OcUK Dadsnet thread

Devrij · 25 Apr 2019 at 21:37

Droolinggimp said:
Regarding the Ocuks list of stuff we need and stuff that's not needed, I think it's a great idea..

We have two kids now, 4 and 1. Many times when their mum is wanting to get the next size up for them I always say just get a pack of 7 vext and 7 grows. All the same colour. The older lad. I just say 3 pairs of jeans, 1 tracky bottoms and 7 tshirts all black (hides spag bol stains better). 7 pairs of socks all same colour and same with briefs. I am a man of simple means. outfits do my head in, PJs I get our oldest to put on any combination but mum has to have him in sets.

So for the list:
cot
travel system, get the cheapest you can then once 6 months old get a stroller. Lighter, smaller, more convenient.
sleeping bag
wipes (lots)
nappies
Vests
grows
muslin cloths
no need for monitor unless you live in a mansion or out in the garden a lot
cheap £1 bottles from superdrug unless baby has issues drinking for them.
A plastic ball
quality street tin or plastic tupperware thing
usb cable
hotwheel cars

pretty much what our latest needed.

I gotta know: the last four?

Also, I'm gonna add

-car seat: don't worry about whether it expands up to fit them until they are 18. It'll be gross AF after a year or two. Priority ought to be how easily you can fit it into any car, and how easily you can get the lining off and back on.

MartinPrince · 25 Apr 2019 at 22:20

robj20 said:
I think we have had this topic before but. Do you leave your child in the car while you pay for fuel at the counter.
My scenario is that on my way home i have to pick up his prescription, so will be leaving him in the car for about 3 minutes in the car park.

What do others think of this.

I tend not to take the risk as opposed to my missus who is the opposite and just doesn't sense any potentially dangerous situation.

mjt · 25 Apr 2019 at 23:40

Devrij said:
I gotta know: the last four?

Also, I'm gonna add

-car seat: don't worry about whether it expands up to fit them until they are 18. It'll be gross AF after a year or two. Priority ought to be how easily you can fit it into any car, and how easily you can get the lining off and back on.

Really? Our car seats are pretty spotless, but then we do take the covers off (where possible) and wash them when needed. Plus the kids very rarely eat or drink the car. Priority ought to be safety. End of.

Droolinggimp · 26 Apr 2019 at 05:29

Devrij said:
I gotta know: the last four?

Also, I'm gonna add

-car seat: don't worry about whether it expands up to fit them until they are 18. It'll be gross AF after a year or two. Priority ought to be how easily you can fit it into any car, and how easily you can get the lining off and back on.

The last four are thing he loves to play with. You can get all the best toys bright shiny making lots of noises but its the simple things that entertain them. He loves hot wheel cars, he puts one in his mouth and crawls around with it. Plastic balls, he gets excited to see one. Tubs, something to bang on and look inside or put things in it. USB cable, he is always heading to my PC (on the floor)and after the usb cable dangling from it. I should really put it on my desk..

robj20 · 26 Apr 2019 at 06:25

MartinPrince said:
I tend not to take the risk as opposed to my missus who is the opposite and just doesn't sense any potentially dangerous situation.

I cant see how its any more dangerous than trying to carry him, as well as boxes of food and medicine. For that matter how is it any different than putting him to bed.

bigmike20vt · 26 Apr 2019 at 06:50

mjt said:
Really? Our car seats are pretty spotless, but then we do take the covers off (where possible) and wash them when needed. Plus the kids very rarely eat or drink the car. Priority ought to be safety. End of.

To be fair I think caring about safety is a given!.

Our little man is 3.5 now and is getting a little big for the seat in one of our cars so we are looking for a new seat.
He is just about big enough for a booster seat (still with head rest and side impact protection just that it uses the seatbelt instead of a 3/5 point harness.). Dunno whether to buy that or just mirror the seat on the other car which is much more like a big version of a baby seat

Devrij · 26 Apr 2019 at 13:31

mjt said:
Really? Our car seats are pretty spotless, but then we do take the covers off (where possible) and wash them when needed. Plus the kids very rarely eat or drink the car. Priority ought to be safety. End of.

Safety is obviously a given.

chroniclard · 26 Apr 2019 at 15:01

Hmm, anyone with older kids....boy starts secondary school in September, hes 11, they are already pushing for a £300 trip to France right at the start. Seems a bit young for a trip like that or am I just totally wrong in that respect. Not that comfortable letting him go to France on his own(yeah there will be lots of other kids and teachers etc). Not to mention its yet more cash down the endless pit of kids!

RoboCod · 26 Apr 2019 at 16:19

chroniclard said:
Hmm, anyone with older kids....boy starts secondary school in September, hes 11, they are already pushing for a £300 trip to France right at the start. Seems a bit young for a trip like that or am I just totally wrong in that respect. Not that comfortable letting him go to France on his own(yeah there will be lots of other kids and teachers etc). Not to mention its yet more cash down the endless pit of kids!

We went to France in year 7, it was brilliant

robj20 · 26 Apr 2019 at 16:20

George lost weight again. He's 14 months and still wearing some 0-3 month old stuff.

Kreeeee · 26 Apr 2019 at 16:31

chroniclard · 26 Apr 2019 at 16:38

Perhaps worrying unduly.....

RoboCod · 27 Apr 2019 at 12:47

robj20 said:
George lost weight again. He's 14 months and still wearing some 0-3 month old stuff.

I realise my response earlier (about my boy growing so big) was inappropriate now I see your circumstances. I apologise, I didn't clock in the thread what's happening. Sorry to hear you're enduring these challenging times.

Abraxaz1 · 27 Apr 2019 at 18:50

Well I think my daughter has officially entered the terrible twos, today she has been nothing short of a complete bitch.

Started off with not wanting any of her breakfast but instead stealing mine, yelling at everyone then pulling/throwing all her toys out of the box. She then decided to drink bubble liquid from the machine whilst my missus was emptying the bins, which of course made her throw up all her breakfast over my missus.

Next we took her to a living museum ( st fagans) thought she would like exploring and the animals. Nope screamed at us the entire time and when walking walked the opposite way. Then she screamed at us for a dummy( where trying to wean her off) until my missus gave in..

Then on the way home she refused to have a nap.

And on the drive launched her self out of her seat as soon as she was unbuckled. Crashed to the floor, grazed her knee and bit her tongue. Que new trip to a.e. and 3 stitches....

Welcome to day one of seven off, if this track record carries on one of us will be dead by the end of the week

theone8181 · 27 Apr 2019 at 20:09

Is it wrong that whenever me or the Mrs got sicked up on we just laughed? It's just one of those things. A but like when it's all nice and calm and then one of the kids is all for no reason with no warning.

Abraxaz1 · 27 Apr 2019 at 21:13

theone8181 said:
Is it wrong that whenever me or the Mrs got sicked up on we just laughed? It's just one of those things. A but like when it's all nice and calm and then one of the kids is all for no reason with no warning.

Well poppy has the ability to expel the same amount of sick/ poop of a small yak....

shes managed to fill one of my trouser drop pockets to the brim, after she waddles up to me and peaked in. Lucky my wallet was in that pocket.

Devrij · 28 Apr 2019 at 09:32

Don't worry mate, I feel your pain. Having had the last 12 days off with my wonderful wife and daughter, I'm quite looking forwards to going back to work! So far the best strategy for us has been just let her have her little strop (time out) and then she eventually comes in all smiles. Not cracked the dinner thing yet, as she always hops off her chair and gets distracted, and occasionally bathtime can be a bit trying. Out in public I just try to remove her from the situation so I can get her to run out of steam in a less embarrassing setting. That has often involved me wrestling a writhing 3yr old out while she screams "DON'T TAKE MEEEEE! STOP TAKING MEEEE!" in front of onlookers who don't know whether to smile knowingly or report an abduction.

I regularly get told that I'm not her friend anymore/she doesn't love me/etc any time I don't let her have what she wants, but she gets over it quickly and then I get to be her friend again.

Tldr; we just let her run out of steam with a bit of time out, or if she's just overtired, hang on until bedtime because you're just buggered.

RoboCod · 28 Apr 2019 at 14:19

Devrij said:
Don't worry mate, I feel your pain. Having had the last 12 days off with my wonderful wife and daughter, I'm quite looking forwards to going back to work! So far the best strategy for us has been just let her have her little strop (time out) and then she eventually comes in all smiles. Not cracked the dinner thing yet, as she always hops off her chair and gets distracted, and occasionally bathtime can be a bit trying. Out in public I just try to remove her from the situation so I can get her to run out of steam in a less embarrassing setting. That has often involved me wrestling a writhing 3yr old out while she screams "DON'T TAKE MEEEEE! STOP TAKING MEEEE!" in front of onlookers who don't know whether to smile knowingly or report an abduction.

I regularly get told that I'm not her friend anymore/she doesn't love me/etc any time I don't let her have what she wants, but she gets over it quickly and then I get to be her friend again.

Tldr; we just let her run out of steam with a bit of time out, or if she's just overtired, hang on until bedtime because you're just buggered.

I'm 21 years older than my two youngest siblings so I've had some practice in parenting. We have them stop over ours regularly. I'm a bit of a child myself and I don't like to lose "the game". By that I mean whenever they used to kick up a fuss and test my limits I'd never back down, I'm too petty to lose. I'd always delineate clear boundaries and rules and sat firm on "No" meaning "No". This was a struggle because their Dad would often contradict that and give in to them for a quiet life. When they threw a strop they'd be sent to their room to strop and eventually lose steam. It always ended up in them calming down, having a good little cry and then coming to me and apologising for their behaviour.

It didn't take long for me to establish the relationship I wanted with them though and they definitely respect my instruction or rules say. Now they're older they will listen to me and do as they're told. The struggle is definitely worth the reward.

mjt · 28 Apr 2019 at 18:27

bigmike20vt said:
To be fair I think caring about safety is a given!.

Our little man is 3.5 now and is getting a little big for the seat in one of our cars so we are looking for a new seat.
He is just about big enough for a booster seat (still with head rest and side impact protection just that it uses the seatbelt instead of a 3/5 point harness.). Dunno whether to buy that or just mirror the seat on the other car which is much more like a big version of a baby seat

We did that with ours just after he turned 3. We were a little skeptical with a high-back booster but he grew out of his rear-facing Concord as he’s just rather tall so we didn’t have a choice.
Ended up with a iZi Flex FIX i-Size.

Vidar · 29 Apr 2019 at 19:27

So my lad has just been diagnosed with ADHD and placed on meds. Anyone else have a child with this? Can you offer any advice?