Office romances

You can't stop how you feel about someone just because ethics tells us not to. What will be will be.. If it turns out she likes you enough in return to make the changes necessary then so be it. As cruel as it might be it's just part of life.

As for office relationships, most just tend to be quick lustful affairs because for some, work and home are discreet two separate instances of their life's.. Just because one get on well with a colleague, it doesn't mean a relationship that can be made outside.

Having said that, the company I work for has about 6 couples.. so obviously something in the water :)
 
There are a handful of really hot women at work, sadly the hottest (easily the most attractive woman I have ever seen in real life) left to go work for McDonalds recently, doh!

That said, I've never fallen for someone I've worked with, small crush on a manager back in 2003 aside.
 
As someone whose girlfriend was the subject of one of these office crushes, just stay the **** away mate. If her boyfriend is someone like me and he finds out bad things will happen.
 
^TANK^ said:
Thats the gamble you take when ****ing with someones relationship. ;)
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I agree with Tank. Whether it's a sad indictment on the times and how people can't deal with an aggressive streak, you have no idea what the other bloke's capable of, especially if you don't even know he exists.

There is a chance that you might open your front door and get a bunch of fives.

Whether you like it or not, there are jealous people out there, and if you try it on with a girl who has one of those boyfriends, there's a chance you might get a smack in the mouth.
 
Rossuk89 said:
I was wondering how many people have had experience with office romance. I'm asking because I'm falling for this girl at work who already has a boyfriend and I'm trying my best not to like her but I fail miserably..I'm afraid I'll end up liking her too much and it will be a bit difficult to see her everyday at work (she works on the desk next to me).

I'm guessing office romances are a bad idea? :confused:
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Had a few when I was working for a big energy provider when I was younger (17-20). Was fun back then but don't think I would go down that road at this point in my career.

Ahh the memories... good times.
 
Put yourself in the other chaps shoes.

Dont ruin other peoples relationships. If SHE wants to cheat on her boyfriend with you then let her initiate the first move.

If not stay well out of thier business.
 
^TANK^ said:
Leave her well alone Rossuk89 she is already spoken for! Serious question now? How would you feel if someone was making a move on your girlfriend when they fully acknowledged she was dating you? Hopefully you'll back off and just keep things on a friends only basis, otherwise I hope her boyfriend catches on to your advances towards her and presents to you a wicker basket full of kittens and puppies wrapped in a big pink bow!
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I disagree with this sentiment. It's totally self defeating! If you really like someone and don't do anything about it, then nothing would happen. If she ditches her old partner for him, then he has won the competition.

Moral of the story is that if you get broken up with for someone else, you either weren't good enough or weren't suited.

Sure it's not in any mans interest if I start making subtle moves on their girl, but it's a competition and I'm not taking myself out of the race on some notion that she's spoken for!
 
Nitefly said:
I disagree with this sentiment. It's totally self defeating! If you really like someone and don't do anything about it, then nothing would happen. If she ditches her old partner for him, then he has won the competition.

Moral of the story is that if you get broken up with for someone else, you either weren't good enough or weren't suited.

Sure it's not in any mans interest if I start making subtle moves on their girl, but it's a competition and I'm not taking myself out of the race on some notion that she's spoken for!
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Then that makes you a cretin. :p
 
I'm conflicted...

1) Chase her and if she says no then it means she's obviously devoted to her other half and that in itself is a good sign that she's a good girl.

2) Chaser her and she succumbs and leaves the other guy for you... however, what's not to say she won't do the same to you?

3) Leave her be out of respect of her relationship

4) She still flirts heavily with you but doesn't want to leave her man, but is "open minded" - again, keep clear, would you want to be the "other" guy?

The thing is of course if you like her then it's hard to think about missing out on the opportunity - however sometimes patience can be just as good, waiting for the right time - if her relationship looks stable then frankly even if she likes you, you don't know the depth of her relationship.

Is this really worth the hassle? We've all missed opportunities in the past, and had "what if" moments, but it's not a healthy way to exist - however you do "know" when you have met someone if it's going to work... it's your call.
 
it's not a competition though Nitefly, that's someone's life you're about to mess around with - if she's flirting then it might indicate she's not happy but don't force it.
 
Nitefly said:
I disagree with this sentiment. It's totally self defeating! If you really like someone and don't do anything about it, then nothing would happen. If she ditches her old partner for him, then he has won the competition.

Moral of the story is that if you get broken up with for someone else, you either weren't good enough or weren't suited.

Sure it's not in any mans interest if I start making subtle moves on their girl, but it's a competition and I'm not taking myself out of the race on some notion that she's spoken for!
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Fair point, all's fair in love and war.
 
krooton said:
Then that makes you a cretin. :p
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loltim said:
it's not a competition though Nitefly, that's someone's life you're about to mess around with - if she's flirting then it might indicate she's not happy but don't force it.
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Why? That's such broken logic!

Oh I know, I'll pass the opportunity to be considerate to some other random man. How about noooo - I'm number one, and if I can charm an amazing girl to be with me, then her ex-boyfriend was doing it wrong.

I think freefaller has a good analysis in his last post.
 
My views aren't as extreme as Nitefly. I'll happily crack onto a girl that has a boyfriend, though if she clearly isn't interested then I'll quickly back down and not push the issue.
However, I'm a massive flirt. I flirt with absolutely everyone, my friends, my friends mums, the checkout women at supermarkets. For me it's just about having a bit of a laugh and a giggle with other people. However, that doesn't mean that I want to jump into bed with every girl that I have a laugh with. I'm more than capable of having female friends and not wanting to bed them.
I think many blokes associate a bit of flirting with an outright admission that the girl wants to sleep with them and that is wrong.
 
Nitefly said:
I disagree with this sentiment. It's totally self defeating! If you really like someone and don't do anything about it, then nothing would happen. If she ditches her old partner for him, then he has won the competition.

Moral of the story is that if you get broken up with for someone else, you either weren't good enough or weren't suited.

Sure it's not in any mans interest if I start making subtle moves on their girl, but it's a competition and I'm not taking myself out of the race on some notion that she's spoken for!
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So by that logic, if some guy took your girl of a long term relationship you'd just sit back and say 'Ok, he won the competition'?
 
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