OCUK Safe Space

I'm genuinely autistic, except the first psych said 'how can you have autism if you have a degree?' and then the second said 'We're not saying its not autism, but you said you were hit as a child so its more likely PTSD'.

3 mental health nurses have said they think I 100% have higher functioning autism, and my current support worker said she could tell in less than 5 mins of talking to me that I have it, but psychs always want to play their 'YOU'RE NOT THE DOCTOR, I AM THE DOCTOR SO I SAY NO!' card.

Unfortunately they won't even look at my online posts which are most definitely beyond fluffed up.
 
there is a fine line between having autism/assburgers and just being an ahole though, I took an online test once and got a 32 which is just on the spectrum, then you watch youtube vids on the subject
You tend to think yes and yes to things that are said but are you maybe just twisting the proposed situation to meet your needs?
I've always wished for a piece of tech that you could plug your brain into to let people see and understand your life and thoughts though.
 
Reality|Bites said:
there is a fine line between having autism/assburgers and just being an ahole though, I took an online test once and got a 32 which is just on the spectrum, then you watch youtube vids on the subject
You tend to think yes and yes to things that are said but are you maybe just twisting the proposed situation to meet your needs?
I've always wished for a piece of tech that you could plug your brain into to let people see and understand your life and thoughts though.
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Is the world ready to know the inner workings of a man who uses "assburgers" unironically?
 
Its funny to me how so many people on this forum think its fine for employment laws to be broken, and its my fault for claiming and winning compo.

Like there's a whole law that says that disabled applicants need to given a guaranteed interview if they meet the minimum criteria for an employer that has chosen to OPT INTO the disability employment scheme.

So if I'm refused an interview for any employer that advertises the guaranteed interviews for disabled scheme, all I need to do to win easy money is prove that I had met the minimum criteria.

Ignorance of the law is not an excuse, and the disability employment scheme is completely optional for an employer to offer anyway.
 
Also just over an hour ago I took my prescription pain meds for my pfizer jab getting too painful.

I haven't taken it in months and now I am high and my brain is swimming.

I hope theres no negative interaction with the vaccine later though.

Also I just found out from getting my vaccination thst I should be getting higher rate mobility on my PIP not standard.

I need to use hearing aids / bluetooth earpiece to hear my GPS / maps instructions while traveling, which I never noticed before because I normally never travel. That counts as a disability orientation device for 12 points.
 
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There is something that makes me feel uneasy about this thread. It’s hard for me to put my finger on it. But I’ll try.

The thread is mostly likely created ironically, but nevertheless the immediate and seemingly only reaction is a wave of fairy aggressive dissent to the notice of a safe space.

Let’s look at the rules for the safe space again:

In the OCUK Safe Space™, you can:

Share your feelings and emotions about common day-to-day issues
Support your fellow forum members
Offer condolences, words of understanding and compassion towards others on the boards
Offer light, humorous and witty, uplifting comments
Voice anything that is hurting or offending you. You can alternatively discuss what is making you feel positive
Agree with other posters - if you disagree on a discussion point, remain silent or leave the thread

You should not:

Disagree or argue with another poster
Criticise someone else's point of view
Use disparaging, offensive or harsh language
Use nicknames, euphemisms or name-calling
Discuss topics related to sex, religion or politics
Use microaggressions
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Is it really so inherently awful?

I’m particularly conscious that in a book that I read, which is an extremely emotionally heavy book dealing with psychology and healing, it eventually goes onto suggest that one of the principal ways of healing and becoming rounded is to express all of your views and emotions and have them acknowledged by someone without being challenged in any way. As in, it is actually a good thing to happen, as it unlocks turbulent parts of yourself and promotes inner healing. This is a book that principally deals with intense ‘no laughing matter’ trauma (which as far a I can recall I am lucky enough to not have experienced) and even comes with a warning not to read it unless you are a professional or unless you have been directed to by a professional or have support available.... so some really deeply provoking and challenging stuff in there for sure. So powerful that I’m actually not going to mention it’s name because is it potentially dangerous to those that are vulnerable (as the book itself infers). And it did, I guess, suggest the merits of a safe space, in a sense.

I suppose there is a time for robustness and also a time for healing. I would agree that one should not shelter themselves from the realities in the world, but there is a known benefit from being able to be heard without being challenged.
 
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Ironic or not, people online in general sperg out over the slightest things they disagree with.

My general existence and issues seem to be rage fuel for some of the users here, but to be honest I enjoy seeing them seethe over nothing.
 
montymint said:
That's what speakers corner is meant for - more civil discussion about more difficult topics. It's got stricter moderation and a requirement to post.
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Hahahaha have you been in the br*x*t thread lately?
Actually I think that is their safe space...
 
Nitefly said:
There is something that makes me feel uneasy about this thread. It’s hard for me to put my finger on it. But I’ll try.

The thread is mostly likely created ironically, but nevertheless the immediate and seemingly only reaction is a wave of fairy aggressive dissent to the notice of a safe space.

Let’s look at the rules for the safe space again:



Is it really so inherently awful?

I’m particularly conscious that in a book that I read, which is an extremely emotionally heavy book dealing with psychology and healing, it eventually goes onto suggest that one of the principal ways of healing and becoming rounded is to express all of your views and emotions and have them acknowledged by someone without being challenged in any way. As in, it is actually a good thing to happen, as it unlocks turbulent parts of yourself and promotes inner healing. This is a book that principally deals with intense ‘no laughing matter’ trauma (which as far a I can recall I am lucky enough to not have experienced) and even comes with a warning not to read it unless you are a professional or unless you have been directed to be a professional or have support available.... so some really deeply provoking and challenging stuff in there for sure. So powerful that I’m actually not going to mention it’s name because is it potentially dangerous to those that are vulnerable (as the book itself infers). And it did, I guess, suggest the merits of a safe space, in a sense.

I suppose there is a time for robustness and also a time for healing. I would agree that one should not shelter themselves from the realities in the world, but there is a known benefit from being able to be heard without being challenged.
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No laughing matter is a great name for this safe space sub. Good shout.
 
BallistixOnZ490 said:
Ironic or not, people online in general sperg out over the slightest things they disagree with.

My general existence and issues seem to be rage fuel for some of the users here, but to be honest I enjoy seeing them seethe over nothing.
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That's another time you've insulted neurodivergents. This may be a safe-space-under-discussion but I'm calling you out on that.
 
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BallistixOnZ490 is using the old trick of turning a thread unrelated to him into a thread about him. It's just attention-seeking and best to ignore him.

Nitefly said:
Is it really so inherently awful?
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No, it's not at all. The main complaint about Safe Spaces is that they are irreflective of the Real World®, and in the Real World® people will challenge you and this challenge is useful to help you grow and develop as a person.

However, a Safe Space is useful if is it not defined as somewhere which represents the challenges of the Real World® but which is just separate from them. A place where one can guarantee one won't be judged or criticised. It's a place to be able to speak up and speak freely without negativity or recrimination.

Even at work we have a Wellbeing Room - does this mean that the Real World® has comfy chairs everywhere, bouncy squishy stress-balls and colouring books around every corner? No, but we can create places which make us feel good so we can avoid, and recover from, a lot of the horrors out there.

As you've pointed out, this can be therapeutic and the main reason why a lot of people won't tell others what they're feeling, as in 90% of the time, is because they're scared of the reactions they'll get. If one can guarantee there will no negative reactions, such places can go towards improving the mental health of people.

Another reason why there is such wild dissent to such things is because it challenges the status quo. If things have been like X for a long time, Y is inherently thrown out, but most of the time it's just the change itself that people reject, rather than what is changing. The irony is that things have to change in order to develop: if they don't develop, they risk irrelevance.

Yes, I started this thread ironically but, given some of the responses here, I would support one on OCUK because this place can be toxic at times. This thread could even be a place to thrash out the concept before one is created at a later date.
 
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