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Ooph. Rather stick the wife back on implanon. Unless you mean there will be other benefit of being snipped for yourself?
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A massive first 2 weeks for my eldest at Junior school so far (first year, whatever that number is these days) He has ADHD and ASD, high functioning. He has a very very in-depth EHCP assessment and it was granted. We offered our preferred schools for him earlier this year to the council as they were SEND schools. They decided he would be fine at the mainstream school next door to his infants he was at. We were a little miffed to say the least. The EHCP strictly stated he needed 1-2-1 support throughout, mainstream school would not be suitable for him and a SEND school would be the ideal option.
I went to see the school last term with the SENCO officer who was nice, to be honest they had a fair bit in place to help SEN children. Spoke to the wife about it, and we decided not to appeal and see how he settles in. He had a great first week, some times the noise affected him and had a few little but quick episodes, they had ear defenders to hand which helped. Had a good 30 mins chat last Friday with his teacher, a really nice young man (probably 24-27 yo), he has worked with special need children before and he was really looking forward to working with my lad. He mentioned my lad was working well and last week he came top in this point system they use on DoJo!! so far this week he is smashing it even more. On course to better last weeks score.
My lad had a few troubles going into class on Monday just gone as it was Stone age dress up as they are learning about the stone age now. He doesn't like dressing up, and the teacher was great with him. When we got him home after school we asked our lad, why he doesn't like dressing up and didnt' want to go in to class to day, he said, he doesn't like change.... This was a massive turning point for us. He now can tell us reasons why he does what he does, he knows why he needs to tell us. Its amazing now. So proud of him.
Our 4.5 year old can ******* do one though. ****.
I went to see the school last term with the SENCO officer who was nice, to be honest they had a fair bit in place to help SEN children. Spoke to the wife about it, and we decided not to appeal and see how he settles in. He had a great first week, some times the noise affected him and had a few little but quick episodes, they had ear defenders to hand which helped. Had a good 30 mins chat last Friday with his teacher, a really nice young man (probably 24-27 yo), he has worked with special need children before and he was really looking forward to working with my lad. He mentioned my lad was working well and last week he came top in this point system they use on DoJo!! so far this week he is smashing it even more. On course to better last weeks score.
My lad had a few troubles going into class on Monday just gone as it was Stone age dress up as they are learning about the stone age now. He doesn't like dressing up, and the teacher was great with him. When we got him home after school we asked our lad, why he doesn't like dressing up and didnt' want to go in to class to day, he said, he doesn't like change.... This was a massive turning point for us. He now can tell us reasons why he does what he does, he knows why he needs to tell us. Its amazing now. So proud of him.
Our 4.5 year old can ******* do one though. ****.
Can I seek an opinion on Tuition for kids in Year 4 or 5
I feel my son could do with some help for Maths and brushing up on some aspects of his English.
I live near an area that has access to Grammar School which seem a lot better than the state schools within the catchment based solely on their results so with that said looking to invest in some extra help to first aid his day to day skills with the hope he kicks into gear to have a chance at passing the entrance exams.
I due feel Covid has had an impact on the foundations and that following the school curriculum whilst playing catchup isn't the greatest.
Just seeking an opinion really how others have gone about it or what impact it had on their studies.
There are so many so called tutors to choose from and they all just seem like a business at the end of the day.
I feel my son could do with some help for Maths and brushing up on some aspects of his English.
I live near an area that has access to Grammar School which seem a lot better than the state schools within the catchment based solely on their results so with that said looking to invest in some extra help to first aid his day to day skills with the hope he kicks into gear to have a chance at passing the entrance exams.
I due feel Covid has had an impact on the foundations and that following the school curriculum whilst playing catchup isn't the greatest.
Just seeking an opinion really how others have gone about it or what impact it had on their studies.
There are so many so called tutors to choose from and they all just seem like a business at the end of the day.
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So after 4 years I’d trying finally found out we are expecting. Still early and things can happen but staying positive.
anyone got some rough figures of what to budget ? Upfront and consumables etc?
Also any cool tech recommendations eg cams?
anyone got some rough figures of what to budget ? Upfront and consumables etc?
Also any cool tech recommendations eg cams?
Congratulations mate, there is a hell of allot of faddy stuff out there at a high price that in reality isn't necessary. For us, and obviously depending on feeding preferences, the perfect prep machine was an absolute godsend, best money that we spent by far. For cams we used the Eufy one which has been fine, however in reality we would have been just as well buying a standalone camera Dufy indoor cam and hooking it up to phones.
*edit* obviously for further down the line, don't go mad on clothes, especially size <1 year, chances are you'll be gifted a lot and beyond that they outgrow them super fast. We wen't completely tot with our firstborn, our second born son pretty much lived in baby grows for the first year, although being born right at the start of the pandemic that made it a bit easier to make clothes go a bit further than we otherwise would have done.
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After faffing around for 2 years with Alexa/phones with BT speakers etc I finally got this:
White noise machine (game changer to get them sleeping through the night):
White Noise Machine, Portable Sleep Sound Machine with 6 Natural Sounds for Baby Soothing, Adult Therapy, Tinnitus Relief and Relaxation with Timer - Battery or Mains Powered : Amazon.co.uk: Health & Personal Care
White Noise Machine, Portable Sleep Sound Machine with 6 Natural Sounds for Baby Soothing, Adult Therapy, Tinnitus Relief and Relaxation with Timer - Battery or Mains Powered : Amazon.co.uk: Health & Personal Care
smile.amazon.co.uk
For camera I've been happy with this:
Although you do need WiFi or else it is a bit of a faff. It is PTZ in case I take it to grammys/hotels etc.
I didn't bother with perfect prep but then we invested £300 in a sleep coach so she didn't wake in the night from about 3-6 months old. Search this thread for the abuse I got but here I am 2.25 years later with a 8-7/8 lass. Almost forgot to wake up this morning - 0815!
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It may be too late but consider enrolling him on a Latin course. I learned far more about English grammar from my Latin teachers than I did from my English teachers.
My boy is almost 6 months now and he's at the stage where he can roll over easy enough, but can't get back. So at night time, constant grunting and a game of roll him back to his front every few minutes until he falls asleep on his side. He's sleeping from ~5pm to 5am now.
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Kids currently do a bit of extra Maths tuition for similar reasons and we just found the lady through word of mouth. Ask around some of the parents at the school, or ask the school, more than likely to find someone.
They both do 1 hour a week via zoom on their PC's and have shown notable improvement so far.
Baby slings etc, forget the bloody pram, they are a hindrance! Best thing ever carrying her around in a sling, either learn to use the fabric wraps or buy a purpose made babycarry
Also just a baby monitor, we got a second hand BT one, works a charm, don't think you need tech for anything else really.
Don't bother with a baby prep machine, just boil kettle make about 4 bottles up at a time, whack in the fridge, they break,leak and are not recommended really I don't think, well according to our lass.
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The perfect prep machine is a must have, we are still using the one we used on previous child and still perfectly fine, just remember to change the filters.
White noise works with our new baby as well as it did the previous, she's sleeping from 9pm-8am. We just have an Echo Dot and ask alexa for white noise and works a treat all night long.
White noise works with our new baby as well as it did the previous, she's sleeping from 9pm-8am. We just have an Echo Dot and ask alexa for white noise and works a treat all night long.
We're currently in the process of getting rid of all our baby stuff. .
We have a full travel system that cost us over £1k when bought new in 2016, that's now sitting in boxes taking up valuable space in our bedroom. Our youngest is now 2 and we have no need for any of it anymore as she tends to walk most places or we take the stroller. Been selling for 200 but no takers so far.
We have a full travel system that cost us over £1k when bought new in 2016, that's now sitting in boxes taking up valuable space in our bedroom. Our youngest is now 2 and we have no need for any of it anymore as she tends to walk most places or we take the stroller. Been selling for 200 but no takers so far.
100%. Biggest plain sight con ever.
Companies preying on new parents with the "you MUST get this or you're a bad parent" drivel. I see it a lot. Predatory and scummy tactics.
The thing is grand parents set themselves up for it. Like they feel good spanking their hand earn pension money on it, and you kinda go with the flow.
But we've been super happy with a 50 quid CityMini GT jogger thingy from Facebook Marketplace. The £1,000 system is in the shed unused.
We've just entered the teething phase. She's almost 6 months (next week) and we've just gotten used to her sleeping really well, usually in bed by 7:30pm and wakes up around 6am, but the last 2 nights have been testing.
She's a good kid other than that. I never thought I had it in me to be paternal. I think I made a post in this thread around August last year when we found out my partner was pregnant - I don't think I cam across like I was thrilled (I wasn't) but I'll be honest, she means everything to me. My partner often wakes up in the night with her on the understanding I'll wake up early with her and allow my partner to lie in. I can't even begin to put into words how much I love her first thing in the morning when she smiles at me. My partner went to a hen-do a few weeks ago and it was the first time I was alone with her. I was giving her a bath and then almost broke down crying because I realised how useless human babies are and she was dependent on me for everything and all she did was smile at me.
I hate what I've discovered about myself these last few months but I already can't imagine life without her.
edit: In terms of gadgets... We have this automatic bottle maker and I really don't know how I'd cope without it. Baby Brezza, it's worth every penny. For a Baby camera we just use a Blink camera and Alexa screen. We also have two carriers. An Ergo Baby carrier where she faces into my chest and also a BabyBjorn which faces out. My partner prefers the inward facing one whereas I prefer the front facing one.
We also have a Nuna Leaf Grow baby rocker. This thing is worth its weight in gold, in my opinion.
She's a good kid other than that. I never thought I had it in me to be paternal. I think I made a post in this thread around August last year when we found out my partner was pregnant - I don't think I cam across like I was thrilled (I wasn't) but I'll be honest, she means everything to me. My partner often wakes up in the night with her on the understanding I'll wake up early with her and allow my partner to lie in. I can't even begin to put into words how much I love her first thing in the morning when she smiles at me. My partner went to a hen-do a few weeks ago and it was the first time I was alone with her. I was giving her a bath and then almost broke down crying because I realised how useless human babies are and she was dependent on me for everything and all she did was smile at me.
I hate what I've discovered about myself these last few months but I already can't imagine life without her.
edit: In terms of gadgets... We have this automatic bottle maker and I really don't know how I'd cope without it. Baby Brezza, it's worth every penny. For a Baby camera we just use a Blink camera and Alexa screen. We also have two carriers. An Ergo Baby carrier where she faces into my chest and also a BabyBjorn which faces out. My partner prefers the inward facing one whereas I prefer the front facing one.
We also have a Nuna Leaf Grow baby rocker. This thing is worth its weight in gold, in my opinion.
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Welcome to the shooting blanks club! Best thing I ever did. Wife had all kinds of reactions to various birth control methods, so after 13 years of wrestling with bloody condoms I finally got to say goodbye to them. Just be sure you wait until you get the all clear from your sample.