Office romances
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Pardon?
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You make it sound like a pack of wild wolfs fighting for male supremacy
as above. but if my wife left me for another man.. I'd be upset and angry but it's something I'd have to accept and maybe look closer to home as to why she felt the need to stray away in the first place. Maybe it wan't to be.. We all go through stages.. Stronger and longer lasting ones are those that face these situations head on.
If you were with a girl, and some other fella cracked onto her and took her from you, you'd just sit back and accept it?
I may have misinterpreted your post a few above!
personally I'd steer clear out of respect, in my eyes there is an unwritten 'guy code' by which you don't do such things, I go by that because I don't want it ever done to myself.
Definitely no fairytale where that's concerned
I really don't get people who go around thinking they can steal away people who are already attached. It's pathetic really.
I think part of these office things are because people are too lazy to get themselves about outside of work in order to meet people, so they fixate on someone in the office who is currently forced to spend time with them, and to a certain extent forced to be nice to them.
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Nitefly, what is she's married/engaged? Just curious 
Nitefly, what is she's married/engaged? Just curious
I bet he's never lost a girl to another man and would sit in a room crying if it ever happened to him
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So you've never taken a liking to someone at work.. willingly or otherwise?
Well, well you break it down that's not far from the truth really. All men are in competition with the other for the best girls, like it or lump it, that's the truth. Except for gay men.You make it sound like a pack of wild wolfs fighting for male supremacy
Define cracked onto her! Recently I was in a club with a girl and this man wouldn't leave her alone, I told him to bog off and rightly so (I won
). Going up to a girl who is literally with another at that instant is a rather desperate tactic.If I had a girlfriend and I could tell some other man was giving her the eye, then I'd do my damn hardest to make her know how amazingly awesome I am - naturally I'd take a strong disliking to the other man because we are in competition. To be honest I think it's mostly a non-issue because I haven't been in a relationship crap enough where I've needed to keep an eye on the person I'm dating!
If my partner were to leave me for such an intruder then I'd be upset and if I couldn't win her back, I'd just have to move on, better myself, be less crap and try my luck again with someone else.
Hahaha, trickyNitefly, what is she's married/engaged? Just curious
I think it's worth adding in here that it's not in my intention to start affairs or sleep with people who are spoken for. But I am going to show an interest in people that I like. I think it's harder to feel that way for someone engaged or married - they are deeply committed and they are less likely to have busy eyes.... but if you really think you like each other that much, then I guess it's possible to get across subtle intentions.
I would. Although I wouldn't put it like that. The fact is your wife/gf has left you. Whether it was for another guy is irrelevant.
All you can take away from it is A) you need a better partner and/or B) be a better partner.
Absolutely this.
It works, where I work some dude was having it off with this girl for years, got married to another women, broke up with her less than 3 months after to be with this girl he had been having it off with for years, now he is engaged to said girl while having it off with a fair few other girls he works with.
Guess it works for some. I have had an office romance before, was cute and enjoyable while it lasted.
Nah man, it's all about the basic animalistic instincts as at the end of the day that is really what we are at heart.
Guess it works for some. I have had an office romance before, was cute and enjoyable while it lasted.
Nah man, it's all about the basic animalistic instincts as at the end of the day that is really what we are at heart.
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And if the guy was just putting on a show to get in her pants, pretending to be a better partner than you, then dumps her after a month?
You end up screwed over, she ends up screwed over, and he just gets some pasty.
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If someone takes your partner it is everyone's fault.
Your fault for being a bad partner (not always, some guys/girls are just jerks)
Your partners fault for succumbing to temptation and/or not talking to you about any issues they have with your relationship.
The other parties fault for trying to tempt a taken person.
That said if someone took my girlfriend I would be pretty narked off that she had lied to me for the last 6 years.
Your fault for being a bad partner (not always, some guys/girls are just jerks)
Your partners fault for succumbing to temptation and/or not talking to you about any issues they have with your relationship.
The other parties fault for trying to tempt a taken person.
That said if someone took my girlfriend I would be pretty narked off that she had lied to me for the last 6 years.
Yes I have found people at work attractive, however I have never become fixated or infatuated with them.
I would consider dating someone from work if they were up for it too but I would be up front about it and make sure there was no boyfriend/fiancee/husband involved from the start. If there was someone else involved I would leave it at that and move on to the next lucky lady
If I found out that the girl was being bullied/smacked around/badly treated by their boyfriend or something then I might try to intervene if I really liked them, but generally I respect my fellow man until they do something to lose that respect. It's just basic manners and social skills that your parents should instill in you.
Also you've gotta think, if this girl will leave her current bloke for you that easily what's to stop her leaving you for the next bloke easily in the near future. Personally I look for a bit more loyalty in a woman than that, and find that a more attractive trait in a long term relationship than someone who would leave her boyfriend for the random flirt in the office.
Also I suppose it depends what you're looking for, if it's a one night stand or bit of fun you're after I could understand it a bit more, but personally for me it wouldn't be worth the aggro, both in the office and from the girl's boyfriend. I'd still make sure they were single in this case.
Fair play to him. Standard lad behaviour tbh
However, if your girl is prepared to sacrifice your relationship for a guy like that, she isn't worth sticking with (unless for casual pasty smashing)
Then the girl would be an idiot!
That's just it though, depending on what they are doing they might not be at fault! If another man has charmed her away, you either weren't paying attention or weren't exciting enough for her.
Whilst I agree with much Nitefly says, and I have questioned Tank on getting so angry if someone takes his girlfriend I've found it very hard to get over an ex that I felt someone else had stolen. I think it's very easy to say you'd accept it and move on but in reality I imagine many, many people would find it very hard and wouldn't be as level headed as they suggest. I knew that I wasn't very level headed and was stupid when me and my ex ultimately broke up. Though I didn't take it to the extreme Tank would!