

Blood is thicker than water.

Oh I know that she will prefer her daughter to be happy. I'm not stupid. But she also wouldn't lie to me or do anything to make this harder than it is.

Her mum know's we've been having trouble, and we've talked about that before. But she doesn't know about going on a break. We didn't want her to worry her while on holiday.

ZG002 · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:35

Dude, Her mum is talking you through it? Her sister is deleting numbers and keeping it from you till "they" see fit.

Are you some kind of fool? Relationships don't work like this, It's broken and over.

eatcustard · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:36

Post a pic your your GF, so we can decide, if she is worth waiting for

SHEDDER1uk · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:36

Yeah sorry fella your screwed.

uv · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:36

Psy-Blade said:
her mums in Egypt at the moment and I can't wait for her to come back so I can have someone decent to talk to.

Drop the gf and get with her mum? Sounds like you get on better..

JBuk · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:36

Psy-Blade said:
But she also wouldn't lie to me .

yeah, keep telling yourself that

ZG002 · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:36

Psy-Blade said:
Oh I know that she will prefer her daughter to be happy. I'm not stupid. But she also wouldn't lie to me or do anything to make this harder than it is.

Grow some balls and wake up would you?

Psy-Blade · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:38

ZG002 said:
Grow some balls and wake up would you?

lol. Like I said, I was there when her mum supported her sisters ex when he was up and dumped. They did all they could to make it easier for everyone involved.

SS-89 · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:38

Psy-Blade said:
We don't willingly spend them apart. Its just that she'll have work one weekend, I'll have a hike the next and a birthday after that. We live 80 miles apart or so now, but its only an hour on the motorway to see her.

It's different now because we're not talking so that she can get her head sorted out. We'd usually talk every 2 or 3 days and skype once a week.

Each to their own I guess, but if I'm not seeing my gf I'd definitely speak to her every day (Skype or otherwise). Problem is with your situation that your gf is essentially telling you that she's not sure if she's in love with you anymore (the whole convenience thing or wanting to see you)...I'd be worried and honestly would move on. I hope it works out for you but I think for your own sake you should cut ties and not be strung along. If she changes her mind and you still feel the same way then fine proceed from there.

Also there seems to be far too many people involved in this relationship, too many cooks springs to mind...

Dinomania · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:41

Sounds unusual, that's for sure!

To be honest, sounds like you're at the end of a honeymoon period. Whether she's going to wish to carry it on past said period (the honeymoon period lasts between 18 months and 3 years, based on hormones), depends on what she feels she wants and needs to work on right now.

I suspect it might be all over pet, sorry

If she was wanting to settle down and move in together - that'd be a next-step thing which tends to bring new life into a relationship if it's strong enough to weather the end of the honeymoon.

BUT as she appears to be a busy workaholic with her own place and her own life - working at a relationship (which you do have to do, once the butterflies and novelty are gone) doesn't appear likely to be one of her priorities.

Good luck though. Whichever way it goes, it's for the best. There's no way you can drag someone back to you in situations like this - only accept that this time, it wasn't for keeps.

ZG002 · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:41

I know what I'm saying is harsh, But you need a wake up call.

If your gf decides that is it, You won't hear anything from anyone. You won't bump into them (80 miles away) They have already took her bloody number from you!

It is meant to be between you and your gf, Not you,gf,gfs mum,gfs sister.

You really are asking to be pulled right over the coals here.

Psy-Blade · 26 Dec 2010 at 16:45

ZG002 said:
I know what I'm saying is harsh, But you need a wake up call.

If your gf decides that is it, You won't hear anything from anyone. You won't bump into them (80 miles away) They have already took her bloody number from you!

It is meant to be between you and your gf, Not you,gf,gfs mum,gfs sister.

You really are asking to be pulled right over the coals here.

I guess it is a hard concept for some people to understand. I know that even if we broke up (on good terms) that i'd be welcome over for a chat at any point. In fact I know I'd get a text from her parents saying they're sorry and that I'm welcome over.

Oh and her family lives a lot closer. Like 10 minutes away.