Losing a beloved pet.
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Sorry to hear, I'm still broken by losing my kitty in March after 18 years.
It still gets me more than I expected, it's different but in many ways it's been harder than losing my dad.
Hopefully your other doggo will help you through the grief
It still gets me more than I expected, it's different but in many ways it's been harder than losing my dad.
Hopefully your other doggo will help you through the grief
It is something I dread, our little pug is 4 in November and is a real character, I actually miss him when I'm staying away for work as in a morning when the wife gets out of bed he comes and snuggles into me for another hour. We don't have kids so he's our 'boy'.
Sending condolences to all pet parents who have lost family members as they're far more than just pets and something non-pet owners cannot understand fully.
Sending condolences to all pet parents who have lost family members as they're far more than just pets and something non-pet owners cannot understand fully.
Very sorry @Scania - It's a horrible pain and each time you go through it isn't really easier. They are such a big part of our lives. Marley looked like an amazing dog although I do have a GSD bias.
Here is a pic of my 6yo to hopefully raise a smile at this difficult time.
Here is a pic of my 6yo to hopefully raise a smile at this difficult time.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounded like it was his time and you did what was best for him.
I know all to well how you're feeling. I don't really get upset with humans dying, but when my dogs die, it feels like something has been taken from me that cannot be replaced.
When the first dog I actually owned myself died about 5 years ago now. Long story short I took him to the vet we he was having trouble eating and drinking, like a sore throat. Vet couldn't get tube down to check it, said I need to pick him up and take him to a specialist vet. When I got there he used to pant and hold his head to the side when he was excited to see me. He then started suffocating to death on his own tongue/throat and I had to scream at the vet to do something about it as she stood there and watched!! In the end he died due to suffocating.
It absolutely broke me. When I got home my other two dogs has absolutely smashed their crates to pieces and ripped their beds up, it's as if they knew what was happening. They never did anything like that in the years I had them. I couldn't talk to anyone, I had to take time off work because the sheer mention of it would just bring me to tears.
For anyone that knows me personally found this quite hard to deal with, as I am quite unemotional about anything and everything, so seeing me breaking down was probably strange and they didn't quite know how to deal with it.
Even typing this, I am holding back the tears, it still upsets me now. I still have two other dogs who are well past their usual breeds average lifetime and I'm trying to enjoy their last year's with me as much as possible but it's on my mind constantly.
They are not just family, they are part of you and they live their very short lives for you. There is something very special about dogs.
I know all to well how you're feeling. I don't really get upset with humans dying, but when my dogs die, it feels like something has been taken from me that cannot be replaced.
When the first dog I actually owned myself died about 5 years ago now. Long story short I took him to the vet we he was having trouble eating and drinking, like a sore throat. Vet couldn't get tube down to check it, said I need to pick him up and take him to a specialist vet. When I got there he used to pant and hold his head to the side when he was excited to see me. He then started suffocating to death on his own tongue/throat and I had to scream at the vet to do something about it as she stood there and watched!! In the end he died due to suffocating.
It absolutely broke me. When I got home my other two dogs has absolutely smashed their crates to pieces and ripped their beds up, it's as if they knew what was happening. They never did anything like that in the years I had them. I couldn't talk to anyone, I had to take time off work because the sheer mention of it would just bring me to tears.
For anyone that knows me personally found this quite hard to deal with, as I am quite unemotional about anything and everything, so seeing me breaking down was probably strange and they didn't quite know how to deal with it.
Even typing this, I am holding back the tears, it still upsets me now. I still have two other dogs who are well past their usual breeds average lifetime and I'm trying to enjoy their last year's with me as much as possible but it's on my mind constantly.
They are not just family, they are part of you and they live their very short lives for you. There is something very special about dogs.
Soldato
Mate I don't even know you, but I'm sittting here welling up for you 
Brutally hard to deal with but you DID do the right thing, he's off bouncing over the rainbow bridge and will wait for you all there.
Brutally hard to deal with but you DID do the right thing, he's off bouncing over the rainbow bridge and will wait for you all there.
Soldato
I had to do the same with my much loved cat George a couple of years ago. Utterly broke me Feel for you
Feel for you 
Soldato
It’s the price we pay for loving them.
Caporegime
We had to put our cat down who was only 10 a couple of years back. Absolutely horrible. Our Border Collie just turned 11. It is not unheard of collies living into their late teens but we just try not to think about it.
Thank you all for the empathy and support, and indeed sharing your own thoughts and experiences, it's heartbreaking and I'm still very much mourning Marleys loss.
My worry now is my other White Shepherd Roo who's plainly missing him terribly, she's barely eaten a thing since I came home on Monday without him....
It's times like this when I remember what a wonderful community this forum is.
Again, thank you all.
Paul.
My worry now is my other White Shepherd Roo who's plainly missing him terribly, she's barely eaten a thing since I came home on Monday without him....
It's times like this when I remember what a wonderful community this forum is.
Again, thank you all.
Paul.
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Soldato
I’ve lost two dogs in the past 4 years. To this day, it’s the most emotionally painful thing I’ve endured.
That being said, I would happily go through it again, for the joy they do bring in their (relatively) short life.
I really sympathise with your situation. I hope you’re getting on okay. Definitely take the time to feel everything you need to feel.
That being said, I would happily go through it again, for the joy they do bring in their (relatively) short life.
I really sympathise with your situation. I hope you’re getting on okay. Definitely take the time to feel everything you need to feel.
There isn't a pet owner of a certain age reading your post that won't have 100% empathy with your situation. It's the real B*gger of owning a dog/cat, you will end up losing them, either to old age or indeed have to make that final decision you made, for exactly the right reasons. The loss hits hard, and I know several people that just can no longer consider a pet simply because they can't go thru the loss again.
You have a sense of bereavement because you are indeed bereaved, yeah it's not a human bereavement, but it is still an absolutely real thing. Your loss shows you cared, you would need to worry about yourself if it didn't have an impact.
Take your time, and give your other one plenty of attention.
You have a sense of bereavement because you are indeed bereaved, yeah it's not a human bereavement, but it is still an absolutely real thing. Your loss shows you cared, you would need to worry about yourself if it didn't have an impact.
Take your time, and give your other one plenty of attention.
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Aww man, I feel your pain mate.
Grown up with dogs pretty much all my life and so I've been through this a fair few times...and I lost my very own boy (Milo) a few years back, bless him.
As soon as my current circumstances change though, I'll be searching for another.
RIP Marley and Milo. X
Grown up with dogs pretty much all my life and so I've been through this a fair few times...and I lost my very own boy (Milo) a few years back, bless him.
As soon as my current circumstances change though, I'll be searching for another.
RIP Marley and Milo. X
So sorry to hear about your loss OP, I went through it in January this year, I lost Tyke who'd been my best mate for 18 years. Reading your post brought back feelings. It does get easier with time. You are obviously a caring dog owner and you gave him a good life and a painless send off. If I had to go through it again I would have had Tyke euthanised a month or so earlier than I did. If there's a heaven we'll meet them again.
How I hate myself for what I have done, no matter how much I appreciate it was the right decision.
She was terrified of him when we first met...
How he changed her!
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I'm afraid its part of the process.My fiancée with Marley, in the vets, just prior to his sedation.
How I hate myself for what I have done, no matter how much I appreciate it was the right decision.
She was terrified of him when we first met...
How he changed her!
You made the decision thinking of Marley and what was best for him. I bawled for three days after losing my first dog. Remember they cannot hep themselves so we have to help them. I promise it gets easier. Hang in there.
Thank you man, but, by Christ, it's so damn hard.... :/
Caporegime
Hi Scania. The cliches are cliches for a reason: you did the right thing even if it doesn't like it right now, and time is a great healer.
Hang in there
Hang in there