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[theone8181]

I want to join that club but not sure how likely the doctors would let me. 32 with 1 child. I'm very confident I don't want any others and like you, my partner doesn't get along well with birth control.

Just use the 2 bricks method, but watch out for your thumbs . I'd imagine as your over 30 and slready have a child that should help. I think I was early 30s when I had it done, although I've got 2 kids.

 

[Junglist]

OK, so I'm now 6 months and 2 weeks into the fatherhood gang. Now considering I never wanted kids and was on the tip of my tongue to say 'what you gonna do?' when we found out about the pregnancy I have to admit, this is the best thing ever.

HOWEVER... What I don't like and what no one warned me about was the flood of emotions that would be coming my way. I think I've cried more in the last 6 months than I have at any point in my life since being a kid myself. I've gone from being fairly emotionless into a damp squib of a man. If she does something really basic, I cry. If I watch something on TV... I well up and cry. If I look at her whilst she sleeps... you got it... I cry.

When will this emotional rollercoaster end?! Be nice in your replies.. I'll probably cry.

 

[Deleted User 298457]

OK, so I'm now 6 months and 2 weeks into the fatherhood gang. Now considering I never wanted kids and was on the tip of my tongue to say 'what you gonna do?' when we found out about the pregnancy I have to admit, this is the best thing ever.

HOWEVER... What I don't like and what no one warned me about was the flood of emotions that would be coming my way. I think I've cried more in the last 6 months than I have at any point in my life since being a kid myself. I've gone from being fairly emotionless into a damp squib of a man. If she does something really basic, I cry. If I watch something on TV... I well up and cry. If I look at her whilst she sleeps... you got it... I cry.

When will this emotional rollercoaster end?! Be nice in your replies.. I'll probably cry.

lol wtf man, can't help with that. You been drinking breast milk by accident?

 

[Junglist]

I SAID BE NICE!

But seriously I have no idea what's going on haha. The last time I got like this was when I stopped smoking (The end of Toy Story 4 had me in bits at the time) but this just feels like I have a backlog of emotions trying to find the way out! What makes it annoying is that I'm aware it's happening and how stupid it is but it still happens!

 

[regulus]

OK, so I'm now 6 months and 2 weeks into the fatherhood gang. Now considering I never wanted kids and was on the tip of my tongue to say 'what you gonna do?' when we found out about the pregnancy I have to admit, this is the best thing ever.

HOWEVER... What I don't like and what no one warned me about was the flood of emotions that would be coming my way. I think I've cried more in the last 6 months than I have at any point in my life since being a kid myself. I've gone from being fairly emotionless into a damp squib of a man. If she does something really basic, I cry. If I watch something on TV... I well up and cry. If I look at her whilst she sleeps... you got it... I cry.

When will this emotional rollercoaster end?! Be nice in your replies.. I'll probably cry.

Can't say I have that, but I've become more sensitive to hearing about kids suffering or being hurt. Especially little girls as my daughter is 3yo and I cannot even imagine ...

But crying, nah, not even during birth. Maybe I'll get that emotional breakthrough one day. Suspect I'll cry for a month solid with black tears to get it all out.

 

[Yaayuh!]

OK, so I'm now 6 months and 2 weeks into the fatherhood gang. Now considering I never wanted kids and was on the tip of my tongue to say 'what you gonna do?' when we found out about the pregnancy I have to admit, this is the best thing ever.

HOWEVER... What I don't like and what no one warned me about was the flood of emotions that would be coming my way. I think I've cried more in the last 6 months than I have at any point in my life since being a kid myself. I've gone from being fairly emotionless into a damp squib of a man. If she does something really basic, I cry. If I watch something on TV... I well up and cry. If I look at her whilst she sleeps... you got it... I cry.

When will this emotional rollercoaster end?! Be nice in your replies.. I'll probably cry.

I really didn't see becoming a dad was going to be the best thing ever either. Love coming home to my son excited and showing me things etc, even when he's grumpy, the feeling/instinct to find out what's wrong and to make him happy, I love it.

As for the emotions, I suffer from anxiety and depression, have done for years, I got medicated when my son was around 6 months old, it has helped me no-end. I'm not saying you're the same, but just different for me so hard to answer your question. Might be worth having a chat with your GP anyway?

 

[chroniclard]

Emotional yes, tears...only once but that was due to boy being in hospital and it being fairly serious.

 

[Junglist]

I may be overselling the crying as it's not like i'm bawling my eyed out but it feels like people are frequently cutting onions around me lol. I didn't cry when she was born though, this is all a new development

 

[gort]

I don't get people saying a baby is "the best thing ever." The first couple of years are far from it, especially when it's the first one and it's a massive shift from a child-free life.

As for the blubbing and flood of emotions..... nope! Maybe I'm not in touch with my feminine side!

 

[alchal]

I don't get people saying a baby is "the best thing ever." The first couple of years are far from it, especially when it's the first one and it's a massive shift from a child-free life.

As for the blubbing and flood of emotions..... nope! Maybe I'm not in touch with my feminine side!

I think so, extremely hard at times but it is.

I never wanted kids at all and now I have had our little one, loved my care free life style and women chasing etc etc ,little one came and ended it all, no more crazy nights out etc etc...well I regret not having done it so much sooner!

BEST THING EVER.

 

[Deleted User 298457]

I may be overselling the crying as it's not like i'm bawling my eyed out but it feels like people are frequently cutting onions around me lol. I didn't cry when she was born though, this is all a new development

Just go with the flow man. The toughest guy I know balled his eyes out for his entire wedding. Not sure there is any particular reason folk are triggered.

 

[uncle_rufus]

I don't get people saying a baby is "the best thing ever." The first couple of years are far from it, especially when it's the first one and it's a massive shift from a child-free life.

As for the blubbing and flood of emotions..... nope! Maybe I'm not in touch with my feminine side!

Haha so much this... it goes:

First few months - survival mode, you can't really think or feel anything much just gotta get by and as you say deal with a big shift

Between then and around a year - awww look how cute he/she is, this is the best thing ever parenting is so easy and fun!

1 year - 18 months or so - this is awesome although hmm they do seem to get a little frustrated now and again, must be just a phase...

2 years until ??? (where we currently are at 2 years + 2 months) - my god when will this nightmare end?!?!

(half joking of course, but terrible 2s are absolutely no joke and you don't realise this until they are upon you)

 

[kitkat9933]

Bit of of an objective question but for a newborn baby in the first year, what sort of per month cost should I budget? So ignoring things like childcare and big one off costs like furniture and doing up nursery etc. Thinking things like nappies, wipes, disposable bags, food, some clothes now and again etc. Is £450 a month suitable from a budgeting perspective?

 

[ChrisD.]

Bit of of an objective question but for a newborn baby in the first year, what sort of per month cost should I budget? So ignoring things like childcare and big one off costs like furniture and doing up nursery etc. Thinking things like nappies, wipes, disposable bags, food, some clothes now and again etc. Is £450 a month suitable from a budgeting perspective?

£450 a month is way more than you need. Stick that in a Junior S&S ISA.

 

[kitkat9933]

£450 a month is way more than you need. Stick that in a Junior S&S ISA.

We would put aside savings separately, more thinking just to budget

 

[theone8181]

We would put aside savings separately, more thinking just to budget

The initial cost will be high while you "tool up", but if you go down the breastfed route it's practically free. We found grandparents were always buying clothes for them so that's the other thing. Nappies are the only thing you won't be able to avoid, but as they get bigger usage will go down. Maybe 100 nappies a month to start with?

 

[dazzlaa]

OK, so I'm now 6 months and 2 weeks into the fatherhood gang. Now considering I never wanted kids and was on the tip of my tongue to say 'what you gonna do?' when we found out about the pregnancy I have to admit, this is the best thing ever.

HOWEVER... What I don't like and what no one warned me about was the flood of emotions that would be coming my way. I think I've cried more in the last 6 months than I have at any point in my life since being a kid myself. I've gone from being fairly emotionless into a damp squib of a man. If she does something really basic, I cry. If I watch something on TV... I well up and cry. If I look at her whilst she sleeps... you got it... I cry.

When will this emotional rollercoaster end?! Be nice in your replies.. I'll probably cry.

It never ends, but the rollercoaster changes as time goes on. Embrace the changes as they come but try to enjoy every moment while they're young. They grow up wayyyy too fast. As they grow, remember they are their own person, not a copy of yourselves. Respect that. (Talking from experience).

As for the emotions, ride the storm brother

 

[Droolinggimp]

Our youngest is now 2 years 3 months and shares a room with our 4y8m old. A few days ago we decided to turn his cot into its cot bed option. Now all it is to him is a bloody game at bedtime. Opening draws, hiding under his or his brothers bed. Nightmare. He will soon get fed up of messing around and hopefully we will hear the end of the brother shouting at bedtime. "LUCAS IN MY BED, LUCAS GET OFF MY BED"

Its pretty funny hearing him get ****** off at his brother but these terrible twos are no joke. Constantly into everything he is not meant to be, eg, plants pot, blinds, pulling stuff out of cupboards etc. He is now not using his high chair as he would just scream and throw his food away, so now, he is having breakfast dinners on his lap with his brothers. There will be a routine in place soon for everyone to eat at the table but that will have to wait till after xmas.

Is half term over yet....

 

[dl8860]

OK, so I'm now 6 months and 2 weeks into the fatherhood gang. Now considering I never wanted kids and was on the tip of my tongue to say 'what you gonna do?' when we found out about the pregnancy I have to admit, this is the best thing ever.

HOWEVER... What I don't like and what no one warned me about was the flood of emotions that would be coming my way. I think I've cried more in the last 6 months than I have at any point in my life since being a kid myself. I've gone from being fairly emotionless into a damp squib of a man. If she does something really basic, I cry. If I watch something on TV... I well up and cry. If I look at her whilst she sleeps... you got it... I cry.

When will this emotional rollercoaster end?! Be nice in your replies.. I'll probably cry.

I think I've had a similar experience really. Having a family changes your perspective on things and what is important. I watched the film Coco for the first time on a morning when I got up really early with my eldest son and it was just the two of us watching it (think he was about 18mo) and simply couldn't not cry at the end.

And in general I'm more easily tipped into an emotional state by people or even fictional characters doing profound or brave things, does sound strange but what you've said definitely resonates with me.

I think even the first time my eldest used the loo by himself (me watching him from the end of the corridor) I was so proud I was close to crying haha. It's all good stuff really.

 

[dl8860]

Our youngest is now 2 years 3 months and shares a room with our 4y8m old. A few days ago we decided to turn his cot into its cot bed option. Now all it is to him is a bloody game at bedtime. Opening draws, hiding under his or his brothers bed. Nightmare. He will soon get fed up of messing around and hopefully we will hear the end of the brother shouting at bedtime. "LUCAS IN MY BED, LUCAS GET OFF MY BED"

Its pretty funny hearing him get ****** off at his brother but these terrible twos are no joke. Constantly into everything he is not meant to be, eg, plants pot, blinds, pulling stuff out of cupboards etc. He is now not using his high chair as he would just scream and throw his food away, so now, he is having breakfast dinners on his lap with his brothers. There will be a routine in place soon for everyone to eat at the table but that will have to wait till after xmas.

Is half term over yet....

Our age gap is very similar with our boys, and this sounds very similar. We have ours in separate rooms but considering when/if to put them in together. The youngest we converted from cot to bed at about 2 years exactly, and that was a fair amount of difficulty similar to what you said, but I guess a bit easier because not sharing a room at that point.

Eldest was in a large cot until 3.5, was never a problem.