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subbytna said:
Ah ha....I knew I wasn't alone :p

Any teeth your end yet? If not then strap yourself in fella, teething with twins is crazy lol. We used to do a wash just for their bibs...40+ in one go! :eek:

Drool central
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Not got any teeth showing as yet, but they're already starting to drool quite a lot! The amount of clothes we're getting through including bibs is ridiculous! We've even had to bin a few baby grows due to nappy overflow accidents :o The joys of taking them out of their bouncy chairs only to discover a streak of s*** smeared everywhere...
 
Ah yes, and when a foot gets loose while you're changing them and they start kicking it all over themselves. That's awesome fun. My girl seems to think it is anyway.
 
Devrij said:
Sorry to hear about that. Hopefully things are civil and she'll work with you a bit to help you get time together. My brother Skypes his boys every evening when they are with their mother, but for him it's just about making the time count and trying to keep up to date with school and their daily lives with Skype chats (although they mostly like to make faces at themselves when skyping)
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Fortunately things are civil and she has said that she wants me to be in his life as much as possible, so hopefully we'll be able to work things out and I'll be skyping the little monkey as much as possible etc.


Vidar said:
Mate depending on what your situation is with the ex, hopefully its amicable for the sake of your son and that you will be able to have a lot of interaction with him via things like Skype etc. It's amazing what you can become used to.

If its not amicable or you desperately don't want him to go, speak to a solicitor for legal advice and/or submit an application to court for an emergency or ex parte hearing where you can state your reasons for not wanting your son to move, at least in the interim the court is likely to restrict your ex partner from moving. The view of the court will likely be that by her moving she will negatively effect your sons relationship with you and that must be prevented, especially at such a vulnerable age. I had to go through a similar thing, fortunately for me my interactions with the ex where tenuous at best anyway and after what she'd done to me and the kids I had no qualms in derailing her plans.

What you must understand is if you go down this route it is highly likely that things between you and your ex will become toxic as she resents you for forcing her to stay.

You have to ask yourself what's best for your son. But if you have to fight to remain in his life, fight hard and do it by the book. It's a long road but ultimately worth it.
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As I mentioned above, it is amicable and hopefully will stay that way, I know it's going to be horrid when he goes but hopefully we'll have Skype etc and in time it will get less painful (it's not even happened yet but it will soon and I'm dreading it)

Devrij said:
E: also the cold water thing sounds good. There is literally nothing worse than realising you haven't sterilised any of your bottles just as your baby wakes up and starts crying. That is a long wait.
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Yep, tis a great thing to have, I was put onto it when my little man had to stay in the hospital for his first week and that's what they had in the hospital. You change the water and add a Milton tablet every night and it's sterile for the day, stick the bottles in there and after 20 minutes they're sterile and you just leave them in there so they're always ready.
 
Tunney said:
Those teetha sachets are an interesting product. Someone recommended them to us and swore blind that they worked. So, I was a bit bewildered to find that they claim to be a homeopathic pain remedy!

I did a bit more digging and I found out why: they're full of sugar. Sugar acts as a pain reliever for babies and that's why the sachets work.

I've steered clear because I don't fancy rubbing sugar into my son's gums. I may give in if things get significantly worse though.
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Camomile infused sugar :D
 
Just been for the 12 week scan for the first child we've ever had. Been married for 5 year and with my Wife for 17 year all in all. We had pretty much given up when it happened out the blue but I'm overjoyed with the news and cant wait to be a dad...finally!
 
Liquid_Entity said:
Ours has slept through the night since 3 month old. Hopefully it stays that way until he's at least 14 years old haha
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It won't ....

:o

My boy is 11 going on 18.

You can't stop the internet.... the only way is for you not to have any internet in your house.

I'll wait for the comments how everyone will be different will monitor etc........but you won't.... :D
 
Tunney said:
Those teetha sachets are an interesting product. Someone recommended them to us and swore blind that they worked. So, I was a bit bewildered to find that they claim to be a homeopathic pain remedy!

I did a bit more digging and I found out why: they're full of sugar. Sugar acts as a pain reliever for babies and that's why the sachets work.

I've steered clear because I don't fancy rubbing sugar into my son's gums. I may give in if things get significantly worse though.
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buy the teething rings ...

you put them in the fridge they are made of plastic with gel inside. We had a load of them and the cool the gums down when the little un' bites on them.

no danger of him/her biting through the plastic and they really work well.

Of course at the worse moments when they get a fever some calpol is necessary.
 
oldestgregg said:
Just been for the 12 week scan for the first child we've ever had. Been married for 5 year and with my Wife for 17 year all in all. We had pretty much given up when it happened out the blue but I'm overjoyed with the news and cant wait to be a dad...finally!
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Congrats mate, you'll be amazed how fast that 9 months goes.
 
oldestgregg said:
Just been for the 12 week scan for the first child we've ever had. Been married for 5 year and with my Wife for 17 year all in all. We had pretty much given up when it happened out the blue but I'm overjoyed with the news and cant wait to be a dad...finally!
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hey that's fantastic news congratulations to you and the wife.
 
Just welcomed my son into the world last week. Spent the last week in near panic, is he breathing? is he eating? is he pooping? I'm just beginning to realise what hard work this is.

He spent the first few nights at home feeding every hour, but that seems to have settled a little for now. So tired, and not looking forward to returning to work.
 
Expecting our first one at the end of November.

Got to say its pritty nerve wracking, never been around new borns.
Thankfully the missus has plenty pracice with nephews and I will soon pick it up.

Not really worried about fatherhood in general tho. Confident I will be better than most I see out there ha.

4d scans worth it? She wants it but not sure I do now.
 
branddaly said:
Just welcomed my son into the world last week. Spent the last week in near panic, is he breathing? is he eating? is he pooping? I'm just beginning to realise what hard work this is.

He spent the first few nights at home feeding every hour, but that seems to have settled a little for now. So tired, and not looking forward to returning to work.
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Haha I still occasionally check to make sure my girl is still alive and have those panic moments, so that doesn't really pass that quickly. You'll soon settle into a routine though, and just ask the midwives as many questions as you can when they come for those visits. Those first weeks are pretty tiring, and occasionally I will sleep in our spare room while the missus handles the baby so I can turn up to work a bit fresher. She can nap during the day, I can't!

markoboyo11 said:
Expecting our first one at the end of November.

Got to say its pritty nerve wracking, never been around new borns.
Thankfully the missus has plenty pracice with nephews and I will soon pick it up.

Not really worried about fatherhood in general tho. Confident I will be better than most I see out there ha.

4d scans worth it? She wants it but not sure I do now.
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Can't comment on the 4d scans, but the normal ones are pretty amazing. I had the same worries as I had never spent any time around babies and thought I would have no clue, but it's generally just a checklist of hungry, wet, tired, or wind if they are crying and you pick it up fairly quickly.
 
My Girl Megan is 4 months old now. First few weeks were a bit crazy, not really knowing which way was up or down but things have settled down now and we are in a routine.

I am very lucky as she has slept through the night since she was born. She usually goes to bed about 9PM and sleeps until 7AM. My Wife breastfeeds so I have also escaped having to make bottles so I am getting a good sleep!

I was a bit worried about changing nappies but it is no problem whatsoever. You get used to it very quickly and it's easy. Word of warning to any new Dads though, the first few nappies after the baby is born are interesting!

I would highly recommend getting nappies with the color changing line that indicates whether it is wet or not. Helps to easily rule out whether she needs changed or not when she starts crying.

Love being a Dad. Can be hard work but it is worth it.
 
Got a 7 year old girl and 3 year old boy.

Its coming to light that me little man is on the autistic spectrum, while not yet formally diagnosed (and its not necessary going to happen either), i kinda knew from 6months something wasn't quite right, he was developing at the same rate his sister did but took it as just being a boy but now its plain and simple he is missing a few processes.
My wife wasn't convinced and blamed his hearing and so fought to have grommets put in due to constant ENT infections & glue ear. Well 3 months later and little has changed. Both his speech therapist and paediatrician are suggestion he is on the spectrum.

its kinda weird, i couldn't care less about the autism and neither does MrsLizardKing as everything aside he is quite the happy little chap, the hardest bit is coming to terms that he will never have the life you hoped for. Essentially morning the child we never had.

the kicker for him, if he never does get formally diagnosed he will also miss out on funding and which means he will have to go through school with the same expectations as his peers.
 
markoboyo11 said:
Expecting our first one at the end of November.

Got to say its pritty nerve wracking, never been around new borns.
Thankfully the missus has plenty pracice with nephews and I will soon pick it up.

Not really worried about fatherhood in general tho. Confident I will be better than most I see out there ha.

4d scans worth it? She wants it but not sure I do now.
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I'm sure you'll be great. It's an amazing experience. I have a two year old son, I am unfortunately in the situation where my ex is restricting access but I have been involved as much as I can.

We went for the 4D scans. If she wants it.. I wouldn't disagree (too much stress :rolleyes:). I didn't want to do it at first but I made her pay half for it. It's a good experience, as long as your unborn isn't hiding his face like mine was!

Also got a free t-shirt out of it :D
 
Need some advice, if any possible! lol

My daughter is 21months tomorrow, she's always been an iffy sleeper tbh. But last few months we've been able to put her to bed round 7-7:30 at night. We put her in her cot when she's sleepy and just walk out. She then sleeps through till round 6-7am.

Now we are into week 3, and this lovely sleep pattern has gone haywire! She going down later now, round 7:30-8 (not a problem) but we can no longer leave her to drift off in cot, we have to stay by her side till she nods off otherwise she creates holy hell! And this sleeping through until the morning has gone as well. She now wakes 2:30-3am every morning and is taking easily at mos 3 hours to go back to sleep. We've tried things to get her back off, food/warm milk, letting her sleep in our bed and nothing seems to help her drift off fairly quick etc.

So im looking for advice, does anyone have anything we could try, as now the lack of sleep for both of us is really getting to us.
 
maun said:
Need some advice, if any possible! lol

My daughter is 21months tomorrow, she's always been an iffy sleeper tbh. But last few months we've been able to put her to bed round 7-7:30 at night. We put her in her cot when she's sleepy and just walk out. She then sleeps through till round 6-7am.

Now we are into week 3, and this lovely sleep pattern has gone haywire! She going down later now, round 7:30-8 (not a problem) but we can no longer leave her to drift off in cot, we have to stay by her side till she nods off otherwise she creates holy hell! And this sleeping through until the morning has gone as well. She now wakes 2:30-3am every morning and is taking easily at mos 3 hours to go back to sleep. We've tried things to get her back off, food/warm milk, letting her sleep in our bed and nothing seems to help her drift off fairly quick etc.

So im looking for advice, does anyone have anything we could try, as now the lack of sleep for both of us is really getting to us.
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My advice, which you may want to ignore as some will say it's not nice, would be to lay her in bed, kiss her goodnight, and leave her to it. She's going to scream because she's learned that doing so makes you stick around. So if you can do it without feeling guilty, do it.

We had to do it with ours around the same age. He'd throw merry hell, we'd check on him every 15 minutes or so to make sure he was actually alright, and eventually he'd calm himself down. The objective is to get them used to getting themselves off to sleep.

Before bed it's a pretty firm regime of dinner, play, bath (use Johnsons Bedtime stuff), book, bed. I would say don't even entertain the idea of going up to them, talking to them, getting them out of bed, and NEVER let them in your bed!

It might sound cruel to some, but he goes to bed at 7pm and if we don't have to get up for work at 6.30, he'll sleep in to 7 or sometimes 8.
 
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