Need serious help, I'm in trouble.....

Cuchulain said:
Sorry, but manning up IS the best solution, it'll stand you in good stead should a situation like this arise in the future.
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To a bully may be.

To a psycho druggie who is high off his face and thinks he can take on the world?

OP will just get himself beaten up at best, dead probably.

The guy already thrown a knife at him about some dirty dishes! Does that sound like a reasonable person?
 
I have to agree with Castiel and a few others here.

More because of what you first said at the beginning

1. You don’t like where you live
2. You don’t really like your Job and its low paid
3. You don’t seem to think very highly of yourself and refer to your past a lot which I feel could be also linked to the area you live.
4. The current issues with this guy

Personally its easy to say man up do this do that falcon punch etc. But this could be a really good time for you to change your life around.

A lot of people with confidence issues will hang on to the past and whets happening around them presently letting it affect everything in their life’s.

I would suggest moving somewhere new to start afresh and leave your past in the past. Yes it sounds scary but you can remake yourself in a new location away from the crap in the past and be whoever you want to be.

Finding rented place like yours in isn’t that hard to be honest. I understand the cost issue behind it but for a new start it might be better to sell something to get some money together or move in with your nan.

You could use everything that has happened as a push to start afresh change your life. Get a new job, meet new people, hit the gym etc.

Change is scary for everyone just remember its never easy at the start but if your prepared to put the work in you can make your life better then it is.

Hope that has been some help.
 
UPDATE :

I'm alive, I sat down last night trying to think what was the right thing to do, I kept thinking either 'fight or flight', so I decided instead to take the elusive middle ground and write him a letter explaining politely that what he did to me was wrong, I felt it needed to be said, I thought maybe being in ink it would resonate more, there was a dash of empathy in there because he is human after all with he's own set of problems but I explained that the people around him shouldn't suffer because of that, maybe it was the right thing to do, maybe not, either way he came down today with the letter in his hand and apologised profusely.

Now I'm not sure where that leaves me now, I still feel like I'm living with a ticking time bomb and one that I have to handle with care, he did say to me that he doesn't want to move out, I think besides my letter that was something he was pondering also as he has no money and his parents won't have him living at theirs full time due to his drinking and drug taking.

That fact is this incident has made me realise that I need to change my life, my room has become a gilded cage full of trinkets that have become a poor substitute for my dwindling happiness, I've been stuck in a rut for years now, I can never be content living in a room any more, owning my own washing machine has become a dream of mine but I should have bigger aspirations than that, at the age of 34 I should already have all the basic amenities in my life.

I have read every reply and I really appreciate the support, you guys really came through for me, I'm sorry if this isn't an 'apt' outcome considering the circumstances, my plan now is to save every penny I earn, that is top priority, I am currently residing in Newquay, career prospects are pretty grim down here, not a lot of people have jobs all the year round and most jobs only pay minimum wage, once I've got a nest egg set-up I will have a lot more confidence about moving, in the mean time I will look for work up country, I don't really have any credible qualifications but I just want to basic job to get me started up country (bucks), I've always had a yearning to go back home, I'll move into a 'normal' flat (nothing extravagant), I'll supplement my wages with housing benefit if I have to, not sure how well that will go down on here but I need a better living space, I feel that will help me immensely, if I can get the basics sorted then I can work on myself and hopefully reeducate myself in a better environment.
 
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SuperTronNarwhal said:
Can someone make a TL;DR version please!
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OP lives in carp hole
Jobless Chav in one room
Druggy Bully in top room
Druggy throws knife at him
Druggy throws Hoover at ex-gf

Landlord says he/she is getting rid of Druggy
Druggy threating "Gonna get you"
OP hiding in room whilst druggy is upstairs

**EDIT**
OP writes letter to druggy
Druggy apologises
 
So you wrote him a letter and it's helped the situation?

Well done. So much for the "kill him" BS some people were spouting. :)

If nothing else, it should buy you some time to sort things out, you don't want to stay there if possible.
 
Robbo said:
If nothing else, it should buy you some time to sort things out, you don't want to stay there if possible.
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No I don't really want to stay here long, but my landlord practically begged me to stay yesterday, I think it's because I've been in this room for 6 years and have never been late with my rent once while I've watched many tenants over the years come and go, I suppose he sees me as a secure source of income.
 
I'm glad you got it sorted & am pretty sure you haven't minded the few jokes that were chucked into the thread. :cool:
 
lowrider007 said:
No I don't really want to stay here long, but my landlord practically begged me to stay yesterday, I think it's because I've been in this room for 6 years and have never been late with my rent once while I've watched many tenants over the years come and go, I suppose he sees me as a secure source of income.
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Well, if he thinks you are that valuable, tell him you're going unless he vets his possible tenants a bit more thoroughly in future. You don't want to be living with drugged up nutters.
 
Glad you got it sorted but is it possible you got lucky with the letter timing possibly between drug and drink induced psycho states :p

Planning to get out of that place should still be on the cards
 
Jonny ///M said:
Just man the **** up and tell him to **** off.

With scum like that you just have to be upfront and arrogant. Also I'd go with hit first and worry about it later approach I've used throughout my short life.

Essentially he thinks you're a pussy and will take full advantage of it. If he breaks in just smash him with the closest thing to you.
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The real "Law of the Jungle".

I suggest the same, also don't let him sense weakness or he'll be all over you. Deal with it for now be brave and start looking to move out of there man, it doesn't sound like a environment you want to live in.
 
DAvE18 said:
Planning to get out of that place should still be on the cards
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It is trust me :)

Robbo said:
Well, if he thinks you are that valuable, tell him you're going unless he vets his possible tenants a bit more thoroughly in future. You don't want to be living with drugged up nutters.
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I've tried to sway him from having certain tenants in the past, but he has said there comes a point where he has to take who he can get, the thing is when your living in cheap shared accommodation with only 2 weeks deposit needed it attracts all sorts, in a building with 7 rooms your always going to get someone in there that is problematic, living in places like this you are subjected to all sorts, if it's not a druggie then it's single mum with screaming babies etc, it's just not a healthy environment to live in which is why I'm going to do all I can to change that now.
 
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lowrider007 said:
No I don't really want to stay here long, but my landlord practically begged me to stay yesterday, I think it's because I've been in this room for 6 years and have never been late with my rent once while I've watched many tenants over the years come and go, I suppose he sees me as a secure source of income.
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You have to do what suits you though. I think that you are right in that the landlord sees you as a secure and regular source of income but as he seemed to know the guy before he moved him in the other tenants well-being wasn't that high on his list of concerns over that of any extra income he could get.

Let the above instance be a lesson for you and I do not want to sound pessimistic but I would use this seemingly peaceful period to seriously look now at other places to live and just move out without leaving any sorts of forwarding addresses.

Best of luck :)
 
What's your job at the moment lowrider? What qualifications do you have? Just GCSEs (or what ever they were called in your day)?
 
^TANK^ said:
If he needs to ask other people to get involved, he isn't going to do anything imo. He sounds like your typical all bark and no bite kind of individual, he is just trying to intimidate you.
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Exactly, people like this are full of ****. If something was going to happen it would have already.
 
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