Office romances

Tummy said:
You don't have to do weights, I mean, don't get me wrong, using weights and looking after yourself is good.

You could try something like running too, or boxing?

Everyone has insecruities. I try not to project my insecruities on to other people. I understand that can be hard though.
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I haven't lifted weights in over a year, I have really got into trekking and kickboxing.
 
I've been where the OP is and it's not a nice place, falling for a girl and not knowing how she feels about you sucks at the best of times but when you know she's waking up next to someone else its just hellish.

I'll be brutally honest though and say the OP's girl subconsciously or not knows what's she's doing, me for example am currently in a relationship of 3 years and I'd never even think to even trade numbers with a female colleage let alone text them on a daily basis even if my feelings for that colleage were stricly plotonic, I just wouldn't do it.

Even in my experience the girl in question didn't seem like 'that type' but it was still said to me by another female co worker that she probably was enjoying the extra attention she was getting from me and thus knowingly or not was leading me on. Looking back now I still can't quite believe that there weren't any feelings for me from her side but who knows? I have after all just proved that I as a guy wouldn't trade numbers with a female co worker even if there was zero attraction.

Getting back to the OP though I'd go for it with her, if she shoots you down depending on your age chances are you won't both still be at the same firm 2/3 years down the line anyway (again using my own personal experience)
 
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I met my ex in the office we both worked in. it didnt end well at all.

Though that was more down to him being violent than whre we worked!
 
Ok there is nothing wrong with an office romance, in fact a large number of people meet their life partners at work. If this girl is flirting with you, its probably because she is in need of attention, now this may not go anywhere - she may just be looking for a confidence boost, but in my limited experience if they are overtly flirting, it usually means that they aren't 100% happy with the current boyfriend set up.

Now if you are the sort of person to try and take advantage of this you have to be very sly, make her see that you are fun and care free, make her feel like she is wanted (basically become the opposite of everything he is doing wrong). build up your suggestive flirtation (to avoid the dreaded 'lets just be friends' game killer) and you will probably end up getting past the just friends stage.

However, it now gets rough, she will be split between you both and you will end up having to ignore the fact that she is still in love with him for a while. Often you will end up getting hurt as she will likely go back to him (unless you have played it like a pro).

My advice would be to find someone who is single, but you can't help the way you feel.
 
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Yes, I've had office romances. Not here, at another place I worked at. Good-looking ones, as well. But they're not a good idea, office romances. It's like *****ing on your own doorstep.

I've had loads of offers here, but I go 'no way, distracting'. And that's actually one of the major arguments against letting gay men into the army, and I haven't got a problem with that, right, a gay man's not gonna put me off - I can look after myself. But if you're in battle is he gonna be looking at the enemy or at me, going "Ooh... he looks tasty in his uniform"?
 
Zefan said:
And that's actually one of the major arguments against letting gay men into the army, and I haven't got a problem with that, right, a gay man's not gonna put me off - I can look after myself. But if you're in battle is he gonna be looking at the enemy or at me, going "Ooh... he looks tasty in his uniform"?
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ASSUME THE PRONE POSTION! :D
 
Would you mind if the guy that sat next to your girlfriend started hitting on her?

Just don't do it. It's not a nice thing to do. It wont end well. It wont be worth it. Find a nice single girl and mingle with her :)
 
Kali81 said:
but in my limited experience if they are overtly flirting, it usually means that they aren't 100% happy with the current boyfriend set up.
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Any examples of 'overtly flirting'?


@ the OP: has she shown any interest towards you?
 
You need to find a new girl to obsess over, my friend. You have "one-itis" and the only cure is to shamelessly chase other girls. She is not "the one", and there are plenty of other hot chicks that would probably be prettier and nicer and singler. Go find one.
 
Zefan said:
Yes, I've had office romances. Not here, at another place I worked at. Good-looking ones, as well. But they're not a good idea, office romances. It's like *****ing on your own doorstep.

I've had loads of offers here, but I go 'no way, distracting'. And that's actually one of the major arguments against letting gay men into the army, and I haven't got a problem with that, right, a gay man's not gonna put me off - I can look after myself. But if you're in battle is he gonna be looking at the enemy or at me, going "Ooh... he looks tasty in his uniform"?
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Get in that hole soldier! :D :D :D
 
Zefan said:
Yes, I've had office romances. Not here, at another place I worked at. Good-looking ones, as well. But they're not a good idea, office romances. It's like *****ing on your own doorstep.
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I think you must be going wrong somewhere if a relationship you have can be even remotely compared to taking a **** :confused:
 
Kali81 said:
Zefan you're comments are shocking, someones sexuality has nothing to do with how good they are at their job.
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Everyone's entitled to their views, and he hasn't been aggressive about it, he's genuinely concerned that he might be being checked out rather than being supported! It's not surprising seeing as he's sooo sexy! :cool: :D
 
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