Need serious help, I'm in trouble.....

Jeez op, this sound horrible. What you need to to is show this guy a side to you he is yet to see. Get a baseball bat and take a few swings at him when he starts getting aggressive. Fight fire with fire. You've been bullied all your life, don't you think it's time to stop running and stick up for yourself for a change?
 
Firstly can I say something?

If you consider yourself to have 'low-self esteem' first consider whether the people who are around you are just absolute a-holes.

But now, something more relivent to your problem.

Get out of there, its not right that you're living in a place like that.
 
lowrider, amongst the typical GD responses, which are always good for a laugh, i too agree with Castiels advice.
However, you DO have to strap on a set mate and at least have the courage to follow a plan of moving out and bettering your life....if the alternative of confronting this tw@ is not an option (also takes more courgae tbh).
I really feel for you mate, but you've been given plenty of advice.....the rest is truly up to you. I know its been rough for you, but at 34, you really do have to make a decision about who is in charge of your life now....make the move, better yourself and your life......make this current experience a distant memory.

Fantasy options:
1. You could always come back for a visit and go ninja on him!
2. Get the GD Massive away from their keyboards, down to this wasters digs and get medieavel on his ass.

Good luck buddy.
 
Sorry to hear about your predicament dude.

Firstly, I wholeheartedly agree with others about not being confrontational, particularly with someone who throws knives about.

If I were in your situation, I'd rally around everyone else in the house and tell them to all tell the landlord he has seven days to evict or you're ALL moving out, if you can get them to do that, that is.

Good luck getting it sorted :)
 
Quick answer here, you have a job and income so you can move out whenever you like, even on minimum wage you have anough to rent your own flat, or private bedsit. Move somewhere far enough away so you dont bump into him but are still close enough to work. Forget all the silly advice you have being given regarding violence, however a baseball bat in your flat will provide reasurance until you move out.
Next step is to join the Gym and get back some self confidence and sense of achievement, or even something like the TA's if it takes your fancy, it did me the world of good and I thoughroughly enjoyed it, gave me bags of confidence, I made friends and got fit at the same time and you get payed.
Once you have regained your confidence/self worth then look at college courses to get yourself trained up for something better.
 
Joke Answer -

Tell him his threat bought out your latent homosexuality and try and kiss him. He will be off like a shot! If he kisses you back just go with it and be dominant, leave him with a bum like a .50 cal exit wound.

Serious Answer -

Sucky situation dude, all in it sounds like you really need to move out. Might be an ideal opportunity to move out, re-locate and start all over. Good luck!
 
Make plans to move out and sort your life out so that you are happy in all aspects of your life. It sounds like you were sort of just existing before and now this guy has made that uncomfortable for you. Use this as the kick up the behind to change things up a bit.

The sad fact of these matters is that when you are living in poor accommodation in a dodgy area you will have the other issues that come with it. Keep in contact with the police, try to move out even if this gets resolved and in the mean time, keep a cricket bat or something by the door just in case.

If he isn't all mouth and no trousers or is mentally unstable you need to be able to protect yourself.
 
A proper nut job would not go around telling people on the phone what they are going to do to you (within earshot). They would just go and do it.

This guy is a mouthpiece.

You still need to report it to the police, it means if anything happens its all recorded and they might just be able to get to you faster.
You should also contact your landlord and say you ar efearful of your life while he is in the building and see if he can help out / relocate you / get rid of him faster.

Also ask the landlord to put an extra bolt on your door.

Good luck!
 
I always have stuck up for myself so in that situation would have probably ended up kicking his head in, but if you are not like that then police is pretty much your only option
 
Castiel said:
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However, having something to hand is not a bad idea, just not a sword or a bow and arrow (how would you nock and fire a bow in a bedsit?, practicalities people!)

Get a cheap cricket bat or something you can grab and use easily to threaten him with if he tries to break in and can explain easily why you have one if you injure the fool......and call the police, preferably before he finishes kicking the door in.
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I own a bow and arrow and I'm sure it would be possible assuming you have enough room to walk around anyway. Trust me, seeing someone with a drawn bow pointing at you from 5 feet will be more scary then a guy with a cricket bat.
 
Sorry to hear about your situation, sounds awful :(

I can only echo some of the advice that has already been said, keep the police informed and, if possible, leave. Even if you can't leave for a long time at least leave for a while.

Hope you can get it sorted out somehow.
 
This must be an awful position to be in. Don't confront him like others have said. That might just get you hurt and make the situation worse. You have no idea if he's serious or not. I'd suggest you plan to move out as soon as you can. There's no shame in that. Use this as a catalyst to find a better place to live and maybe from there also improve your work situation.

Don't be afraid to take risks with your life to try to move on. I've always tried to live by the mantra of "if you change nothing then tomorrow will be the same as today".

Good luck and keep us informed.
 
cheets64 said:
Not sure, move on, words cant really do anything, I cant help you, you have to have some bottle, life is not cool but, go out your comfort zone, get the adrenaline going.

If he comes through your door make sure you are ready, I am no expert but saying "ello" Castiel style would not be cool.

Lets face it, if anything kicks off its you vs him, man up. Dont take advice off a 21 stone Castiel, dont become something you hate, just own him. Whats the worst that can happen.
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Hahahaha. :D

Cheets - "Ignore the serious advice, go and av' him"

Smart move against a psychopath... not. I love how you're continuing to embarrass yourself pretending to be some massive hard-nut, when you're anything but. Still, it's mildly entertaining.

You couldn't help him even if you lived next door.
 
Get the guy chucked out and then move on yourself. It's a bit crap for the landlord but a) it'll teach the other guy a lesson, b) you won't be there if he decides to come back for 'revenge' and c) you'll find a better place to live because this house sounds like hell.
 
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