Marriage

LordSplodge · 22 Mar 2009 at 11:31

Zefan said:
This is a common opinion of those who've never seen a successful married couple, and it is completely wrong.

It can be exactly what you say, but only if you married for the wrong reasons. Marriage can be a beautiful thing.

Agreed. I married (for the reasons Knip posted) and feel my marriage is, indeed, a thing of beauty.

Nobody should feel they have to, nor should they be coerced.

purexxevil · 22 Mar 2009 at 11:33

If you love her and want to spend your lives together then yes.

But if you really feel that you need to have a forum decide, then a resounding no!
Its one of those things that is entirely personal, and you have to be entirely certain about your decision.

Its obviously up to you, but you shouldn't marry out of pressure or guilt or anything, only if you are willing to really try at it, make it work, and make it a wonderful commitment.

malef!c · 22 Mar 2009 at 11:35

Evangelion said:
No, marriage is what you make it.

Nicely said.

Wyrdo · 22 Mar 2009 at 11:39

Show us some pics of her in as little clothing as possible so we can decide if she's good enough for you!

MrKeeno · 22 Mar 2009 at 12:15

This thread needs a poll tbh.

But whatever the result is you have to go with it

Infam0us · 22 Mar 2009 at 13:20

silversurfer said:
Sorry to hear you might be leaving us

CrazySpeaker · 22 Mar 2009 at 13:21

Viper² said:
Surely you aren't basing your opinion on people on a forum, even that not of your own. Either you want to be with her forever or you don't. It is your decision and yours only.

/thread

Jamesdavid3 · 22 Mar 2009 at 14:00

These days MORE and more people are NOT getting married...

if you look at the stats is dropping so much. i think in another 10 years it will be rare to get married..

EffBee · 22 Mar 2009 at 14:29

All I will say is be very sure about it. Marrying the wrong person is the single worst mistake you can make in life. If you have any major area of your lives in which you have radically different principles then don't do it. By this I mean, for instance if you expect her to have a career and work to support a dual income life style for the duration of the marriage, but she expects to be the little 1950's style housewife and tend to the home and kids - then there is a problem and you should walk.

Dolph · 22 Mar 2009 at 14:38

Jamesdavid3 said:
These days MORE and more people are NOT getting married...

if you look at the stats is dropping so much. i think in another 10 years it will be rare to get married..

But more of those who do marry are staying together than have done for a long time.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2008/aug/29/4

Which suggests that people are thinking about it much more before doing it, which is not a bad trend.

Now if only the government would reverse the policy of removing the benefits for taking extra responsibility on via marriage...

Ben M · 22 Mar 2009 at 14:39

^TANK^ · 22 Mar 2009 at 14:44

digipeep said:
4 1/2 years.

I have been with my partner for just over six years now and just like you lol, I have been getting the signals. But to be honest I don't think marriage is for me! Don't be pressured into doing something you don't want to do digipeep marriage is a mutual thing that you both need to want. Both my mum and sister are on there 3rd marriages now but thankfully they have settled down now :eek:

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Wicksta · 22 Mar 2009 at 14:56

Dolph said:
Now if only the government would reverse the policy of removing the benefits for taking extra responsibility on via marriage...

Why should people get extra benefits just because they get married? I never understood that one.

Richdog · 22 Mar 2009 at 15:00

Wicksta said:
Why should people get extra benefits just because they get married? I never understood that one.

Because it promotes the traditional family unit. Believe it or not, traditionally marriage has always generally been seen as a positive thing....

^TANK^ · 22 Mar 2009 at 15:13

Richdog said:
Because it promotes the traditional family unit. Believe it or not, traditionally marriage has always generally been seen as a positive thing....

I guess if you were planing on having children marriage would be the way to go.

PESolution · 22 Mar 2009 at 15:43

i hope she reads this and you get rightly dumped

Dolph · 22 Mar 2009 at 15:44

Wicksta said:
Why should people get extra benefits just because they get married? I never understood that one.

Because you take on extra responsibility by getting married?

marriage gives a legal obligation to be the first line of support for another, an extra level before state involvement, as such it should be rewarded.

Wicksta · 22 Mar 2009 at 16:06

Dolph said:
Because you take on extra responsibility by getting married?

marriage gives a legal obligation to be the first line of support for another, an extra level before state involvement, as such it should be rewarded.

What extra responsibilities would I be taking on if I married my girlfriend , with whom I own a house and have lived with for nearly 5 years?

Wicksta · 22 Mar 2009 at 16:06

Richdog said:
Because it promotes the traditional family unit. Believe it or not, traditionally marriage has always generally been seen as a positive thing....

So has religion, should there be a Christian benefit?

helpimcrap · 22 Mar 2009 at 16:11

Wicksta said:
What extra responsibilities would I be taking on if I married my girlfriend , with whom I own a house and have lived with for nearly 5 years?

it's the prospect. you are saying you intend to stay together until you die whereas a boyfriend/girlfriend thing means either could walk away any time.

no wonder this countries up the creek judging by some of the moral attitudes shown here. :rolleyes: