Yup, she goes 3 days a week
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Yup, she goes 3 days a week
It got me a little too. Our little girl is 2 in March, I gave her extra cuddles last night when I found out. RIP
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Our eldest turned 15 in January. She has 3 more years at school and then off to University and it wasn't really until this Christmas break that I realised what a change that would be for her, for her younger sister, and for us. She wants to go to Australia for further study or maybe the States or, worst case, Europe, and is very strong academically and in sports (basketball and football would be particularly useful for scholarships in the US and her school is sizing her up for academic opportunities in parallel).
A lot can happen in 3 years but not having her around will be a huge change. I'm pre-devastated but also super proud of what she's already achieved and who she'll become. It just won't be in our house
A lot can happen in 3 years but not having her around will be a huge change. I'm pre-devastated but also super proud of what she's already achieved and who she'll become. It just won't be in our house
She’ll be back have you seen house prices and rent! On a more serious note just enjoy having her around the future is a long way off!Our eldest turned 15 in January. She has 3 more years at school and then off to University and it wasn't really until this Christmas break that I realised what a change that would be for her, for her younger sister, and for us. She wants to go to Australia for further study or maybe the States or, worst case, Europe, and is very strong academically and in sports (basketball and football would be particularly useful for scholarships in the US and her school is sizing her up for academic opportunities in parallel).
A lot can happen in 3 years but not having her around will be a huge change. I'm pre-devastated but also super proud of what she's already achieved and who she'll become. It just won't be in our house
They can be so different.Reading some of the posts here (although my kids are a both at school) it makes you realise how easy we had it! Either that or we're awful super strict parents...
My youngest Emily is 3 now she feels almost self sufficient compared to George (6).
George can't dress or undress, needs food cutting up help eating certain things. I'd say attention needs are 95% George, Emily gets 5% it's sad in a way and I'm sure she's staying to notice, starting to get her helping him dress and undress but he's with it enough that he doesn't really want help and gets frustrated with everyone helping him do things that Emily and others can easily do.
I know this is an extreme but I reckon even mobile differences can easily account for a lot of behavioural stuff.
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Yeah I think you're spot on with that. They all develop in their own ways and have their own idiosyncrasies. It's what makes them so wonderful and fun!
Does anyone else have "high requirement" children I think is the politically correct term. Our boys are just never satisfied with what they are doing for more than 5 minutes. They are 9 months old and starting to think about walking i.e can stand and move along things with support and they are just utterly draining. You have to watch them like hawks because they are both under the illusion that they can stand and walk unaided. They cannot. They see something they want and it becomes the only thing in the world. They get it and then a minute later they see something else.
I just want children that sit nicely on my lap and play with a toy sometimes
I just want children that sit nicely on my lap and play with a toy sometimes
Spent Friday night in A+E with the little one after she developed a fever of 40 and had refused to eat/drink for most of the day.
Got home about 4am Saturday morning after they said her obs were fine and it's worth trying to force some fluids in at home rather than admitting her straight away.
We all woke up about 10am and she was 90% back to her normal self and gagging for a drink... Kids are certainly never boring
Got home about 4am Saturday morning after they said her obs were fine and it's worth trying to force some fluids in at home rather than admitting her straight away.
We all woke up about 10am and she was 90% back to her normal self and gagging for a drink... Kids are certainly never boring
It's normal and as is with everything with children, it's a phase that they will move past and something else will come along that's probably more infuriating.Does anyone else have "high requirement" children I think is the politically correct term. Our boys are just never satisfied with what they are doing for more than 5 minutes. They are 9 months old and starting to think about walking i.e can stand and move along things with support and they are just utterly draining. You have to watch them like hawks because they are both under the illusion that they can stand and walk unaided. They cannot. They see something they want and it becomes the only thing in the world. They get it and then a minute later they see something else.
I just want children that sit nicely on my lap and play with a toy sometimes
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My son turned 12 a couple of weeks ago and while I'm so proud of him and the person he is becoming, despite struggling with anxiety and depression, and the difficulty of having started secondary school in September, I can't help but really miss the little boy that he was that wanted cuddles and enjoyed life so much. I really feel for kids growing up in this time when there is so much pressure from so many angles and so much to live up to, it must be so hard.
As I'm seeing him grow and get more independent, I'm so torn because it's great to see but I'm feeling less and less needed, which along with my partner of three years having ended out relationship at the end of November, has left me feeling rather empty and lonely, and I can only see that feeling growing as the years pass. I want to, and will be, there for lad always but I know it's going to be a struggle to feel ok with it as he needs me less and less.
As I'm seeing him grow and get more independent, I'm so torn because it's great to see but I'm feeling less and less needed, which along with my partner of three years having ended out relationship at the end of November, has left me feeling rather empty and lonely, and I can only see that feeling growing as the years pass. I want to, and will be, there for lad always but I know it's going to be a struggle to feel ok with it as he needs me less and less.
Just turn up and make sure he knows you're there for him.
Despite moving out from my home at 18, I still regularly needed my parents until my late 20s / early 30s for life and general maintenance advice (DIY repairs, car advice etc). Of course now I need them again for help with childcare
I get it though, my eldest turned 12 today and I get the same feelings of loss as he grows up too. We needed something from the supermarket this weekend for his birthday party but my wife and I were both busy with something, so he casually grabbed his cash card and walked to the supermarket himself to buy it (checking with me first of course).
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Phew!
And I don't know about you lot but I plan to keep my boys at their cutest age. Perhaps just after the terrible twos?
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True that, just such a time of change for me at the moment and it feels really lonely already so the decline of my neededness (definitely a real word) is hitting me quite hard.Just turn up and make sure he knows you're there for him.
Despite moving out from my home at 18, I still regularly needed my parents until my late 20s / early 30s for life and general maintenance advice (DIY repairs, car advice etc). Of course now I need them again for help with childcare
My mum paid for my windows a few months backJust turn up and make sure he knows you're there for him.
Despite moving out from my home at 18, I still regularly needed my parents until my late 20s / early 30s for life and general maintenance advice (DIY repairs, car advice etc). Of course now I need them again for help with childcare
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10 or 11?My mum paid for my windows a few months back
. I do make use of my parents for a bit of quiet time on a Saturday afternoon and leave the kids there.Yeah, I was gonna echo this. I'm 33 now - I definitely went through a phase from about 14-20 where I felt like I didn't need my parents as much but it all comes back around as you grow up.
In my 20's, my dad would help me to fix my car pretty regulary or I'd text my Dad asking how X or Y worked and he'd just turn up and help. My mum used to work at a bank so was SO amazing when it came to figuring out budgeting/loans/APR etc. when essentially I was in my early 20's without a scooby how anything really worked.
It's now gone in another direction where my Dad will call me to come and help sort out their home PC or my mum will be having a nightmare with her iPad. I'll go round, fix their stuff and they look after my daughter for the afternoon and everyone's happy!
My son will be 6 in the summer (Im 50) Im already dreading the day he doesnt want kisses and cuddles anymore, not without a fight anyway. I always used to say when he was younger " I cant wait until hes walking" or "I cant wait until hes talking" and I regret that now as time is just flying by