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Every child is different mine in order

Henry was fine night time feeds ended soon and he slept through lovely this parenting thing is easy

2 year gap

Freya She cried a lot but it was fine we survived

3 year gap

Matilda arrived she was fine until she started teething then for5 months life was a hell

Freya the return ( now 3 years old ) creepy night walker when matilda did sleep freya would not, we would awaken with her watching us and refusing to return to her own room

the combo killed up I went from staying up raiding with my warcraft clan / playing battlefield till 2 in the morning and up functioning for work as normal to going to bed at 9.30 and rising worse than I was before I went to bed


it took the best part of the year to recover the 5 months of Hell
 
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as for the TV we are still correcting Freya at 15 about using Americanisms

its = " Children " not "Kidz" that one really annoys

as for "The Holidays " urghhhhhhh
 
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as for the TV we are still correcting Freya at 15 about using Americanisms

its = " Children " not "Kidz" that one really annoys

as for "The Holidays " urghhhhhhh
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Kids it's interchangeable imo. It is annoying as seemingly most of the "influencer/waste of space" are American (not sure if that's linked to being annoying :p ), but it's when they come out with trash (as in the word) that bugs me.
 
My daughter will be 14 this year, dial back two years and I was her best buddy now.. "urgh OK dad" is the most I get out of her.

Still not sure what I'm meant to have done :D
 
So as my Son turned 2 in September, he had his 2 year assessment 2 weeks ago, and he can't make sentence's, so we've been forced to put him into nursery 2 days a week.

As I'm on 3 day weeks at work, we've opted to have him in on one of our leu days each, kind of feel bad, but at the same time, feel that even 1 2yr old can be draining and my mental health is suffering a bit as I just feel like I'm constantly on the go no stopping constantly cleaning etc.., I'm hoping the day he's in I'll be able to get house work done, bicycle maintenance done, odd jobs, get some extra miles in etc.. I even have the option of putting him in half 7 in the morning to 6pm, but this that would be cruel, I'm opting for 8am to 5pm.

I know I'm going to constantly feel guilty though. But I try to tell me its the best for him as well, he'll see other kids much more, maybe make some friends, who knows, learn to sit at a table perhaps, things we try in the house but end up failing badly.
 
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So as my Son turned 2 in September, he had his 2 year assessment 2 weeks ago, and he can't make sentence's, so we've been forced to put him into nursery 2 days a week.

As I'm on 3 day weeks at work, we've opted to have him in on one of our leu days each, kind of feel bad, but at the same time, feel that even 1 2yr old can be draining and my mental health is suffering a bit as I just feel like I'm constantly on the go no stopping constantly cleaning etc.., I'm hoping the day he's in I'll be able to get house work done, bicycle maintenance done, odd jobs, get some extra miles in etc.. I even have the option of putting him in half 7 in the morning to 6pm, but this that would be cruel, I'm opting for 8am to 5pm.

I know I'm going to constantly feel guilty though. But I try to tell me its the best for him as well, he'll see other kids much more, maybe make some friends, who knows, learn to sit at a table perhaps, things we try in the house but end up failing badly.
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I wouldn't feel bad, kids tend to love nursery as there's 100 more things to do there compared to at home - and seeing other kids and other adults is all hugely beneficial to them.

Our daughter is 16 months old - has been at nursery 5 days a week (8-5.30pm) since she was 9 months old and there are times that I have to bribe her to actually leave when I pick her up. She's eating with a fork and spoon (plus the variety of food she gets at nursery is incredible!), she sits at a table when she eats (and fastens herself in), started walking relatively quickly as she's surrounded by other kids who were walking and is doing great with her words and actually communicating.

It doesn't stop you feeling a little guilty about her being there but knowing that she's happy, she's having fun and she's looked after definitely helps - and then seeing the development and how quickly she's learning things is just a huge bonus.
 
willhub said:
So as my Son turned 2 in September, he had his 2 year assessment 2 weeks ago, and he can't make sentence's, so we've been forced to put him into nursery 2 days a week.

As I'm on 3 day weeks at work, we've opted to have him in on one of our leu days each, kind of feel bad, but at the same time, feel that even 1 2yr old can be draining and my mental health is suffering a bit as I just feel like I'm constantly on the go no stopping constantly cleaning etc.., I'm hoping the day he's in I'll be able to get house work done, bicycle maintenance done, odd jobs, get some extra miles in etc.. I even have the option of putting him in half 7 in the morning to 6pm, but this that would be cruel, I'm opting for 8am to 5pm.

I know I'm going to constantly feel guilty though. But I try to tell me its the best for him as well, he'll see other kids much more, maybe make some friends, who knows, learn to sit at a table perhaps, things we try in the house but end up failing badly.
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I look after a lot of children with developmental needs and it's really valuable to have them in nursery. Not only is it good for social development (particularly if an only child), I see a lot of children with language delay come on leaps and bounds once they start nursery.

On top of that nurseries are better at picking up developmental problems, collecting the evidence and starting referrals than trying to get the health visitors to do it.
 
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Perhaps my guilt over him spending this time in nursery will end up rewarding because if his speech comes on especially been able to make sentences it might mean he tantrums less, I feel a lot of time he gets frustrated and just runs backwards and forward between the gate and the window is because he can't tell us what he's actually wanting and we're guessing, sticking random stuff in his face, "is it a drink, is it a snack, is it the Dyson, is it the washer" etc...
 
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@Minstadave
Perhaps my guilt over him spending this time in nursery will end up rewarding because if his speech comes on especially been able to make sentences it might mean he tantrums less, I feel a lot of time he gets frustrated and just runs backwards and forward between the gate and the window is because he can't tell us what he's actually wanting and we're guessing, sticking random stuff in his face, "is it a drink, is it a snack, is it the Dyson, is it the washer" etc...
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If I was seeing someone with similar difficulties I'd be recommending they start nursery, I don't think you should feel guilty.
 
willhub said:
So as my Son turned 2 in September, he had his 2 year assessment 2 weeks ago, and he can't make sentence's, so we've been forced to put him into nursery 2 days a week.

As I'm on 3 day weeks at work, we've opted to have him in on one of our leu days each, kind of feel bad, but at the same time, feel that even 1 2yr old can be draining and my mental health is suffering a bit as I just feel like I'm constantly on the go no stopping constantly cleaning etc.., I'm hoping the day he's in I'll be able to get house work done, bicycle maintenance done, odd jobs, get some extra miles in etc.. I even have the option of putting him in half 7 in the morning to 6pm, but this that would be cruel, I'm opting for 8am to 5pm.

I know I'm going to constantly feel guilty though. But I try to tell me its the best for him as well, he'll see other kids much more, maybe make some friends, who knows, learn to sit at a table perhaps, things we try in the house but end up failing badly.
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Your kid will be WAY better off at nursery. Don't look at it as cost to give you time back, look at it as investment give your kid pretty much 9 hours of mental and physical stimulation. My girl is 3 and a half now and absolutely loves it. She sees her friends, she gets invited to birthday parties, she understands the move to school etc. Best money I have ever spent. Her social life is 10x mine now.

Also the kids often like to mimic other kids, and most nurseries have some form of hierarchy, so a lot of the behavioural stuff like table sitting will come for free.

They'll also eat anything thrown under them versus at home :D
 
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willhub said:
So as my Son turned 2 in September, he had his 2 year assessment 2 weeks ago, and he can't make sentence's, so we've been forced to put him into nursery 2 days a week.

As I'm on 3 day weeks at work, we've opted to have him in on one of our leu days each, kind of feel bad, but at the same time, feel that even 1 2yr old can be draining and my mental health is suffering a bit as I just feel like I'm constantly on the go no stopping constantly cleaning etc.., I'm hoping the day he's in I'll be able to get house work done, bicycle maintenance done, odd jobs, get some extra miles in etc.. I even have the option of putting him in half 7 in the morning to 6pm, but this that would be cruel, I'm opting for 8am to 5pm.

I know I'm going to constantly feel guilty though. But I try to tell me its the best for him as well, he'll see other kids much more, maybe make some friends, who knows, learn to sit at a table perhaps, things we try in the house but end up failing badly.
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Everyone else has already got you covered but just as a sense of reassuring that you're doing the right thing, another +1 from me.

Our daughter will be 2 in April (where does time go) and has been going to nursery since she was 10 months old. It was really hard at the start dropping her off but she looks forward to it so much. It's actually a bit insulting how much she loves the staff at nursery :D

She goes Monday-Thursday with Monday and Tuesday being half days (1330-1730) and Wednesday being a full day 0830-1730 and Thursday she is with my mum in the morning then nursery in the afternoon.

We had actually just been in conversation with them as they're moving her down to the 2 year old room early as they think she's now ready for it and she's been doing some settling in days downstairs. It's a conflicting feeling because we have children to raise them, not pay someone else to look after and raise them. Though our feeling bad lasts briefly until we see children of the same age who haven't gone to nursery and it's very evident which children go and don't go.

I genuinely believe it's in their best interests to go to nursery from a young age. The way they come on leaps and bounds is so nice to see and when you get a tapestry update my heart often melts.
 
Our 18 Month old does things that he only learnt from nursery. Such as when we say "dinner time" he goes to his little table and chair and sits down and waits.
When we say "nappy time" he will find his changing mat, put it on the rug and then lay down...

I have NO idea how they made him do this, however it's a blessing haha.

If only they had taught him "go to sleep".. we can dream though.
 
Our daughter is doing her first full week with the childminder this week at 9 months old but she's been doing 1 or 2 days a week for the last couple of months and loves it. Definitely loves the childminder more than us :o and you can see from the videos/pictures that she loves spending time with the other kids.
 
Daughter is into first year of school and it's going really well for her. This is mostly due to the nursery and how they got her more than ready for it.

Whenever she sees any of her nursery buddies who went to different schools the excitement is amazing. Her best friend from nursery is having her birthday party in a couple of weeks and it's pretty much the most exciting thing that will ever happen apparently.
 
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If only they had taught him "go to sleep".. we can dream though.
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I'm feeling a bit redundant at the moment. I really enjoy putting our daughter to bed as she usually has a nice cuddle with me, falls asleep and I put her into bed.

Last few weeks we'll be cuddling and she'll then point to her bed and asked to be put into it and just falls asleep immediately. I should be happy but a part of me is quite sad because I really look forward to those cuddles haha.
 
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