opinions please

[Privateer]

Thanks everybody.

 

[Privateer]

Unless hes an abusive type (which it doesnt sound like he is) then I cant see what the problem is. You should be happy that your ex is happy, or is it that you havent moved on and dont want her to be with anybody else, least of all a mate of yours.

Shes probably not had it easy being a single parent (even if youve been helping out its still not the same as two parents bringing up children together) and now the children are a bit older she wants a bit of time for herself and for someone to love her.

Wimp or not I think the bottom line here is that you havent really gotten over her and cant stand the fact that shes moved on.

I'm old school on certain things, I believe Andy should have asked me my intentions.

 

[Privateer]

You where going to beet up a guy for daring to go out with a woman you split up with 6 years ago?

Were your anger issues part of the reason she left you?

the woman is my ex wife and mother of my kids and no she left for health reasons and moving in is different to dating.
my kids privacy is totally wrecked.

 

[knip]

I'm old school on certain things, I believe Andy should have asked me my intentions.

Well maybe as he knows you, he knows you would have reacted like this and was worried about telling you. In this case it shows his concerns were justified.

 

[knip]

and moving in is different to dating.

I would imagine that they havent just woken up one day and decided to randomly move in together, they have been seeing eachother for a while and this is the next logical step.

 

[Tefal]

my kids privacy is totally wrecked.

What? So if you'd got the kids in the divorce you'd have stayed single for the next 18 or so years?


Do you expect him to be peeping on them or going through their stuff? How is their privacy ruined :/

 

[Slinwagh]

Quite frankly who your EX wife of six years is with is none of your business.

However your children are your concern and this is the angle you should be looking at this from.

 

[Privateer]

What? So if you'd got the kids in the divorce you'd have stayed single for the next 18 or so years?


Do you expect him to be peeping on them or going through their stuff? How is their privacy ruined :/

my kids used to get changed for school watching telly in the living room, ages are important, 6 years ago at ages of 4 things were very different.

 

[KaHn]

my kids used to get changed for school watching telly in the living room, ages are important, 6 years ago 4 year old are very different.

Oh get a grip, they are at the age now where they won't get changed infront of anyone, let alone their mams new boyfriend. You are trying to find something wrong and their isn't anything wrong.

You are coming across as a pleb and I don't think you mean to but still. Grow up.

KaHn

 

[Tefal]

my kids used to get changed for school watching telly in the living room, ages are important, 6 years ago at ages of 4 things were very different.

You dodged the question of whether you'd have dated/got a new gf/new wife etc.


Also they're 10 and 11 I doubt they will be getting dressed in front of their mums boyfriend.

 

[Privateer]

You dodged the question of whether you'd have dated/got a new gf/new wife etc.


Also they're 10 and 11 I doubt they will be getting dressed in front of their mums boyfriend.

I had a G/f for 2yrs, 2 years later and In my book a GF of mine is not the same as a live in boyfriend.

Jesse's other bf didn't bother me.

 

[knip]

Also they're 10 and 11 I doubt they will be getting dressed in front of their mums boyfriend.

Or even their mum to be honest. My 7 year old god daughter stays over sometimes and even she sometimes goes into the bathroom to get dressed away from me.

 

[Tefal]

I had a G/f for 2yrs, 2 years later and In my book a GF of mine is not the same as a live in boyfriend.

So if you'd have got the kids, you'd have never again lived with another woman?

 

[Privateer]

So if you'd have got the kids, you'd have never again lived with another woman?

I think females and males are different, I think different toilets indicate that, still my original ask has been answered.

 

[Tefal]

I think females and males are different, I think different toilets indicate that, still my original ask has been answered.

riggght. So it's ok for you to get a new girlfriend or wife. Just not her?

You sound like a child.

 

[Privateer]

riggght. So it's ok for you to get a new girlfriend or wife. Just not her?

You sound like a child.

i didn't say that, her other bf's were fine in fact one is now a mate, its Andy moving in, ill get used to it.

 

[Tefal]

i didn't say that, her other bf's were fine in fact one is now a mate, its Andy moving in, ill get used to it.

So what was all that tripe about privacy then?

And about live in boyfriends, being different.

You're happier with strangers being around your kids than a man you know?

 

[Privateer]

So what was all that tripe about privacy then?

And about live in boyfriends, being different.

You're happier with strangers being around your kids than a man you know?

Privacy, My kids can no longer get changed in the living room in case Andy walks in
.

 

[semi-pro waster]

So what was all that tripe about privacy then?

And about live in boyfriends, being different.

You're happier with strangers being around your kids than a man you know?

If relationships and feelings could be deconstructed to the level of cold hard logic then it would be so much easier but somewhat unfortunately they don't always correspond as you think they should.

 

[Amnesia]

I think females and males are different, I think different toilets indicate that, still my original ask has been answered.

i do agree with you on that point but lol @ coming to GD for advice.