Office romances

Dani · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:20

Never dip your pen in company ink

thats just a saying though. I've seen office romances work out, I've also witnessed the absolute cringeworthy atmosphere when they don't.

The crux of this is - she's spoken for. Girls can be friendly without being attracted to someone. Scratch that - men AND women can be friendly to the opposite sex without wanting to do a horizontal dance.

She's a lovely friendly girl and you enjoy her company, leave it at that.

Tummy · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:22

^TANK^ said:
Because most people don't react to well to a slimy wet floppy steaming ****, making a move when said male fully acknowledges the girl in question is in a full blown relationship!

Not all relationships are happy on either side and are going to last.

^TANK^ · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:23

Tummy said:
Not all relationships are happy on either side and are going to last.

Then wait for them to finish the relationship, then go for kill. Or risk getting a flower shaped brick to the side of the head.

Tummy · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:25

^TANK^ said:
Then wait for them to finish the relationship, then go for kill.

Not really, sometimes things need a little push.

Only danger is that they work together. I've seen relationships flourish and some end bitterly and horribly with work related romances.

Tummy · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:26

^TANK^ said:
Then wait for them to finish the relationship, then go for kill. Or risk getting a flower shaped brick to the side of the head.

Funnily enough, not everyone resorts to violence.

^TANK^ · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:27

Tummy said:
Funnily enough, not everyone resorts to violence.

Thats the gamble you take when ****ing with someones relationship.

Tummy · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:29

^TANK^ said:
Thats the gamble you take when ****ing with someones relationship.

No, not really.

I think it's a sad indication of the times we live in and the type of people that populate this country that people resort to violence. It's barbaric.

^TANK^ · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:37

Tummy said:
No, not really.

Yes really, if someone was to try and split me and my girlfriend up in the manner you are purposing, I would guarantee severe consequences to that person!

Tummy · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:40

^TANK^ said:
Yes really, if someone was to try and split me and my girlfriend up in the manner you are purposing, I would guarantee severe consequences to that person!

I think that's a pretty sad thing to say, is it really worth jail? Really worth potentionally ruining your life?

No disrespect TANK, but relationships come and go. The special ones don't leave you

Xandos · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:43

In that case you're an animal.

It's really sad when men who have lost the respect of their women feel the need to go and beat up the new guy who may not even have known about them... And even if they did know so what? It's the girl that chose to, he didn't force her. So congratulations Tank, you're an unsophisticated animal.

On topic, My current girl of two years was a phd placement at my job, and I was teaching her how to do motion capture stuff... It was quite fun, the sneakiness and all... Having a manager ask if you could spend the day with the new girl to get her acquainted when you shared breakfast that morning... Wouldn't change it.

Though, in a way it didn't really matter as she was only ever going to be there for 6 months.

Back on topic again, you need not to fall in love with someone who has a boyfriend just because they talk to you, when they have little choice as you sit next to them for their whole working life...

Ahleckz · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:43

I agree with Tummy. If someone tried to have a go on my girlfriend then I'd be flattered. I trust her that he wouldn't get away with it so I don't see why I'd have to lamp him. If he did get his leg over, then fine. That says much more about our relationship than it says about him. Severely beating someone up because they tried to crack onto your girlfriend is crazy talk and screams of insecurity.

Tummy · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:46

Ahleckz said:
I agree with Tummy. If someone tried to have a go on my girlfriend then I'd be flattered. I trust her that he wouldn't get away with it so I don't see why I'd have to lamp him. If he did get his leg over, then fine. That says much more about our relationship than it says about him. Severely beating someone up because they tried to crack onto your girlfriend is crazy talk and screams of insecurity.

Pretty much, when I go out and guys at the bar try and chat up my girl, it's just a massive ego boost when she comes back and sits on my knee and with me.

Relationships are complicated, but trust plays a big part. I've had a fair few relationships, some good, some bad. Some cheated on me, some grew apart and some just didn't work out.

Those that cheated on me, it just said more about the type of woman I thought she wasn't, yeah, don't get me wrong, it's soul crushing when you find out, but did I want to hurt the guy that did it? No, not really. I just felt really down and upset for a while.

You live and learn though, move on. Time heals. I'm certainly not going to go to jail over something so petty.

Xandos · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:51

I certainly wouldn't let it go if an angry boyfriend assaulted me either, and given that you know them it would be easy enough to find out who it was and report it to the police, make a big deal of it etc. Dunno how these things work but I'd maybe try going civil as well.

Tummy · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:52

I think it would be quite easy to get them arrested and charged.

It's all very petty and people need to see the bigger picture.

^TANK^ · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:53

Tummy said:
I think that's a pretty sad thing to say, is it really worth jail? Really worth potentionally ruining your life?

No disrespect TANK, but relationships come and go. The special ones don't leave you

My girlfriend of almost ten years is my world/rock! If she wanted to leave me then thats just something I would have to swollow and deal with. Except she not part of my soul I'm not so sure about. If it was because of another cancerous human beings involvement, then I would be ruined, an empty vessel on this **** stained earth.

So to answer your question yes its worth it in my jaded opinion.

Xandos · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:57

Can't you see that it would be your fault or your ladies fault though? The guy has absolutely nothing to do with it... You can't just lash out at the world because you don't get what you want. As said, take it as a compliment to you if they hit on her, and a compliment from her when she doesn't bite.

If she does, why aren't you beating her up instead of the other poor sap that had nothing to do with it? Or yourself for putting her in the position where she wants to stray?

^TANK^ · 25 Nov 2011 at 00:58

Xandos said:
In that case you're an animal.

Yes I can be pretty volatile, animal like with aggression hence why I got into weight training.

Ahleckz said:
I agree with Tummy. If someone tried to have a go on my girlfriend then I'd be flattered. I trust her that he wouldn't get away with it so I don't see why I'd have to lamp him. If he did get his leg over, then fine. That says much more about our relationship than it says about him. Severely beating someone up because they tried to crack onto your girlfriend is crazy talk and screams of insecurity.

Yes again I'm very insecure don't have much confidence.

Tummy · 25 Nov 2011 at 01:00

^TANK^ said:
Yes I can be pretty volatile, animal like with aggression hence why I got into weight training.

Yes again I'm very insecure don't have much confidence.

You don't have to do weights, I mean, don't get me wrong, using weights and looking after yourself is good.

You could try something like running too, or boxing?

Everyone has insecruities. I try not to project my insecruities on to other people. I understand that can be hard though.

Xandos · 25 Nov 2011 at 01:02

^TANK^ said:
Yes I can be pretty volatile, animal like with aggression hence why I got into weight training.

Yes again I'm very insecure don't have much confidence.

Well, the first step to self-improvement is knowing your flaws. A good man is a man who is actively trying to better himself.

^TANK^ · 25 Nov 2011 at 01:13

Xandos said:
Well, the first steps to self-improvement is knowing your flaws. A good man is a man who is actively trying to better himself.

Wise words.

Over the years I have had quite a few bad experiences and have unfortunately become bitter, jaded and full of hate. In all seriousness I really wasn't meant for this world.