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Yaayuh! said:
Make that 4 cancellations.

I've just contacted the partnership and gave them a complaint and said if the next appointment isn't met, I'll be making a serious formal complaint against them.
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Don't wait, start that complaint procedure now. Sometimes you have to be the one shouting loudest.
 
dl8860 said:
Don't wait, start that complaint procedure now. Sometimes you have to be the one shouting loudest.
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Got them done today, finally!

My poor boy didn’t like it at all at the time but 5 minutes later it’s like nothing ever happened…

Just got to wait for the side effects now, hopefully they’re mild.
 
Anyone with a 4 1/2 year old boy?
If there is, are they naturally horrible small versions of satan. Crying over nothing, refusing to do anything we ask, hitting his older brother (he likes playing with his 2 year old brother though), generally just being a total dick head.

My eldest wasn't like this as he had ASD and ADHD from early on (undiagnosed until a few years back) so his bringing up and attitude was different, but my middle child is just..... I have no words.
 
Droolinggimp said:
Anyone with a 4 1/2 year old boy?
If there is, are they naturally horrible small versions of satan. Crying over nothing, refusing to do anything we ask, hitting his older brother (he likes playing with his 2 year old brother though), generally just being a total dick head.

My eldest wasn't like this as he had ASD and ADHD from early on (undiagnosed until a few years back) so his bringing up and attitude was different, but my middle child is just..... I have no words.
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My eldest is 4 and a half. He can be tricky when he wants to be for sure, I'd say he varies rather than being a small satan. His specialty is huffing and saying that anything we ask him to do is just too much effort. We fluctuate between thinking we're too lenient and he gets away with murder, and then cracking down on him to improve his behaviour, then we back off and the cycle continues! They are still fairly young, but at the same time I feel like they are getting to an age now, especially starting school very soon, where you want them on the right path.
 
Andr3w said:
Anyone got any tips for settling a newborn? She's 8 days old and going through the standard wake/eat/poop/sleep every 4ish hours.

However about 50% of the time she cries when she's put back down for a sleep, if we pick her up and hold her she'll fall asleep within a few minutes. When she's back down in her cot/basket she'll start crying again.

Any ideas? I'm assuming this is normal and it doesn't bother me too much as she's a new born, but I'd be worried if we kept doing this as she gets older and becomes dependant on this?
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How's this going a month later?

We had a baby with colic from about 4 weeks through to 5 months which was a real test of character. The poor babe was clearly in pain, and there is nothing you can do apart from hold them and rock them - we had screaming tears from 4/5pm through to 9/10 pm each night for 4 months - fortunately she then settled and slept a bit but it wasnt until about 7 months we were getting more than a 6-7 hour initial stint of sleep out of her.

Fastforward to now though and she is almost 13 months - she is generally sleeping for 10 or so hours in a stint which is currently heaven (it wont last though!).
 
Droolinggimp said:
Anyone with a 4 1/2 year old boy?
If there is, are they naturally horrible small versions of satan. Crying over nothing, refusing to do anything we ask, hitting his older brother (he likes playing with his 2 year old brother though), generally just being a total dick head.

My eldest wasn't like this as he had ASD and ADHD from early on (undiagnosed until a few years back) so his bringing up and attitude was different, but my middle child is just..... I have no words.
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Smack him to teach discipline (I know this will be frowned on), but its worked for years.
 
dl8860 said:
My eldest is 4 and a half. He can be tricky when he wants to be for sure, I'd say he varies rather than being a small satan. His specialty is huffing and saying that anything we ask him to do is just too much effort. We fluctuate between thinking we're too lenient and he gets away with murder, and then cracking down on him to improve his behaviour, then we back off and the cycle continues! They are still fairly young, but at the same time I feel like they are getting to an age now, especially starting school very soon, where you want them on the right path.
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When hes good he is literally an angel. At school (nursery) he is great, no issues at all. He starts reception in September and the teacher is looking forward to having him. Like now, all three are sat outside eating a lunch snack, well behaved. A bit rowdy playing before hand but thats just noisy kids for you as they were all playing in the garden. Hes been fine so far, a little mardy juts after breakfast as he didn't wnat to help tidy up some toys. threw a fit and started to cry and storm off.
 
theone8181 said:
Smack him to teach discipline (I know this will be frowned on), but its worked for years.
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I completely disagree with this. It's a great way to teach a child that violence is the answer and whilst it may work in your presence, who knows what type of psycopath or bully it will create at School.
 
dl8860 said:
My eldest is 4 and a half. He can be tricky when he wants to be for sure, I'd say he varies rather than being a small satan. His specialty is huffing and saying that anything we ask him to do is just too much effort. We fluctuate between thinking we're too lenient and he gets away with murder, and then cracking down on him to improve his behaviour, then we back off and the cycle continues! They are still fairly young, but at the same time I feel like they are getting to an age now, especially starting school very soon, where you want them on the right path.
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Offer him choices.

Choice 1 being he does Thing X right now without further discussion and he gets to do something nice later (preferably something already planned that he’s looking forward to).

Choice 2 being he doesn’t do Thing X that you’ve asked him to right now and has a visit to the bottom step after being told that the planned nice thing is now cancelled.

Learning will occur after 2-3 doses of Choice 2.

This process must be followed every time he acts out and both parents must stick to the script as he will play you off against each other.
 
Droolinggimp said:
When hes good he is literally an angel. At school (nursery) he is great, no issues at all. He starts reception in September and the teacher is looking forward to having him. Like now, all three are sat outside eating a lunch snack, well behaved. A bit rowdy playing before hand but thats just noisy kids for you as they were all playing in the garden. Hes been fine so far, a little mardy juts after breakfast as he didn't wnat to help tidy up some toys. threw a fit and started to cry and storm off.
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My two get "frumpy" and poor attitudes when they aren't sleeping properly. At his age he needs a minimum of 13 hours per night (or shorter if he still naps during the day).

Bad days for us usually follow immediately after a break in routine, e.g. they've recently had late nights due to holiday or family trips etc.
 
Droolinggimp said:
When hes good he is literally an angel. At school (nursery) he is great, no issues at all. He starts reception in September and the teacher is looking forward to having him. Like now, all three are sat outside eating a lunch snack, well behaved. A bit rowdy playing before hand but thats just noisy kids for you as they were all playing in the garden. Hes been fine so far, a little mardy juts after breakfast as he didn't wnat to help tidy up some toys. threw a fit and started to cry and storm off.
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I‘ve found “If I have to tidy up anyone of your toys after a I’ve asked you to do it, you won’t be seeing that toy again for a week.” worked wonders with my daughters.
 
sHo0sH said:
I completely disagree with this. It's a great way to teach a child that violence is the answer and whilst it may work in your presence, who knows what type of psycopath or bully it will create at School.
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It's a good job sternly telling adults works so well and we don't have to use violence to stop them :rolleyes: . I'm sure you must have been smacked as a child and I'm assuming you've not attacked anyone? I suspect at 4.5 they are getting to the point where they feel they should be able to do something, but can't and they end up getting very frustrated. I know my son is the same (although almost 6), as his big sister can do certain things that he can't do, but he feels he should be able to do (Hope that all makes sense).
 
theone8181 said:
Smack him to teach discipline (I know this will be frowned on), but its worked for years.
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A; it's been shown in countless researches that it does not work
B; pretty sure it's illegal.


Funny how our lass who works in social spends more time trying to help troubled youngsters who have had a good 'slap'

Adults use violence as it's quick and easy to use as a method of ' teaching ' hence why it's more prevalent in poorer families who usually ignore thier kids then just smack them as a quick method to sort things out instead of carrot and stick etc.

I couldn't ever imagine smacking my little girl, it's just wrong full stop.
 
On smacking, I think it should be a last resort. I do see that there can be a time and place for a controlled smack, if all else has failed. But if all else has failed, then unless you are very unlucky with circumstances, it's generally you as a parent that has failed. So you are only making up for your own errors generally.
 
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